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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iamalawyer. I am financially secure, but I'm dating someone who has more discretion- ary income than I do. He is the co-owner of a business with offices in several states. We have a lot in common and enjoy our time together, but as we have grown closer, I am noticing that the wide gap in income disparity is bothering me. I am not low-income, but I know my limits. He has the ability to take frequent internation- al trips and has asked me to accompany him. I have a limited ability to pay for travel (perhaps three or four times a year). He has offered to pay my way, but I am ada- mantly opposed to such an arrangement. I value my independence, and think that relying on someone else's income creates a power dynamic I do not wish to experience. So we are left with him traveling alone several times a year and wishing I was with him. Before he left for his most recent trip, he asked if we can revisit this situa- tion. I am trying to figure out a way to accompany him more often without overspending. Is there a compromise here? —Wondering DEAR WONDERING » I'm going to ask you to imagine what it would be like to have enough money that you could freely share your bounty with people you care about. Perhaps, if you had enough money, you would enjoy sharing it — with no strings attached. In many relationships, people give and share freely without creating a "power imbalance," sim- ply because it feels good to use your gifts to benefit others. Healthy relation- ships are not competi- tions, where everybody measures how much they have, but collaborations, where people freely share their gifts and talents. I can imagine that as a successful lawyer, you probably can't run off to Europe several times a year. That is reason enough not to go on every trip. If your guy tries to control you through his spending, then this is a red flag. If accepting this largesse is some- thing you are "adamantly opposed" to, then you shouldn't compromise your own values, but I do believe that you might benefit from a shift of perspective. At the very least, this is worth having a conver- sation, which is all he is asking you to do. DEAR AMY » "Not Nosy Neighbor" faced a di- lemma when she and her husband saw footage on their home's security sys- tem of the neighbor's teen son apparently buying drugs every day in front of their house. I can't believe you neglected to tell them that they should call the police! — Disappointed DEAR DISAPPOINTED » The question posed was whether to talk to the teen's mother, and I be- lieved they should. If this activity continued beyond notifying the mother, then a call to the police would be appropriate. Lawyer confronts the wage disparity in a relationship You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@amydickinson. com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Pisces(Feb.20-March 20) — Stamina and drive will help you secure what you want. Trust in your gut feeling and follow your instincts in order to make the right choice. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Finish what you start and avoid taking on more than you can handle. Allot your time carefully and refuse to let anyone slow you down by putting unrealistic demands on you. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Your input and solutions will be considered if you take the initia- tive to engage in the discussion with verve and discipline. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Money problems will increase if you make purchases you cannot afford. Live within your means. Behave and save. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Partnerships look promising. Contribute to something you believe in, but don't let anyone take you for granted financially. Surround yourself with helpers, not users. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — A partnership will go through uncertainty if you cannot come to a workable agreement. Take a moment to consider the prob- able loss should you not com- promise. Show intelligence. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Traveling and learning should be high on your list. Sign up for a course or go on a retreat that will engage your mind and give you the wisdom to make a favorable choice. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Get along with your peers, but don't go overboard and take on the brunt of the responsibilities. Make sure everyone knows what you expect in return before you do any favors. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Don't feel obliged to travel if you don't want to. Set the standard and guide others to follow suit. If you don't make requests, you cannot expect to bring about change. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Look at the big picture, but don't feel the necessity to buy the acceptance of others. Make your position clear and don't be afraid to make changes that will influence you and you alone. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Add to your comfort and well- being. Use your experience and strong intuition to choose the people you want in your life and the level of their involvement. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — You'll receive an unexpected gift. A settlement or new con- tract that offers greater hope for future endeavors will head your way if you embrace change. 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