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Readingthe email message from Joann reminded me of the safety speech flight attendants give before takeoff. If I've heard it once, I've heard it a thou- sand times. " ... In the event of a loss of cabin pressure, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you. ... If you are traveling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask first, and then assist the other person." That is an instruction with universal applica- tion because the founda- tional truth is rock solid. You cannot rescue some- one who is drowning if you are injured or cannot swim yourself. Joann's let- ter brought all of these im- ages to mind. "My mom is 85 years old and widowed. Mom has raised three of her grand- children and now is try- ing to help raise a great grandson. "Currently her grand- son, his wife and their son live with her. Her only in- come is a $1,200 monthly Social Security benefit. Mom is disabled and un- able to work. Her board- ers do not work and are on our state's Medicaid pro- gram. "Long story short, my mom has accrued much debt, and now I am trying to help her. I considered bankruptcy for her, but af- ter researching, decided that it's not the best thing to do nor is it an easy thing. I am 67 years old. My husband still works, but all I have is my Social Security to use to try to help her. "Right now, my mom's bills exceed her income. She has borrowed money against her home, and I recently found out she has borrowed money from a finance company which charges a high interest rate. "What would you sug- gest for me to do in order to get some relief for my mom? Any suggestions you may have will be appreciated." Joann's mother ignored an impor- tant rule of per- sonal finance. She did not assure her own financial fu- ture before at- tempting to assist others. Now she is drowning right along with those she tried to help. The best advice I can give Joann is to learn from what she sees in front of her. Before she can help her mom, she must make sure her financial future is secure. Already I see signs that Joann's attempts to help her mother, and those who have moved into the moth- er's home, are pulling Joann down. How can she possibly rescue all of these people when she is not wearing her "mask?" She can't, and she must not al- low herself to feel guilty for that. By assisting herself first, she will eventually be able to assist others. Until Joann and her husband have their finan- cial situation well in con- trol, they simply cannot participate in rescuing others. I see you nodding your head. It's not difficult to see what Joann needs to do. It's clear that her mom, out of love and concern, has managed to become a burden to her children. I'm certain that Joann would not characterize this as a "burden," but that's what it is, and I see that all over her message. The distance between being of true help and en- abling others to remain helpless is a very thin line. It takes maturity and wis- dom to stay on the side of authentic assistance while not slipping into the murky waters of enabling. Wouldyouliketosend a tip to Mary? You can email her at mary@eve- rydaycheapskate.com, or write to Everyday Cheap- skate, P.O. Box 2099, Cy- press, CA 90630. EVERYDAYCHEAPSKATE Secure your future before assisting others There is no place like home. A sentiment shared by many. But in this case a very specific warm-hearted portion of the community is being earmarked for a spe- cial push out the door. Monday September 22 through Saturday Septem- ber 27, The Tehama County An- imal Care Center and its support group, PETS, are working together Monday through Saturday, Sept. 27, to target a specific subset of dogs for a special adoption event. Any dog who arrived be- fore Sept. 1 may be adopted and PETS — Providing Es- sentials for Tehama Shelter — will pay the spay or neu- ter and rabies vaccination charges. In addition PETS will provide a bag of dog food and a toy to start the lucky new family off on just the right paw. The shelter has wonder- ful dogs needing a home other than the shelter. These dogs get along well with others as they have been sharing accommoda- tions — multiple dogs to a kennel. Some of these dogs have had special training by the center's dog trainers who spend time with them to help them learn good hab- its. And as they all come healthy and with food, a toy and spay or neuter cer- tificate. It is like a Christ- mas present in September. The center is at 1830 Wal- nut St. in Red Bluff. Hours are 8 a.m. to noon and 1-5 p.m. Monday through Fri- day and 10 a.m. to noon and 1-4:30 p.m. Saturday. Adoption hours are 10 a.m. to noon and 1-4:30 p.m. If you would like more infor- mation regarding adopt- ing, fostering or becoming a Care Center volunteer, call 530-527-3439 or send an email to cmcclintock52@ sbcglobal.net. Spend some time with these wagging tails, take advantage of the opportu- nity and let your own Toto find his or her way home. PETS Specialadoption event set at shelter Mary Hunt Lassen Colony 4-H Club held its first meeting at Lassen View School on Monday evening. Tehama County Univer- sity of California Cooper- ative Extension Director Richard Buchner attended and presented the club with a new charter. Cheyenne Pilger was elected president of the newly chartered club, Trevor Pilger was elected vice president, Ethan Gil- bert is treasurer, club re- porter is Haylie Rayl, histo- rian is Masie Skelton, ser- geants at arms are Kaylie Grooms and Corey Dial, club activity directors are Katey Kholer and Clayton Cox and the secretary po- sition will remain open until it can be filled. The club leader is Marcie Skel- ton, a Tehama County 4-H alumna. 4-H clubs were active in the Lassen View and Dairyville area as early as the late 1940s, merging and splitting and chang- ing names as the program evolved over the years. The newly revived club invites Lassen Colony or other Lassen View and Dairyville area alumni members and leaders to at- tend its next regular meet- ing and launch celebration at 6:30 p.m. Oct. 13 at Las- sen View School. Please come at 6 p.m. and bring your old 4-H photos and memorabilia to share. The officer installation Cere- mony will be conducted as well. Call the Tehama County 4-H office for more infor- mation regarding this club and other 4-H clubs in Te- hama County at (530) 527- 3101. Lassen Colony club is back 4-H COURTESYPHOTO Charter members of the Lassen Colony 4-H Club Masie Skelton, Ethan Gilbert, Taylor Gilbert, Landon Skelton and Clayton Cox were on hand for the signing ceremony. Today REDBLUFF Celebrate Recovery: 7 p.m., Bethel Assembly of God, 625Luther Road, 527-0445or 366-6298 Red Bluff Rotary Club Sunrise: 7a.m., M&M Ranch CORNING Car Show: 5-9p.m., Bar- tels Giant Burger, 22355 Corning Road, local car clubs welcome, 824-2788 Nutrition Classes: 11:30 a.m. to 1p.m., 175Solano St., 824-7670 LOS MOLINOS Narcotics Anonymous: 7-8p.m., 25204Josephine Ave, Wednesday and Friday Saturday RED BLUFF American Association of University Women: 5p.m., 21475Wood Duck Pass, 527-4589 Beef 'n Brew: 5p.m., downtown Chamber Certified Farm- ers Market: 7:30a.m. to noon, River Park 527-6220 Frontier Village Farmers Market: 8a.m. to 1p.m., 645Antelope Blvd. TEHAMA Tehama County Museum: 1-4p.m., 275C St., group tours any day by appoint- ment, 384-2595 Sunday RED BLUFF AA Live and Let Live: noon and 5:30p.m., 785 Musick St., seven days a week except Thursday meets at 8p.m. Al-Anon New Comers At Heart: 6:30-7:30p.m., Presbyterian Church of Red Bluff, 838Jefferson Road, Room 2, 941-6405 Kelly-Griggs House Museum: 1-3p.m., 311 Washington St., group tours by appointment, 527-1129or 527-5895 TEHAMA Tehama County Museum: 1-4p.m., 275C St., group tours any day by appoint- ment, 384-2595 Monday RED BLUFF Community Band re- hearsal: 7-2p.m., Red Bluff Presbyterian Church, 838 Jefferson St., New mem- bers welcome, 527-3486 English as a Second Lan- guage class: 5:30-8:30 p.m., Red Bluff High School Adult Ed building, 1295Red Bud, 736-3308, same time Tuesday and Wednesday and 9a.m. to 12:20p.m. Thursdays, free childcare from 9a.m. to 12:20p.m. classes in Richlieu Hall, 900Johnson St. Head Injury Recreational Entity: 10a.m.-2p.m., St. Elizabeth Community Hos- pital, Coyne Center, Rusty, 529-2059 Key to Life: 6p.m., Fam- ily Resource Center, 220 Sycamore St. Suite 101, 528-8066 Narcotics Anonymous: 11 a.m. to noon, 838Jeffer- son St., Room 3, Monday through Saturday and 5:30-6:30p.m. Saturday Narcotics Anonymous: 7-8:30p.m., 785Musick St., every day except Thursday Nutrition classes: 10:30 a.m. to noon, 220Syca- more St. #101 PAL Martial Arts: 3-5 p.m., ages 5-18, 1005Vista Way, Ste. C, free, 529- 7950 Salvation Army Writing Class: 9:30-11:30a.m., 940Walnut St., 527-8530 Senior Writing Class: 10 a.m. to noon, Sycamore Center, 220Sycamore St., 527-5762 Sun Country Quilters Community Service Group: 9a.m. to noon, Family Resource Center, 220Sycamore St. Suite 101, 528-1126 Sun Country Quilters Guild Meeting: 7p.m., Westside Room, Communi- ty Center, 1500S. Jackson St. 528-1126 TeenScreen Mental Health Appointments: 10a.m. to 2p.m., free, by appointment, Youth Em- powerment Services, 1900 Walnut St., 527-8491, Ext. 3012 TOPS Club (take off pounds Sensibly): 8:30 a.m., First Christian Church, 926Madison Ave., 527-7541or 347-6120, visit www.tops.org US citizenship prepara- tion class: 5:30-8:30 p.m., Red Bluff High School Adult Ed building, 1295Red Bud, 736-3308, same time Tuesday and Wednesday Venture Crew 1914meet- ing: 6:30-8p.m., Moose Lodge on 99W, coed ages 14-20welcome CORNING Alcoholics Anonymous: noon Monday through Friday, 5p.m. Thursday, 7 p.m. Monday, Tuesday and Saturday and 1p.m. Sun- day, 783Solano St., behind the church Narcotics Anonymous: 7-8:30p.m., 820Marin St., 824-114or 586-0245, meetings daily Sewing group: 9a.m., Family Resource Center, West and South streets, 824-7670 Spanish Adult Education: 5p.m., Family Resource Center, West and South streets, 824-7670 Strategies for Success, Life Skill classes: 1:30 p.m., Family Resource Center, West and South streets, 824-7670 Weight Watchers: weigh in 5:30p.m., meeting 6 p.m., Senior Center, corner of South and Fourth streets LOS MOLINOS Senior Dance: 7p.m., Senior Center, Josephine Street, 384-2100 Tuesday RED BLUFF Alzheimer's and demen- tia support group: 6p.m., Lassen House, 705Luther Road, 529-2900 Cribbage Club: 6p.m., Cozy Diner, 259S. 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