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Thursday, September 6, 2012 – Daily News FEATURES Wife's steamy online chats worry hubby and I have been married for 18 years, and we have three children. I always thought we got along great. Over the past few years, we have not been as intimate as we once were, and I attributed it to busy schedules, children, etc. However, recently I dis- covered that my wife has been having Internet chats with a particular gentleman, and these chats get rather steamy. Dear Annie: My wife Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Annie, I cannot even get my wife to hug me without resistance, but yet she can talk to a stranger like this. She doesn't know that I have seen these conversations. Is the handwriting on the wall? Should I prepare myself for her to leave? — Confused in Virginia Dear Confused: Some women (and men) enjoy flirting online with anonymous strangers. It's playact- ing and fantasy, and they don't believe these relationships will threaten their marriages. But even if your wife is not looking for real-life excitement, you should not ignore this. Please don't jump to conclu- sions. A crucial part of marriage is good communication. Tell your wife you saw her chats with this man. Don't be accusatory or angry. Simply say that you love her and this makes you sad and wor- ried. Ask her what's going on. She Interested in learning the basics of fruit and nut tree management in a short period of time? University of California Cooperative Extension fruit and nut advisors and specialists and UC Davis plant sciences faculty will present a two-week pomology course Feb. 25 through March 7, 2013, at the UC Davis Confer- ence Center. big celebration a few weeks after. Imagine their surprise when a cousin and her daughter showed up at the ceremony uninvited. This was not a spur-of-the-moment thing. It involved time off of work and get- ting on a plane. She left right after, saying she had other plans. How can the bride and groom get also needs to stop contacting this man in order to regain your trust. If she refuses, hedges or indicates that there are problems in your marriage, ask her to go with you for counseling. Dear Annie: My nephew and his bride planned a small wedding ceremony with only the parents and siblings present. They made no secret of their plans. They also invited the rest of their family and friends to a (after broadcasting all the details), the couple could have hired some- one to stand at the door and turn away uninvited guests. This cousin's behavior was ill-man- nered, but she simply watched the ceremony and left. Unless the bridal couple wishes this to cause lasting harm, it can be forgiven. Dear Annie: I read the letter over the trauma of an uninvited guest? She ruined the wedding. What does one say to a wedding crasher who feels no shame, but wants to keep it a secret from other family members? — She Ruined the Wedding so overwrought. This cousin's behavior was extremely rude, but unless she got drunk, knocked over the bride and jumped into all the photos, she did not ruin the wedding. If it was that important for the ceremony to be private Dear She: Please try not to be crop management strate- gies." Growers, beginning from ''Married to an Octopus,'' whose husband can't keep his hands off of her. I am in my mid 50s and dating and can give a dif- ferent point of view. I envy her. I am attractive, well educated and kind, and I keep myself in good shape and enjoy socializing. But to my surprise, the men I am meeting have very little interest in romance. Where have all the lov- ing men gone? For the past four months, I have been dating a man whom I would almost pay to be romantic. He never initiates intimacy and, from what he says, considers it a chore. Wow, really? I would be flattered to have a little groping and sexy talk. I am starting to feel like his sister. — Enjoy What You've Got Dear Enjoy: Too much or too little of anything can be a prob- lem. If the majority of the men you meet have no interest in inti- macy, you might ask yourself whether something that's attract- ing you to them is also part of the problem. UC offers two-week course on growing tree fruit and nuts • The basics of how "Courses of this type usually focus on describ- ing how specific things in tree crop management are done," said DeJong, who specializes in plant physiology. "I like to start with developing an integrated understanding of how trees grow and function and then link that to explaining tree This course will cover the fundamentals of tree biology that are essential to making sound orchard management and busi- ness decisions, with a combination of lectures, hands-on exercises and field demonstrations. The instructors – led by Ted DeJong, UC Cooper- ative Extension specialist and professor in the Department of Plant Sci- ences at UC Davis – are experts in fruit and nut tree production with over 100 years of combined experience. farmers, community col- lege students, university students and profession- als working in tree fruit and nut production are encouraged to enroll in this Cooperative Exten- sion course. After com- pleting the course, par- ticipants will receive a certificate. "To our knowledge, there is no comparable extension course in the United States that pro- vides growers instruction by faculty researchers and Cooperative Exten- sion specialists on the fundamentals of fruit and nut tree growth and development that under- pin orchard management practices," said DeJong. "The goal of our course is to provide access to prac- tical, UC Davis pomolo- gy education in a shorter time frame, and reduced cost, than is currently available through tradi- tional university classes." The first week will include lectures, hands- on exercises and field demonstrations on a wide range of topics in basic tree biology and orchard management practices. include: Lecture topics trees work • Ideal climatic and soil conditions for tree fruit and nut crops • Dormancy, requirements and rest breaking •How trees grow and what determines archi- tecture • Understanding crop- ping, pollination and fruit set • How trees use water and nutrients • Fruit growth and chill development • Harvest and harvest indices • Postharvest quality and technology Hands-on exercises and field demonstrations include: • Bearing habits • Measuring fruit quality and fruit tasting • Pruning, training and light management • Root excavations • Budding and graft- ing plant water status and irrigation scheduling • Measurement of plant nutrient status and fertilization scheduling During the second week, students and instructors will embark on a four-day tour in fruit and nut-growing regions of Northern and Central Cali- • Measurement of fornia. The field tour includes stops at commer- cial nurseries, packing houses, retail outlets, experimental plots and pri- vate orchards. Participants will see field demonstra- tions at the UC Kearney Agricultural Research and Extension Center in Parli- er and the Nickels Soil Laboratory in Arbuckle. Instructors for the course include DeJong, Vito Polito, professor in the Department of Plant Sciences at UC Davis; Kevin Day, UC Coopera- tive Extension advisor in Tulare County; R. Scott Johnson, UC Coopera- tive Extension specialist in the Department of Plant Sciences at UC Davis based at UC KARE; and Carlos Crisosto, Cooperative Extension specialist in the Department of Plant Sciences at UC Davis, who specializes in postharvest physiology. The fee for the entire course is $2,850 plus the cost of lodging for the field trips. Details and registration information are available at http://fruitandnuteduca- tion.ucdavis.edu. For more information, contact Brooke Jacobs at (530) 752-4354 or frui- tandnuteducation@ucda vis.edu. 3B No sports, energy drinks for teens TOR K: My son thinks sports and energy drinks will help his athletic performance. But are these drinks safe for teens? DEAR READ- ER: I don't think children and teens should drink either sports or energy drinks — and neither does the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). Unfortu- nately, these products are often marketed directly to children and adolescents. Though the terms "sports drinks" and "ener- gy drinks" are often used interchangeably, they are different types of bever- ages. DEAR DOC- vored drinks that contain carbohydrates (usually sugar) along with some electrolytes. Electrolytes are minerals such as sodi- um, potassium and chlo- ride. They are important for many functions of your body's cells, and they are lost when you sweat a lot. Sports drinks also may have some vitamins. Energy drinks contain carbohydrates and may have the other ingredients of sports drinks. They also contain a stimulant, usual- ly caffeine. They are not designed to replace miner- als lost by sweating, but to give a person a sense of extra energy or alertness. There was a time when some energy drinks con- tained alcohol, but such drinks have been banned. Soft drinks came on the Sports drinks are fla- market late in the 19th century as energy drinks and contained powerful stimulant drugs. For example, the original for- mulation for Coca-Cola contained cocaine. Really. (Once the addictive poten- tial of cocaine became clear, the U.S. government banned it from soft drinks.) The main stimu- lant in modern energy drinks is caffeine. There typically is two to three times more caffeine in energy drinks than in con- ventional cola soft drinks. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. believe that we need sports drinks whenever we exer- cise to replace what we lose in sweat and to main- tain energy. This is not true. The biggest concern about sports drinks, with their high sugar content, is that they contribute to obesity. Ads for sports drinks sug- gest that they are necessary for the best athletic per- formance. The ads would have us Sports drinks can be useful during prolonged vigorous exercise. I'm thinking of activities such as a soccer tournament, where a child plays several games in a row, or long- distance running for older kids. But for the vast majority of exercise that kids engage in, water is all they need. Ads for energy drinks include the message that they boost energy, decrease fatigue and improve mental alertness. But my pediatric col- leagues tell me that energy drinks should never be consumed by children and adolescents. In kids, they are more likely than in adults to cause agitation, anxiety, irritability and insomnia. They can even cause heart rhythm prob- lems and seizures. You may not always find caffeine in the ingredi- ent list of energy drinks. But assume that anything marketed as an energy drink contains a stimulant (called a xanthine) that has the same effect as caffeine and can be dangerous for children. So when you are pack- ing your child's sports bag, skip the sports and energy drinks, and pack a water bottle instead. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Oh Snap! The Daily News wants your photos: Cute kids, Adorable pets, Inspirational sights, Any shot you think readers would enjoy You might just see it in the Daily News Send pictures to editor@redbluffdailynews.com or drop off at 545 Diamond Ave. in Red Bluff. Include a caption. The following defen- dants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: Rafael was sentenced to seven years in state prison for assault with a deadly weapon with special alle- gation-Great bodily injury. Rafael and victim were in a confrontation outside a convenience store. The situation escalated when Rafael hit the victim and eventually pulled out a knife and stabbed the vic- tim. Rafael fled the scene and was located a short time later with a bloody knife in his pocket. • Joshua Gary Sims • Rudy Armando prior felony, maintaining place for selling or using controlled substance with prior felony, cultivating marijuana with prior felony, possession of a firearm by a felon-priors- prior felony, possession of ammunition with-prior felony, possession of shuriken with prior felony. warrant at Sims' resi- dence and located pack- aged methamphetamine, marijuana, packaging material, guns, ammuni- tion and digital scales. • Jerry Deloy Wilson Agents served a search was sentenced to seven years in state prison for possession of a con- trolled substance with firearm with special alle- gation-prior felony, pos- session for sale of a con- trolled substance with special allegation-per- sonally armed/firearm controlled substance, special allegation-prior felony, possession of marijuana for sale with was sentenced to three years in state prison for second degree burglary; post release community supervision. Wilson entered a store, picked up a generator and attempted to leave with- out paying. When an employee confronted Wil- son he dropped the gener- ator and fled. A few min- utes later Wilson entered another store, grabbed a bottle of alcohol and walked out without pay- ing for the item. Wilson was released from prison on post release communi- COURT ROUNDUP tion. ty supervision. Wilson violated the terms of his supervision when he was arrested in case number NCR83927. • David Mark Thom- men was sentenced to three years in state prison for burglary with special allegation-prior felony. The victim received a call stating that someone was inside the garage of a vacant home that he owned. Officers arrived on scene and located Thommen along with a pair of wire cutters that were found inside his pocket. During a search of the garage the officers located a pile of wires that had just been cut. Recent County Jail Commitments • Scott Trevor Heninger was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of stolen property, posses- sion of firearm by a felon. Officers located a stolen vehicle parked at Heninger's residence. Officers Heninger and received consent to search his resi- dence and located a shot- gun and a box of ammuni- contacted was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for vandalism: Over $400 damage. An officer contacted • Jacob Lee Mieger learned Mieger became upset and began vandaliz- ing the room. Mieger was found bleeding from his hand and there was bro- ken glass on the floor and well as a broken door jam. • Noah Douglas Facio, Stanley David Smith Jr. The officer Mieger in his motel room in regards to a distur- bance. and Stanley David Smith Sr. were sentenced to 120 days each in Tehama County Jail for cultivat- ing marijuana. A search warrant was served at a residence where deputies located a marijuana grow that was being maintained by all defendants. na was sentenced to 120 days in Tehama County Jail for assault with a deadly weapon Corona was waiting outside of an ex-girl- friend's apartment when • Efrain Castillo Coro- AUTO ROUTE DRIVERS WANTED Corning area HELP WANTED Must be 21 or older & bondable. Call or apply in person Circulation Dept. Red Bluff Daily News (530) 527-2151 ext 128 DAILYNEWS RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY the male victim came out- side and Corona began swinging a baseball bat towards him and chasing him with it. Corona even- tually fled the scene after learning the police had been contacted. • Noahaaron Alan Church was sentenced to 30 days in Tehama Coun- ty Jail for transportation of a controlled substance. Church was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he was found in possession of a firearm and ammunition.