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Tuesday, March 20, 2012 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Boundless belittling beefs bother bridegroom Dear Annie: My wife of three years always seems to have something derogatory to say about ''Janie,'' my 20-year-old daughter from my first marriage. If Janie vacuums, my wife says she didn't do it right. If she has a half-filled garbage can, my wife tells her it needs to be emptied, etc. I am so tired of the nitpicking, but I don't know what to do. My wife and I have a tod- dler girl and a 7-month-old boy, and I love them more than any- thing. But don't you think she should mind her own business about my older daughter? — On the Edge in Pittsburgh Dear Edge: To some extent, yes. Janie is a member of the household and should do her chores. However, your wife needs to find better ways to handle Janie, or she will create resentment all around. Please don't simmer silently. Talk to your wife so she understands how much this bothers you. See a counselor who specializes in blended families. And contact the National Stepfamily Resource Center (stepfamilies.info) for help. Dear Annie: We are volunteers at an educational center that teaches English, provides tutoring and offers social services to minorities. The problem is our supervisor. He is constantly rude and sharp with the volunteers, as well as with prospec- tive financial donors who could help support the program. When we Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar bring this to his attention, he will take some responsibili- ty in the moment, but he proceeds the next day as if the conversation never took place. Over the past seven years, his behavior has got- ten worse. I know he received some counseling in the past, but there has been no improvement. We have watched him bark orders at the paid staff, and he sel- dom uses ''please'' or ''thank you'' with anyone. He speaks poorly of others and disre- gards any suggestions made to him. He takes advantage of the volun- teers by asking them to do personal favors, and he once asked a volun- teer to loan him money. He reports to a board where he has formed a couple of friendships that are more personal than profes- sional, and they aren't inclined to do anything. How do we handle this? We don't want to quit, although a couple of valuable people have left and it has had a huge impact. We have put a lot of time and energy into this program and have formed relationships with the students. We don't want to shortchange them because of this supervisor. Any sug- gestions? — Feeling Stepped On Dear Stepped On: Asking for personal favors and loans is com- pletely inappropriate and should be reported. However, if continuous attempts to get the supervisor to change his ways have failed and the board will not intervene, your choice is to put up with this behav- ior or leave. Some people would interpret the supervisor's personality as more brusque than bullying and would ignore most of it. In fact, you might even be able to correct him at the time, as long as you use tolerant humor. If you opt to stay, this is the tack we would recommend. Dear Annie: Your advice to ''Not a Mommy'' was spot on. I, too, have never wanted kids. When asked to hold a baby, I reply, ''Thanks. I can see it from here.'' Older women used to ask, ''Who will care for you when you're old?'' But where are those adult children now? Living across the country with families of their own? It makes no sense to have a child to support you in your old age, to save your marriage or to please your husband, parents or society. One of the first things I told my fiance was that if he wanted kids, he needed to move on. We've been married 28 years. A woman should- n't feel bad because she is not moth- er material. Children are better off with someone who will cherish them. — Not Mother Material Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254 Local agency receives $10k grant Northern Valley Catholic Social Service (NVCSS) of Tehama County was awarded a $10,000 grant from the California Endowment, which was looking to fund a program that actively helps build healthy communi- ties. NVCSS Tehama County has designed a program called Food 4 Thought that combines nutrition and life skills education with handing out nutritious foods for families. The grant will support the Food 4 Thought program delivered out of the Red Bluff Family Resource Center. Center staff shop for the contents of the grocery bags and assemble them according the participating numbers and number of family members. Families arrive on Fri- days to attend life skills — including nutrition and cooking — classes. After each class is completed, each family receives a food box with the needed food items to cook the nutritious meals discussed in class, and some food staple items. Each family will participate for 10 weeks, during which they have the opportunity to learn basic life skills and other positive new behaviors. There will be five 10-week cycles total. Families are referred by Tehama County Department of Social Services. Meds — Use them right, keep out of sight It is natural for children to explore their surround- ings- unless they're getting under the kitchen sink or into the medicine cabinet where hazardous chemi- cals and medicines are kept. As National Poison Prevention Week, March 18-24, approaches, Safe Kids California reminds parents to make sure to store hazardous materials, such as medication out of their children's reach. Each year, unintention- al poisoning is the cause of death for about 100 chil- dren ages 14 and under. Poison control centers in the United States receive 1.2 million calls as a result of accidental poisoning of children ages 5 and under. Nearly 90 percent of these exposures occur in the home and 56 percent involve non-pharmaceuti- cal products such as cos- metics, cleansers, personal care products, plants, pes- ticides, art supplies, alco- hol and toys. "Based on cases report- ed to the poison control centers, half of all poison- related deaths among chil- dren ages 5 and under involve medicine," Safe Kids California Coordina- tor Katie Smith said. "Children have faster metabolisms than adults and anything they ingest can be absorbed in the bloodstream very quick- ly." National Poison Pre- vention Week is a week nationally designated by Congress since 1961 to highlight the dangers of poisonings and how to prevent them. Child-resis- tant packaging is credited with saving hundreds of children's lives. Still, there is no substitute for active supervision and child- proofing. "If a product label says 'Keep out of reach of chil- dren', there's a reason," Smith said. "Keep it up and away and stored in a locked location." Safe Kids California COMPLETE AUTO REPAIR All makes and models. We perform dealer recommened 30K, 60K, 90K SERVICES AT LOWER PRICES Smog Check starting at $ (most cars and pick-ups) 2595 + cert. Pass or FREE retest 527-9841 • 195 S. 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Donation $ Jewish style food and worship Limited seating of 50 850 For tickets and information contact Barbara at 527-7695 advises parents and care- givers to program the toll free poison control num- ber: 1(800)222-1222 into their cell and home phones to quickly connect to a poison control center from anywhere in the United States. "If a child is choking, having trouble breathing or having a seizure, call 911 instead," Smith said. "Follow the 911 operator's instructions. Do not induce vomiting or give the child any fluid or med- ication unless directed." Safe Kids California offers these additional tips" • Always store medi- cines and vitamins up and away in a locked location, out of sight of children • Never give adult med- ication to children •Never call medication candy or tell children it tastes like candy •Always use the dosing device packaged with the medications, never use a household utensil • Remind babysitters, house guests and visitors to keep purses and bags that contain medicine up and away when they visit your home For more information about poison prevention visit www.safekids.org or www.calpoison.org. Safe Kids California works to prevent uninten- tional childhood injury, the leading cause of death and disability to children ages 1 to 14. Safe Kids Califor- nia, led by the Child Abuse Prevention Center of Sacramento, is a part of Safe Kids Worldwide. Adult acne has many treatment options DEAR DOC- TOR K: I'm a woman in my mid-50s plagued with acne for the first time in my life. Please help! DEAR READ- ER: Most people get acne in child- hood — about 80 percent of teenagers suffer from it. However, it's not that unusual for someone to first get it later in life. monly used for treating acne, but it can irritate your skin. A microencapsulat- ed form of the drug is less irri- tating. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. The most po werful retinoid is isotretinoin. You take it by mouth rather than applying it to your skin. Isotretinoin is very Acne occurs when the lining of hair follicles becomes blocked. Hair follicles are little pores in the skin through which hairs grow. Tiny glands in the skin squirt body oils into the folli- cles. The oils can thicken and block the opening of the hair pores and the glands. Skin bacteria feed on the oils, and in doing so produce inflammatory sub- stances. If the blockage of the glands and pores prevents the inflamma- tory substances from getting out, the result is acne. Fortunately, there are several effective treat- ments for acne. If you have mild acne that's not inflamed, try a non-pre- scription cream or lotion containing benzoyl per- oxide. This will help keep pores open and discour- age the growth of bacte- ria. Non-prescription creams or gels contain- ing salicylic acid and sulfur can help existing acne to dry and peel. However, they won't prevent new eruptions. Topical antibiotics such as erythromycin are available with a pre- scription. Prescription antibiotic pills are even more effective. Both kill bacteria involved in the development of acne. Retinoids are a com- mon and useful acne treatment. They are derived from vitamin A and are available by pre- scription. Retinoids are especially effective when used with antimi- crobial drugs. These include antibiotics and benzoyl peroxide. Tretinoin (Retin-A) is the retinoid most com- effective for severe acne, but it can have severe side effects and can cause birth defects if taken during pregnancy. So women should be absolutely sure they are not in the earliest stage of pregnancy (meaning they've had a period very recently) before taking the drug. Oral contraceptives are often effective to treat acne, although they also can bring on acne in some people. If they don't work, a drug called spironolactone may be added or used alone. Light and laser treat- ments may help treat acne or acne scars. How- ever, their effectiveness is still up for debate. After treatment has been successful, how do you keep acne from coming back? Wash your face with soap and warm water twice a day and use oil-free creams on your face. Some of my patients tell me they've heard that acne in adulthood is caused by having too much sex. The good news is, it's not true. We have a lot more information on acne in our Special Health Report, "Skin Care and Repair." You can find out more about it at my website. 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