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SEPTEMBER 16-22, 2015 UCW 19 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM ADVICE GODDESS Wuthering Fights My friend says that you only find out who somebody truly is when you break up with them. He suggests that I pick a few fights with anybody I'm dating so I can see their true colors. Is this really a wise idea? — Skeptical If you really want to see what a person's made of, after goading them into a fight, you might do a lung capacity test, like by holding them down and trying to drown them in a bathtub. Though it seems an obviously bad idea to pick petty arguments, your friend has a point — that you don't find out who somebody really is when the most pressing question they're asked is, "Do you need a few more minutes to look at the menu, monsieur?" What comes out in the early stages of dating is temperament more than character. In social psychology, temperament is basically what "flavor" a person is — introverted or extraverted, loud or quiet, happy or glum. Character is values-driven behavior — meaning whether a person's likely to do what's right as opposed to what's easiest. (Like if there's a landslide, do they try to save you or just wave goodbye?) Character is mostly revealed in two ways: over time and through stress. To speed up the character revelation timetable, do challenging activities together — the sort in which "party manners" are hard to maintain: Camp. Go on a high-stakes scavenger hunt. Go on a juice fast. Go on a juice fast while camping. Who a person really is can't help but come out when they're in the middle of the woods with you, they haven't eaten solid food in a week, and a hiker walks by with a bag of Doritos. (It's the little things that count — like how they lovingly brush that telltale orange dust out of your hair before the cops come.) Copyright AMY ALKON WEEKLY HOROSCOPES NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD Muslim clerics complain of the commercialization of the holy city of Mecca during the annual hajj pilgrimages, but for Pope Francis' visits to New York, Washington, D.C. and Philadelphia in mid-September, shameless street vendors and entrepreneurs already appear to be eclipsing Mecca's experience. Merchants said they'd be selling, among other tacky items, mozzarella cheese statuettes of the pope ($20), a "pope toaster" to burnish Francis' image on bread, a Philly-themed bobblehead associating the pope with the movie boxer Rocky, local beers Papal Pleasure and YOPO (You Only Pope Once) and T-shirts ("Yo Pontiff!" and "The Pope Is My Homeboy"). The Wall Street Journal quoted a Philadelphia archdiocese spokesman admitting that "you kind of have to take it in stride." [Wall Street Journal, 8-26-2015; Washington Post, 8-24- 2015] Florida's Best Courtroom In May, suspect David Riffle, charged with trespassing (after shouting "religious proverbs" at patrons of the Hard Rock Casino in Hollywood, Florida), greeted Broward County judge John "Jay" Hurley at his bail hearing by inquiring, "How you doin', a--hole?" Unfazed, Hurley responded, "I'm doing fine. How are you, sir?" After listening to Riffle on religion a bit longer, Hurley set bond at $100. In August, talking to Judge Hurley from jail via closed circuit TV, arrestee Susan Surrette, 54, "flashed" him as she tried to prove an alleged recent assault. The self-described "escort" and "porn star" ("Kayla Kupcakes") had lifted her shirt to reveal bruises. (Her bond, also, was $100.) [WPLG-TV (Miami), 5-13-2015] [WPTV (West Palm Beach), 8-21-2015] Bright Ideas A Chinese woman identified only as Zeng was detained and stabilized at Beijing Capital International Airport in August after being found dazed on the floor at a boarding gate. She had attempted to fly with a bottle of expensive cognac (Remy Martin XO Excellence) in her carry-on — a violation of Chinese regulations barring liquids over 100 ml (the cognac was 700 ml, selling for about $200 in the United States) and was presented with the ultimatum to give up the bottle or miss the flight. She decided to drink the contents on the spot (but was subsequently declared too drunk to board). [South China Morning Post, 8-24- 2015] COPYRIGHT CHUCK SHEPPARD ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, explore a new way of thinking and keep an open mind. Maintain energy and enthusiasm about a new project. Your energy will inspire others to get moving. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 You may need to get a little pushy to get what you need, Taurus. Don't overdo it, but don't hesitate to insert yourself into certain situations this week. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 This is a good week to share your positive thoughts and hopes with others. It's advantageous to have as many people on your side as you can. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 Cancer, you have many things to do in the coming days, but you can still manage to have fun along the way. Schedule some rest and rejuvenation once the week has passed. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 If you learn something new this week, it very well may be something important, Leo. Stay attuned to the things going on around you, so you know when to act. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Getting your point across will be difficult this week, Virgo. Take a patient approach and give others the time to explain their points of view before sharing your own. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 You are still in love with that special someone after all of these years, Libra. Share your good fortune with others and you may inspire some new relationships in the process. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Scorpio, it may be difficult to avoid conflict this week, but do your best to smooth over the situation. Try not to escalate any encounters and add fuel to the fire. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Sagittarius, give something frivolous a try this week. You may find it takes your mind off of other things and restores some of your natural joviality. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, someone is proud of all you have accomplished. Don't feel badly about bragging a little about the things you have done. It's good to also be proud of yourself. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Aquarius, your generosity knows no bounds this week. All that you do unselfishly will come back in spades. Keep up your charitable efforts. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Pisces, if things seem a little bit confusing this week, take some time to sit and reflect. The answers will come to you eventually. Amy Alkon Chuck Sheppard