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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARREADERS»Recently, responding to a question from "Reader," I asked people to suggest how to offer condolences to someone who is griev- ing. I have received many responses, and a sampling of your wisdom is includ- ed here. Many of these suggestions brought a tear to my eye, and I thank you all. DEAR AMY » As someone who has both given and received condolences, I would say that someone who is grieving most wants to talk and/or to hear about the person whom he/she has lost. If you knew the de- ceased, relate something warm or amusing that you remember about him; if you didn't, ask the mourner to tell you some- thing about the deceased. When my mother died, what was most comfort- ing was speaking about her, feeling like she had not been erased. Asking someone in mo ur ni ng h o w th ey f ee l or telling them how they should feel isn't helpful, but allowing them to speak about the deceased and/or their feelings about their loss is. —RabbiDvora Weisberg DEAR AMY » Nearly 60 years ago my 9-year-old friend walked up to me and said she heard that my mother had died and how sorry she felt. Then she hugged me. All these years later, I still remember how she made me feel: I wasn't alone. The exact words didn't matter. — Genie DEAR AMY » What helped me most after my moth- er's death were the words that started, "I remember the time your mother ..." My mother lingered for years and the stories helped me get past the long, sad times and back to wading in mountain streams, road trips and how her face would light up when she had a long- distance phone call with her sister. — Grateful DEAR AMY » As a grand- mother who lost her 8-year-old grandson to brain cancer I am an expert on the subject, un- fortunately. Please do not say phrases like: "Enough time has passed so you must be feeling better," or, "Don't you think it is time for you to get over your sadness?" Most people do not have a clue as to how the grieving person is feeling. — Still Grieving Grandmother DEAR AMY » When my uncle died I wrote a note to my aunt reminiscing about the many times he had me laughing so hard it hurt! I got a letter back thanking me. Who wouldn't want to hear about how a depart- ed l ov ed o ne l ef t a ma rk on your life? — Happy Memory DEAR AMY » After my son died, I appreciated these simple words: "I am so very sorry for your loss." Followed by something simple like, "He had the greatest smile." — Grieving Mother Readers offer their words for when there are no words You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Focus on romance. Whether it's a new relationship or one you've been in for years, being attentive will ward off problems and bring you closer together. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Take care of business or tasks you've left unfinished before you take on a new chal- lenge. Your innovative solutions will help to smooth relations. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Stick to your agenda and be ready to say no to additional responsibilities. A good friend or will offer timely tips on how to get over a workplace hurdle. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) —Let your imagination inspire you to add some spice to your personal life. Be patient with emotional relatives. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Joining a worthy cause will be the beginning of a new friendship and lead to influ- ential contacts. Sharing your plans with others will raise your profile. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Self-confidence will be a byproduct of increased knowl- edge. Research to become more familiar with your topic and you will be able to sway others to your way of thinking. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Action, not words, will lead to the assistance you require to advance. You will raise sup- port for your plans if you can substantiate the challenges you face. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Remain composed. Tension and anger will invoke you to say things you'll regret. Think before you speak or you could do irreparable damage to an important relationship. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Add comfort and convenience to your home and personal life. You can avoid opposition if you ask for input from those affected by the changes you make. Stay within your budget. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — A day at a spa or a shopping expedition will help keep your mind off your worries. Consider getting together with friends for some lighthearted entertainment. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — You will be unhappy if you feel obliged to hide your true feelings. Honest communication is the first step toward solving your problems. Don't allow any- one to take advantage of your generosity. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Overextending your budget will result in added pressure. Travel and trinkets are enjoyable, but not if you are putting your finan- cial future in jeopardy. Horoscope By Eugenia Last FRIDAY, NOV. 6 | YOURDAILYBREAK | REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 6, 2015 4 B