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MARCH 16-22, 2016 UCW 27 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM ADVICE GODDESS Hi Money, I'm Home! My boyfriend is going to a dinner out of town to get an award for a film he made, and he didn't invite me. When I told him I felt excluded, he said that he was embarrassed because his parents are paying for his flight and he has to stay with a friend. I get it; he does wonderful work, but he's still struggling financially. Still, if the tables were turned — if I were getting an award — I would at least tell him I wish he could come. — Upset There are a lot of things Martin Scorsese has been known to say, but one of them is not, "I want you by my side at this festival, and I only have to dig through the trash for 8,234 more cans to make that happen." It isn't surprising that your boyfriend — as a man — is more sensitive about being…as they say…brokeahontas than you would be if the (awards dinner) tables were turned. As I frequently explain, men and women aren't just physically different; they evolved to have corresponding psychological differences. A biggie comes out of how there was a far greater potential cost to an ancestral woman from any sex act (pregnancy and a kid to feed) compared with the cost to a man: "Gee, that was a whole teaspoonful of sperm!" So female psychology evolved to push women to look for "providers" — men with access to resources and a willingness to share them. That's why women go for guys who show signs of wealth, like a temperature-controlled nursery for their sports cars. Wealth is a cue to the all- important ability to bring home the bison. But in ancestral times, we couldn't hang on to stuff — including food — because we didn't have refrigerators, let alone houses to keep them in. There was just the meat you could eat before it went bad and your man's ability to hunt it down. So what does it for a lot of women is potential — signs that a man could soon be, uh, dragging home tasty dead animals (probably shrink-wrapped, unless their guy is good with a crossbow). You seem to be one of those women. (You get that they don't give out film awards to just any doof who shoots a cat video on their iPhone.) If you do believe in your boyfriend, tell him — regularly, in detail. If he gets that you're proud of him and that you'd be happier eating hot dogs on a bench with him than dining with some corporate drone at Le Whatever, he's less likely to feel he's failing you by being undercapitalized. This should help him be more inclusive in the future — at least emotionally — when that "historic location" where he'll be staying is the sagging love seat where his buddy lost his virginity in 1992. Copyght Amy Alkon WEEKLY HOROSCOPES NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD In February, New York's highest court finally said "enough" to the seemingly endless delays on a multimillion-dollar judgment for negligence that occurred 23 years ago. Linda Nash had sued, among others, the Port Authority of New York and New Jersey for injuries she suffered when trapped in an underground parking garage during the World Trade Center terrorist act. (No, not the one in 2001, but the bombing eight years before that, which killed six and wounded more than 1,000). Nash was 49 that day and 72 now, and after winning a $5.4 million jury verdict in 2005, endured 10 more years of appeals. In its final, unsuccessful motion in the case, the Port Authority said it had spotted a technicality and that Nash should start over. [New York Post, 2-21-2016] The Continuing Crisis "Nostalgia," Gone Too Far: Retired engineer Harry Littlewood, 68, watching workers tear down outdated public housing in Stockport, England, recently, rushed over to ask the local Stockport Council about recovering a "souvenir" since the teardowns included his residence growing up. The council agreed, and Littlewood was awarded the toilet he had used as a boy. "I never thought I'd see it again," he mused. He said he would probably turn it into a planter. [Manchester Evening News, 2-1-2016] Latest Religious Messages Evangelicals Applaud Sexual Predator: The Jacksonville (Florida) City Council was addressing a proposed amendment to its Human Rights Ordinance (one that would specifically protect gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgenders) in January when Roy Bay, 56, stood during the comment period and insisted that those kinds of lifestyle protections are what led him on a 20- year history of molesting one little boy after another. Gasps in the audience turned into cheers, however, when he reported that he had abandoned his bad self after becoming a "born- again child of God," and realizing that it was not "acceptable" to assault kids even though he was raised in such an environment himself. (Conveniently, the crimes are not prosecutable because of the statute of limitations. Fact-checkers, including FloridaPolitics.com, are still investigating Bay's claims.) [Folio Weekly (Jacksonville), 1-20-2016] COPYRIGHT CHUCK SHEPPARD ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 A recent development may bring you luck and turn out in your favor, Aries. If financial deals seem lucrative, go ahead and trust your instincts to move ahead. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 Taurus, maintaining a long-distance relationship or friendship can be challenging, but you have what it takes to make the most of the situation. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 Gemini, fun is ahead if you are willing to take some risks. Take a chance and hang out with a new crowd this week. These might be just the people to add some hop to your step. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 This is a terrific week to sit down and talk with someone you have not seen in a while, Cancer. Enjoy this reunion and all the laughs that come with strolling down Memory Lane. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 Your love life may take an exciting turn, Leo. Prepare for what's ahead by letting someone else take control for a little while. Expect something to happen out of the blue. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, you may feel a bit more free now that you have unburdened yourself of some debts. Enjoy this newfound financial freedom but remember to watch your spending. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 You are feeling helpful and generous this week, Libra. Spread that spirit to others who may be less fortunate than you by volunteering at a soup kitchen or pitching in elsewhere. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Scorpio, joint ventures are the way to go this week. Pooling your resources provides the chance for you and a friend to go bigger and better on something you both want to do. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Unresolved issues might crop up this week, Sagittarius. However, you can tackle anything that comes your way if you think out all of the angles. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, it is important to speak your mind, even when you are not sure how your opinions will be received. Share your opinions and ask others for theirs. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Aquarius, communication is your best bet this week. Make an effort to speak openly with loved ones and you will be glad for having made the extra effort. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Now is a great time to work on new relationships, Pisces. Pay extra attention to a newfound friend or love interest. Amy Alkon