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Tuesday, July 9, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Husband's distance creating problems Painful fibroids can come that for many years, Dear Annie: This is my but it went sour. What can second marriage. My huswe do to get these problems band has two children from corrected? Should we send a his first marriage and a graduation gift? — Hurting stepdaughter. His first wife in Oklahoma had several affairs. I feel it Dear Oklahoma: First, may have been due to his while your relationship with lack of support for her. He these children seems distant, was always working and never had time for his wife Annie's let's not mix apples and oranges. Unless your phone and kids. number is programmed into We married five years after his divorce. My hus- by Kathy Mitchell this grandchild's phone, band and I are happy, and and Marcy Sugar your name would not come up when you texted, and she he is devoted to me. But he continues to work a great deal, and would not have known who was I am often lonely. I know it would contacting her. You can call the help to have my own outside inter- children and grandchildren directly ests and hobbies and to go out with and ask how to warm up the relamy friends, but I miss the closeness tionship. But we can't promise anyI had with my first husband. We did thing will change unless your husband becomes more involved, and everything together. The problem now is his kids. We he does not seem inclined. But have not spoken to them in nearly please send a graduation gift. It's a three years. When his oldest grand- start. Dear Annie: I am at my wits' daughter sent us a graduation invitation, I sent her a text thanking her end. I have tried every angle imagfor inviting us. She wrote back, inable to stop an employee from ''Who is this? I do not recognize the showing her butt crack. I even number.'' That really hurt me. I bought her a long T-shirt. She wore gave nine years of my life to that lit- it once and says she can't find it. Am I wrong to think that she tle girl, trying to be a good stepgrandmother. I wrote her back and should not be allowed to dress this said, ''Once upon a time, you called way? She says that I am the only me Grandmommie. I still love and person who has a problem with it, miss you.'' I have heard nothing but I'm simply the only one willing to speak up. Firing her is not an more from her. My husband's children have no option. — Fairfield, Conn. Dear Fairfield: If there is no respect for their father because he was always gone. I tried to over- consequence for dressing so unpro- Mailbox fessionally, there is no reason for her to change her clothes. Dress codes should be enforced. We recommend you talk to whoever is in charge and ask that a dress code be established and consequences spelled out — including termination for someone who repeatedly and deliberately refuses to adhere to the requirements of the job. This girl undoubtedly believes her exhibitionism is appealing. But it is actually a source of ogling and amusement at her expense. She should save it for after hours. Dear ''No Hypocrite in Paducah, Ky.,'' who is addicted to alcohol, criticized family members for being addicted to food. He said, ''How is it more legitimate to grab a doughnut when under stress than to pour myself a cocktail?'' There is a huge difference. I grew up in a home where both of my parents were alcoholics. Alcohol changes a person's behavior toward others. Food does not. I would much rather have had obese parents than emotionally damaging alcoholics. I wouldn't have needed so many years in therapy. — Lynn in Louisville Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P Box 118190, .O. Chicago, IL 60611. Telephone promotions target seniors Passages HICAP (Health Insurance Counseling & Advocacy Program) is warning savvy seniors about a new telemarketing scheme that has been reported in our area. Seniors have reported receiving calls promoting a mail-order diabetic supply service, even though they are not diabetic. This new wave of telemarketing calls comes on the heels of new Medicare rules on how people with Medicare can get their diabetic supplies via mail order. The recent calls that seniors have been receiving appear to be coming from within the United States, however investigation suggests they are coming from Canada or other countries. The new Medicare rules, part of the Durable Medical Equipment Prosthetic Orthotics and Supplies (DMEPOS) expansion, required that diabetic suppliers competitively bid with Medicare to become authorized vendors for mail order supplies effective July 1. This has caused many companies to no longer be accredited to be contracted with Medicare, causing beneficiaries to seek other sources to get their diabetic supplies, such as lancets, test strips, etc. via mail-order. This change has been troubling for some who are home bound or who cannot go to their local Medicare contracted pharmacy, causing them to be targets of unsolicited telemarketing calls. Medicare will help pay for supplies if a mail-order contract supplier is used or obtained from a local pharmacy or storefront. Local stores don't have to be Medicare contract suppliers unless they're also offering diabetic supplies through the mail. Check with your pharmacy to find out if you can get your diabetic supplies at the new mail-order price. Based on bids submitted, beneficiaries and Medicare will see prices, on average 72 percent lower on diabetic testing supplies nationwide. Consumers, physicians and other providers can find a list of Medicare contract suppliers in their areas by visiting www.medicare.gov/supplier/home.asp or call HICAP at 1-800-4340222. If seniors are receiving unsolicited calls offering diabetic supplies or asking for personal banking information, HICAP is asking that they get as much information from the caller, then contact HICAP and ask for the SMP (Senior Medicare Patrol) Fraud Liaison. We will take your information and alert the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services (CMS) as needed. It is important to know that Medicare or Social Security will never call you to verify your address or bank account information or anything else. Unless you have called them first and requested a return call back contact, Medicare or Social Security does not make outbound calls. Passages helps older adults and family caregivers with important services to empower them to remain confident in their ability to sustain and enjoy independent lives. For more information about Passages services call 1-800-822-0109 or go to www.passagescenter.org. be removed fere with fertility DEAR DOCmay be surgically TOR K: I saw my removed. There doctor for intense are several techpain and heavy niques: bleeding during — In a my periods. It myomectomy, the turns out I have fibroid is cut from fibroids. What are the uterine wall. my treatment Myomectomy options? Dr. K allows a woman to DEAR READby Anthony L. ER: A fibroid is a Komaroff, M.D. keep her entire uterus in case she lump or growth in the uterus. The uterus is wants to have children. In made of a special kind of some cases, a traditional muscle. The muscle does- surgical approach is needn't do much most of the ed. The doctor makes a time, but once a month, it large incision in the lower ejects the bloody dis- abdomen, sees the uterus charge that collects inside directly and cuts out the it. During pregnancy, it fibroids. Often a less invasive expands to accommodate the growing baby. And, of procedure, laparoscopic course, the uterus surgery, can be done. A squeezes out the baby at flexible tube or scope is placed through those incithe time of birth. Fibroids are balls of sions. At the end of the uterine muscle. They are scope is a light, a camera almost never cancerous, and surgical instruments but they can cause severe that the doctor can manippain and discomfort, most ulate. Instead of seeing the often during menstrual uterus and fibroids directperiods. In some cases, ly, the doctor sees them on fibroids can cause infertil- a video monitor and ity or repeated miscar- watches the surgery she is riages. Fortunately, many doing on the monitor. Because laparoscopic protreatment options exist. Fibroids can be as cedures are less invasive, small as a pea or as large people recuperate faster. — In a hysteroscopic as a basketball (really). They are usually round resection, a viewing and pinkish, and they can instrument called a hysgrow anywhere inside or teroscope is inserted into on the uterus. (I've put an the uterus through the illustration on my website, vagina. Surgical instruments attached to the hysAskDoctorK.com.) Some women with teroscope remove fibroids fibroids do not have symp- growing inside the uterus. — In the X-ray-guided toms and may not realize they have them until a procedure called uterine gynecologist feels them artery embolization, mateduring a pelvic exam. rial is injected into the Small fibroids that are not arteries that provide blood causing symptoms and to the fibroids. Starving don't interfere with fertili- the fibroid of blood ty do not need to be treat- shrinks it. — Hysterectomy ed. In other cases, women involves the removal of experience pain and heavy the uterus. Once the uterus bleeding. A doctor may is removed, a woman can prescribe medications that no longer bear children. Fibroids often shrink stop the ovaries from making the female hor- on their own after mone estrogen, which menopause, because they fibroids need in order to no longer have enough grow. This controls exces- female hormones to grow. sive bleeding and temDr. Komaroff is a physiporarily shrinks the fibroids. When the med- cian and professor at Harication is stopped, periods vard Medical School. To send questions, go to return and fibroids start AskDoctorK.com, or write: growing again. Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck Fibroids that cause St., Second Floor, Boston, severe symptoms or inter- MA 02115. HOME SERVICES DIRECTORY Online: Publishes 24/7 Print $ and www.redbluffdailynews.com 109 On-Line Per Month Three additional online locations at no extra cost! No early cancellation, non-refundable In Print Every Tuesday - Thursday - Saturday Building Construction Clock Repair Construction R. G. 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