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Thursday, May 30, 2013 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Relentless romeo flirting with assault ''unfriending'' her on Facebook. — Raised with Manners Dear Manners: Martha was remiss not to send a card of congratulations. But when friends go in different directions — figuratively as well as physically — the closeness tends to fade. It doesn't mean Martha no longer cares, only that the friendship has become a casual interest. Facebook is actually perfect for that. You can keep track of each other without having to invest any genuine effort. Dear Annie: I believe you missed the boat with your answer to ''Irritated by Lack of Thoughtfulness,'' who said a woman carried on a cellphone conversation during a funeral. You said it was impolite, but added that the phone could be turned on ''mute'' or ''vibrate'' and emergencies handled out of earshot. We have lost all sensitivity to others. At funerals, weddings and church services, phones should be left at home or in the car. If something is so important that one must stay connected, one should not attend the function. Not so long ago, cellphones didn't exist, and we managed to survive. — Litchfield, Maine after college. But we always Dear Annie: I am in my talked about our future wed20s and am engaged to a dings and vowed to attend beautiful girl. Our religion each other's. Meanwhile, I prohibits sex before marmoved to the East Coast, riage. But when ''Donna'' and Martha moved to the tells me to stop kissing her, West Coast. We stayed in I persist. I don't see why touch and occasionally saw not. It's just kissing. each other in our homeDonna says she has not been firm enough with me Annie's town. I was not asked to be a and when she says no, she bridesmaid at Martha's wedmeans no. Yesterday, I was sitting next to Donna and by Kathy Mitchell ding, but I traveled to Calistarted kissing her on the and Marcy Sugar fornia with my fiance to attend and also went to her lips. She said no, and when I didn't stop, she slapped my face. bridal shower in our hometown. Very It felt like I had been stung by a few others did because of the cost bee. Donna told me she definitely and the distance. Her parents told me they were thrilled that I was there. had to slap me. About 10 months after Martha's My cousin said that in a dating situation, the woman sets the rules, wedding, I married on the East and it is her prerogative to slap a Coast. Of course, Martha was invitman's face if she feels he has gone ed, but she RSVP'd that she could too far. Do you agree? I don't think not attend. She gave no reason. My first anniversary is approaching, she had to slap me. — John Dear John: It's hard to believe and I have yet to hear any words of you are living in this century. While congratulations from my ''best we don't recommend that women friend'' — no card or gift or even a go around slapping men, anything phone call. I also haven't heard you do after Donna says ''no'' anything from her parents. Back in could be considered assault or even my hometown, my mother occaattempted rape. She is entitled to sionally runs into Martha's mother. defend herself. She could call the She has never mentioned my marpolice. Show some respect for your riage. I am terribly hurt. It seems clear girlfriend, and stop kissing her when she asks you to stop. You that Martha doesn't care about me sound too immature to get married. or want to continue our friendship. Dear Annie: I am a 32-year-old I am trying to put this behind me, professional woman and a newly- but I am puzzled that neither she wed. I have been best friends with nor her family had the common ''Martha'' since the first grade, courtesy to send a note of congratalthough we began to drift apart ulations. I am thinking of Mailbox Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. 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Leader of the Pack will be directed by Dean Munroe with musical direction by Dr. Elizabeth Waterbury and set designs by David Fraser. For more information, visit www.shastacollege.edu/theatre or call 242-2369. Jerry Douglas at Cascade One of the most critically acclaimed musicians of the string world will take command of the stage when the Cascade Theatre presents Jerry Douglas in concert at 7:30 p.m. on Thursday, June 13. The Dobro star's appearance will be the first concert in the Cascade Theatre's 2013-14 Performance Series. Internationally recognized as the world's top Dobro player, Jerry Douglas has garnered thirteen Grammy Awards and numerous International Bluegrass Music Association awards, and holds the distinction of being named "Musician of the Year" by The Country Music Association (2002, 2005, 2007), The Academy of Country Music (11 times), and The Americana Music Association (2002, 2003). In addition to his thirteen solo recordings, Douglas has played on more than 1,600 albums. As a sideman, he has recorded with artists as diverse as Ray Charles, Eric Clapton, Dolly Parton, Mumford & Sons, Keb' Mo', Ricky Skaggs, Elvis Costello, and Johnny Mathis. Now, at a point in his life where most other musicians have settled into a routine Jerry Douglas eagerly embraces new creative challenges. Tickets are $24 - $44 and are available at the Cascade Theatre Box Office at 1733 Market Street in Redding, by phone at (530) 243-8877 or directly through the Cascade Theatre website at www.cascadetheatre.org. The the Mercy Foundation North team." "As a member of a long standing Redding family, I have always been impressed with the tremendous impact the Sisters of Mercy have made and continue to make in our region. 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