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2B Daily News – Friday, March 29, 2013 FEATURES Boyfriend wants a girlfriend Dear Annie: I'm a gay man and have been with my boyfriend for four years. I know he's bisexual, but I guess I didn't understand. He told me recently that he wants to have a girlfriend in Annie's addition to seeing me. I understand the logic, but I don't by Kathy Mitchell like it. I don't feel and Marcy Sugar threatened. I know he loves me, and he's not going to replace me with another guy. He views our relationship as steady. I'm sure if he ever settles down, it will be with me. I have a five-year head start over this girl, but it doesn't sit right with me. Whenever I bring up concerns about sharing him or what the future will be like, he says we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. Annie, what if he wants a child — or decides to marry a woman to avoid the stigma of being gay? He'd still expect me to hang on. And whenever I issue an ultimatum about not dating anyone else, he says I'm allowed to leave whenever I want. I don't know whether he doesn't care or knows I don't really mean it. I love him and want to be with him forever, but I don't think I could get used to being ''the other man.'' What do I do? — Confused and Hurt from Mailbox North Dakota Dear North Dakota: It doesn't matter whether your boyfriend is gay, straight, bisexual or from another planet. He wants to have someone else in his bed, and you apparently don't consider this cheating. You say his heart belongs to you, and yet you believe he could marry someone else. He isn't being fair to you. You know this, which is why it doesn't ''sit right,'' but you permit it to continue because somewhere in your head, you are convinced he is committed to you. He is not. He is manipulating you into sticking around while he plays the field. After five years, it might be a good idea to set him free. If you are still available when he's ready to settle down, he can contact you then. Otherwise, you are only making yourself miserable and anxious. Dear Annie: I took my 13-yearold cat to the vet yesterday and found out she has diabetes that is treatable. I will be learning how to give her shots. I don't drive, so my mom gave me a ride back from the vet, and I told her the diagnosis. She said, ''You might want to put her down if you're not able to give her the shots.'' Why would a person think so negatively? Why would she advise me to do such a thing when I've barely had an opportunity to start administering care? Mom has a cat that's not nearly as sweet as mine, but it's not as if she doesn't understand. Please tell people to keep their negative attitude to themselves — Iowa Dear Iowa: Mom was probably projecting her attitude onto you. She might not be as willing to take such care of her cat and uttered that thought aloud. Most people do not intend to say unkind, negative things. They simply open their mouths before their brains are in gear. Please forgive her. Dear Annie: ''Soon To Be Family Outcast'' asked whether she had to attend a wedding in Canada, saying passports are too expensive. You answered the question, but you didn't address her comment about passports. One can get a passport card for about $55. If that is still beyond her means, she can look into an Enhanced Driver's License. — Michael in Indianapolis Dear Michael: We're happy to clarify. An Enhanced Driver's License allows land or sea travel between the U.S. and Canada and, at the moment, is available in only four states. For information, contact getyouhome.gov. Passport cards (also land and sea travel) are issued by the U.S. Dept. of State (travel.state.gov). Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Comedian Anderson still hurting from diving mishap SIOUX FALLS, S.D. (AP) — Comedian Louie Anderson says he's been in pain all week from a recent diving mishap during a taping of the ABC celebrity diving show ''Splash.'' Anderson, who weighs more than 400 pounds, was trying to do a flip from the 5-meter board when he slammed into the water, landing on his face and chest. ''If I were lying down right now, you would have to help me up,'' the 60- year-old Anderson said Wednesday. ''It's been almost a week and it still hurts almost as much.'' Anderson, who skipped diving practice Tuesday night to take the stage in Sioux Falls, S.D., for a show benefiting the Brennan Rock & Roll Academy, said he asked the ''Splash'' staff after the accident if he was suffering internal bleeding or damage but was told no. ''They said, 'That's your abs. You've never worked them,''' Anderson joked. ''The last time I worked them was when I was struggling to get out of my mother. That was it, and I haven't worked them since.'' The American version of ''Splash,'' a surprise hit that originated in Europe, has Olympic gold medalist Greg Louganis coaching a diverse cast of celebrities that includes Detroit Lions lineman Ndamukong Suh, 2012 Miss Alabama Katherine Webb, basket- ball great Kareem AbdulJabbar and former Baywatch star Nicole Eggert. Anderson said he's not alone coming away with some bumps and bruises. ''Ndamukong Suh hit his nose. Kareem AbdulJabbar sprained his neck,'' he said. ''Nicole was up on a handstand and she slammed her chest and stomach into the 5-meter board and then fell into the water — and then, two hours later, had to do the dive on TV.'' Nuts to those who say that nuts are bad high in caloDEAR DOCTOR K: ries, people You've mentioned nuts who eat them as a healthy snack in more frequentprevious columns. I ly are less likethought nuts were high ly to gain in fat and calories. weight or be DEAR READER: obese. How Nuts are high in fat and can that be? calories, and they are also a great food. Am I Dr. K Weight loss is about eating nuts? by Anthony L. As we've often said Komaroff, M.D. fewer calories (and increasin this column, there are "good fats" and "bad fats." ing physical activity). So, if Nuts mainly have the for- nuts make you feel full, permer. The "good fats" are haps you'll eat less overall. Nuts seem to protect monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats. Those against heart disease as fats are essential and deliver well. Switching to a nutlots of health benefits, as I'll filled diet tends to improve discuss in more detail. And cholesterol levels, lower nuts have relatively few blood pressure and reduce These "bad fats" — artery-clog- inflammation. ging saturated fats, trans fats changes may translate into real benefits: In observaand cholesterol. With small portion sizes, tional studies, people who you can keep the calories in eat more nuts have lower check. I love nuts, and the rates of heart disease. Nuts may help with diaonly way I can discipline myself is to buy them betes, too. Normally, blood prepackaged in small bags sugar spikes after we eat. and limit myself to no more Those post-meal spikes than one or two bags per contribute to diabetes in people vulnerable to getting day. Nuts pack a nutritious it, and these spikes must be punch of protein, vitamin E, controlled in people who folic acid, magnesium, already have diabetes. Nuts potassium and fiber. don't cause blood sugar to Almonds, walnuts, peanuts spike. What's more, nuts (though peanuts actually are can blunt the effects of cara legume, not a nut), bohydrates on blood sugar. There are lots of ways to cashews and hazelnuts are all good choices. (On my incorporate nuts into your website, AskDoctorK.com, diet. Add almonds or walI've put a table listing the nuts to your cereal or lowamounts of calories, fat and fat yogurt at breakfast. Toss protein in a variety of nuts.) them into a pasta dish, or Nuts contain very little use finely chopped nuts in carbohydrate. Fats of all place of breadcrumbs as a types are better at satisfying coating for chicken or fish. your appetite than carbs. My favorite way? Enjoying Unlike chips and other a small handful of nuts as an high-carbohydrate snacks, afternoon snack. And nuts don't leave you hungry among them must be right away. As a result, almonds — in my opinion, you're less likely to overeat. the most delicious nuts of Even though nuts are all.