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April 16, 2014

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DILBERT Scott Adams PEARLS BEFORE SWINE Stephan Pastis PICKLES Brian Crane BABY BLUES Jerry Scott & Rick Kirkman GET FUZZY Darby Conley ZITS Jerry Scott & Jim Borgman SHERMAN'S LAGOON Jim Toomey ARGYLE SWEATER Scott Hilburn BIZARRO Dan Piraro DEAR CAROLYN » I met a man who was a year out of a decades-long marriage, and we became seriously, passionately involved, and discussed marriage. I was the first person he dated after he and his wife split. After almost two years, he broke up with me rather than work on our problems, and immedi- ately started dating oth- ers, settling in with one quickly. Now, seven months later, he says he is still in love with me and wants to talk about resolving our problems and getting back together. The problem is he won't break up with his current girlfriend (whom he tells me he does not love), or tell her he's talking to me. He doesn't want to risk los- ing her in case we decide we can't work things out, but I feel it's unethical to talk behind her back. Am I wrong about this? Is there a way forward for us? — Getting Back Together DEAR BACK TOGETHER » This guy is using his current girlfriend as a bedwarmer. If he'll dehumanize one person to serve his own selfish desires, then he'll dehumanize you. Tell him stringing people along is despicable and stop taking his calls. Forward only works if you're not pointed toward a ditch. DEAR CAROLYN » My sister told me that she thought my co-workers were Tai- wanese and Korean based on X and Y behaviors. They were actually from Vietnam and Hong Kong, respectively. She told me my friend who did an Iron- man race must have Ob- sessive Compulsive Disor- der because all people who participate in Ironmans do. I told her: "You haven't seen his bathroom." She gave my husband a book for Christmas about intro- verts because she thinks he is one. I truly think she is unaware of how she comes across. She thinks these are real observations she is making and that her as- sessments are completely true. What can I say to let her know that her percep- tions do not translate to universal truths? — Annoyed Sister DEAR SISTER » I realize your sister's labeling habit inevitably veers into one -ist or another, with side trips into "judgmental" and "cuckoo bird." This will sometimes hurt, of- fend or just mystify others, which in turn would affect her socially. But seeing it as your responsibility to break her of this habit risks turning you into a milder version of her — one who reduces people to a set of traits and declares herself an expert on them. (Ahem.) Instead, stick to case- by-case responses to opinions you find prob- lematic. If you're close enough — which the fact of your letter suggests you aren't — you can cut straight to, "You do realize how bonkers that sounds, right?" Otherwise, play it straight: "If someone tagged my ethnicity based on X behavior, I'd find that offensive." Woman must see that this old flame isn't worth rekindling Carolyn Hax Ask Carolyn Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. Sudoku Instructions: The object is to place the numbers 1 to 9 in the empty squares so that each row, each column and each 3x3 box contains the number only once. Answer to Previous Puzzle Celebrity Cipher By Luis Campos Instructions: Celebrity Cipher cryptograms are created from quotations by famous people, past and present. Each letter in the cipher stands for another. NEA Crossword Aries (March 21-April 19) — Don't cut corners when dealing with legal, financial or medical matters. Take the time to fully understand what's expected. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — You need to be at your best when dealing with loved ones. Show patience and care, and listen attentively to everyone's concerns and feelings. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Don't risk your position by entering into a relationship with a co-worker. Inappropriate re- marks, no matter how innocent, could cost you dearly. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You will feel better about your- self by making a small personal improvement. Even though you may be reluctant, changes will turn out better than expected. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Your family may feel that they are no longer a priority in your eyes. Curtail the number of hours you spend working and spend more time close to home. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Professional changes will work out in your favor if you focus your energy on work and present your accomplishments with confidence. Don't rely on others to hand you the spotlight. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Your superiors will be impressed with the way you handle a crisis at work. Your grace under pres- sure and your professionalism will put you at the top of the list when promotions are available. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Stimulate your senses today. Increase your knowledge by studying various philosophical or self-awareness practices. Checking out different attitudes and points of view will help you relate to others. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — A solid moneymaking opportunity will present itself. Careful research and investiga- tion will provide the insight you need to take full advantage of the situation. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Your popularity will increase if you listen attentively to friends and colleagues. An invi- tation to a social event will open several promising doors. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Jealousy in the workplace could lead to damaging ru- mors. Someone is likely to have an ulterior motive. Keep your personal life private to avoid an unpleasant confrontation. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Your unique abilities are not being used to their full potential. Investigate other job markets, and network with former co-workers or clients. Consider making a change in direction. Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol WEDNESDAY, APRIL 16 Wednesday, april 16, 2014 redBlUFFdailyneWs.COM | YOUR DAILY BREAK | 5 B

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