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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»I'mataloss on how to move forward with my wife (it is a second marriage for us both). She's a far more con- servative Christian than I am and objects to any type of nudity in movies. I tell her that before we met I didn't seek it out — or avoid it — but sometimes otherwise good movies have nudity in them. For the last five years I haven't watched a movie with nudity, but we still argue about it regularly. She says she can't trust me be- cause of my views, which spirals into all sorts of other problems. I know she carries baggage from her first husband. She discovered a few skeletons in his closet after his death. I'm trying to be understand- ing, but years of my wife saying she doesn't trust me are starting to wear me down. —Stumped DEAR STUMPED » I'm assuming that you two are tussling over R-rated movies (and not pornog- raphy). Simply put, if your wife doesn't like movies with nudity in them, then she shouldn't watch them. After establishing that you two don't quite agree about nudity in movies, she is now controlling you, policing you and arguing about this regularly. This is not about mov- ies. This is about trust. Your wife is making you pay for her late husband's actions. Given her history this is not that surprising, but it undermines your own marriage. Accusing a trustworthy person of wrongdoing is unfair. She is setting you up. Your wife's control and your acquiescence are troubling. Even when you do what she says, she ups the ante and other problems surface. This problem will not go away. It will migrate into other areas of your life. You two need couples counseling; she must find a way to close the door on the hurt from her previ- ous marriage in order to start fresh with you. DEAR AMY » I recently broke up with my former boyfriend because he kept secrets from me, such as sneaking around, post- ing provocative things on social media sites as if he were single, etc. I was with him for six months, and one event led to him physically harming me. I believe that I'm doing the right thing by not dat- ing him, but every night and morning he calls me and begs for me to take him back. He caused this, so why do I feel guilty for break- ing up with him? This hurts because we met each other's families and both sides accepted our relationship. — Worried DEAR WORRIED » You feel guilty about this breakup because your abusive ex is manipulating you into feeling guilty. Manipulation is the secret weapon of a truly abusive person. First he disrespects you and then he makes you feel like the arc of the relationship is somehow your fault. Don't take his calls. Conservative wife controls husband's movie choices You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Your mental agility will be at an all-time high. Your ability to communicate with others and articulate your ideas will be noticed. Pursue your goals. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Your need for excitement and adventure will be satisfied if you travel or get involved in forward-thinking groups. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You may be forced to deal with the affairs of your elders. If you haven't left yourself enough time, your partner may be dis- gruntled. You must find balance. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Tension will cause confronta- tions. Get the trouble out in the open and have a frank, air-clear- ing discussion. Secret activities could damage your reputation. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — One-sided romantic connec- tions will only lead you astray. Keep your thoughts to yourself. This is not the time to rock the boat. Respect the politics that surround you at work. Aries (March 21-April 19) — It's a good day to take trips that will provide you with adventure and cultural knowledge. Social gatherings will open doors to love connections. Now is the time to make a positive move. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Your refusal to listen to advice given by friends or relatives could be your downfall. Try to see your situation in terms of possibilities rather than limita- tions. Remain open. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Friends may be unhappy if you allow a new love to monopolize your time. Try to maintain bal- ance in your life. Don't be too eager to get involved in joint financial ventures. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Heated arguments with loved ones may lead to changes in your home. Drastic reactions to- ward others will be detrimental. Keep your feelings to yourself. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Your dramatic approach to emo- tional matters may alienate you from the ones you love. Adopt a more practical outlook with less melodrama. Be clear about your role in the situation. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Problems will surface if you have to deal with institutions. Put off meetings with your superiors until a more suitable time. Focus on detail and satis- fying your needs first. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You can make major improve- ments if you set your mind to it. Someone you live with appears to be confused. Your ability to see situations from all sides and your need for balance and fair- ness should help. Horoscope By Eugenia Last FRIDAY, NOV. 14 FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 14, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B