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But anger is very much a part of the grief process. Investigate and replace any missing documents. Make sure your property and bank accounts are all accounted for. In terms of contacting this mistress's husband, you need to ask yourself: "What outcome do I want?" This disclosure would not bring your husband back to life. It would more likely hurt the husband. If you are absolutely convinced that it would make you feel better to notify this husband, then yo u s ho ul d wa i t t wo months. If I were you, I'd handle this in writ- ing. You can draft a letter and revise it until it says exactly what you want. Nothing you do will change the past. You've likely heard the aphorism, "Living well is the best revenge." In your case, merely "living" should be all the revenge you need. In that regard, you've already won. You're here. He's not. DEAR AMY » My niece (whom I am not very close to) is having a desti- nation wedding. My s is te r h as m ad e it clear that she expects me and my family to attend. If we don't go, she will be very hurt. I don't think my niece will care too much. The cost of travel will come out to $4,000. While we can afford this, we are careful with our money, and this is not how we would choose to spend it. We will also have to use a significant amount of vacation time to attend. We would rather take a different vacation. My other siblings feel resentful, but they have decided to go. Can you think of any graceful way we can get out of this? — Don't Want to Go DEAR WISE » Your sister has played the sister card and she is telling you quite clearly what the consequences will be if you don't attend. There is no graceful way around it, so you'll just have to calmly dive in and expect your sister to be upset. You are determined not to go, so let the couple know in advance and send them a warm note and a nice gift. 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