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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband of 34 years had an affair with a co-worker, lasting for a year. He has had at least one other affair that I know of. With the aid of a thera- pist, I confronted him, and he said the affair was a terrible idea, and that he wanted our mar- riage to stay together. He agreed to cut communica- tion with the woman. She moved away. A year later, after working hard (on my end) to try to repair the marriage, I found out that the two of them had been having long weekly phone calls my husband had gone to great lengths to conceal. I said if he felt compelled to continue the calls, I would leave the marriage. Fast forward another year. The calls continued in spite of repeated pledg- es by my husband that they were not occurring. I confronted the scarlet woman and told her to cut it out, or I'd spill the beans to her husband. She did. Here's the problem: My husband has never apologized. He says if he is warm and loving, that should be enough for me, and I should get over these events. My husband is pleas- ant enough but is hardly warm and loving. He con- tinues to have multiple phone numbers and mul- tiple emails in his name. I'm not accusing him of romancing women, but I feel insecure. If I try to bring up our relationship, my husband refuses to talk because he says all I do is tell him that he is a horrible person (that is not true). He refuses to talk with a therapist. Any hope here? —Saddened DEAR SADDENED » I do have hope — mainly for you. Your marriage? Not so much. Your husband seems determined to deny you the healing and inti- macy you desire. Catching him, catching him again and being proactive in driving off his mistress is pretty exhausting. "Pleasant enough" isn't a very high standard in a spouse. "Pleasant enough" is the ultimate standard you set for your dental hygienist, not your husband. You need to value yourself more. An apology is not the MOST your husband can give to you; it is the very LEAST he can offer. And he is not even willing to do that. DEAR AMY » I just started school again, and it sucks! I don't have friends, and my classes are boring. I'm so stressed already, not just because of school but other things also. My favorite class is English. I have a wonderful imagination, so I think I want to be a writer, but I'm horrible at putting my imagination on paper. Can you suggest a way for me to be a wonderful writer one day? — Bored DEAR BORED » You can be a wonderful writer now, if you want to. The way to do this is to start to write down stories about your own life and experiences. You should ask your teacher for recommenda- tions for books to read that will fire your imagi- nation and inspire you. Husband continues cheating despite pleading from wife You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Virgo(Aug.23-Sept.22) — Get out and join people who share your passions. Whether it is dancing, hiking, music or an- other pursuit, you'll find a group of like-minded souls to join. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Do things your own way and present your ideas with confi- dence. Your charisma is high and will help you garner interest from all sorts of parties. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Concentrate on your per- sonal issues. Envy of others' accomplishments will lead to disappointment. Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You may be feeling exu- berant, but don't be careless. Overspending are not a replace- ment for discipline. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Don't postpone dealing with urgent financial or legal issues. Trust your intuition and address these matters promptly. Staying fit and healthy will reduce the chance of minor illnesses. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — You are not getting the whole story. There will be a difference between what you see and what you hear. Someone is likely to mislead or discredit you. Do your own fact-finding. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — You will discover a unique way of improving your job pros- pects. Act on any opportunity that could advance your status. Prove your talent through dem- onstration to those in higher positions. Aries (March 21-April 19) — You will be amazed at the results you achieve with an in- novative project. Your powers of persuasion are strong, so enlist others to help you with ideas. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Diplomacy will take you a long way today. Stubbornness will get you nowhere and may make things worse. Work toward a compromise. Be tolerant and understanding. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — A romantic relationship will take an unexpected turn for the better. This is not the time to sit on the sidelines. Let your heart guide you down the right path. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — If you are discontented with the situation at home, do some soul-searching. It's probable that you are part of the problem. Be prepared to apologize and compromise. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Your nerves will be a little strained. Don't abandon your ambitions. Be ready to show- case your abilities so that someone who can improve your career will see your potential. Horoscope By Eugenia Last FRIDAY, SEPT. 19 FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 19, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B