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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Irecently found out that my partner of two years has herpes and transmitted it to me. I moved into her house four months ago. While moving some things around in her garage, I inadvertently came across a doctor's report showing that she had it. When I confronted her with the information, she said she had gotten it 10 years ago from her ex- husband. She did not tell me (and I did not ask) when our relationship began. I have incurable leuke- mia and an infection from a herpes outbreak could kill me. Even when she was told that infections can be devastating for me, she still did not tell me about her herpes. She says she just did not put "two and two" together. My issue is that since she did not do the right thing by me with the her- pes and leukemia situa- tion, I don't feel that I can trust her. Can this trust be rebuilt? —TrustlessMan DEAR TRUSTLESS » It seems that your partner had no intention of re- vealing her herpes status until you became ill. Her two-and-two anal- ogy is pretty hard to be- lieve. She has an STD and EVERY sexual partner should be told about it, regardless of that part- ner's health vulnerability. If you wanted to con- tinue in this relationship, then she would have to come up with an explana- tion for withholding this. "I forgot" is not plausible; "I felt shame and thought you wouldn't love me" is somewhat plausible. After that, you would have to come up with a way to forgive her. If you weren't able to forgive her for this, you wouldn't ever be able to trust her. My reaction is that this rises to an extreme level, and is not only unkind and neglectful, but bor- dering on criminal. I don't think she can be trusted. And I'm sorry this has happened to you. For trust to be rebuilt she needs to be a full partner, admitting her wrongdoing, asking for forgiveness and offering to answer any questions you have. She should also accompany you to a doctor's appointment. A relationship counselor could help you navigate this tricky issue. DEAR AMY » Regarding the sweet letter from "Worried," the 11-year-old girl who recently lost her father, I just want to pass on another resource. I work for Gentiva Hospice in Pleasanton, California, and we are running a grief camp for children. This camp is free for all attendees — it is paid for by donations to our Gentiva Founda- tion. There are many grief camps for children. It is a chance for the grieving child to get away, have fu n and proce ss her grief away from the pain and sorrow being experi- enced by her family. — Hospice Advocate DEAR ADVOCATE » Grief camps and Outward Bound experiences geared toward grieving young- sters are game-changers for children making their way through grief. Shocking STD disclosure puts partner at high risk of illness You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Libra(Sept.23-Oct.23)— Take responsibility and do what needs to be done. It's up to you to make things happen, so stop waiting for someone else to take the reins. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Do your own legwork. Relying on someone else will lead to disappointment. Make special plans with a loved one. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Push a little harder if you want to bring about change. It's what you do, not what you say that will count. Express your concerns. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Refuse to let anyone disrupt your plans. If you move forward, you will encounter someone who will not only encourage you to do your own thing. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Raise your profile and boost your reputation by taking part in a conference or trade show. Collaborate and negotiate your way to the top. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Take the initiative and make the first move when it comes to affairs of the heart. Your sug- gestions and romantic gestures will intrigue a loved one. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Your emotions will fluctuate as the day unfolds. Keep your thoughts to yourself in order to avoid an argument. An affec- tionate approach will help you persuade someone to see things your way. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Taking a trip or attending an event that encourages personal growth, knowledge and enlight- enment will open your eyes to new ways of doing things. A romantic encounter will enrich your life. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Consider your personal and professional situations and the changes that would make you happy. A challenge will do you good and help you decide what to do next. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Giving in to your emotions will set off a series of unexpected events that will leave you feel- ing insecure. Use your intelli- gence to work your way through any dilemma you face. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Plan to do something special and entertaining with the people you love. Collaborating with someone who shares your creative talents or dreams will bring good results. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Don't try to impress someone by spending a lot of money. Concentrate on being frank and building a strong relationship with someone who has some- thing to offer you in return. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, OCT. 1 SATURDAY, OCTOBER 1, 2016 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B