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4B Daily News – Wednesday, January 9, 2013 FEATURES Beau worries about gal's mama's boy son couraging too much intimaDear Annie: I am a 56cy. Some boys can confuse year-old male dating a their love for Mom with woman with a 13-year-old their developing sexual feelson. We plan to marry in ings. Please approach this the near future. carefully. Suggest that the The boy has no relationtwo of you talk to the boy's ship with his father and is pediatrician about approprivery fond of me, as I am of ate behavior, and make sure him. The problem is that he's a mama's boy. I think Annie's your girlfriend understands that her son's long-term best he is jealous of me. He interests must take prececompetes for his mother's attention and goes so far as by Kathy Mitchell dence. For information and to crawl into bed with us in and Marcy Sugar assistance, we suggest the National Stepfamily the morning in order to Center at snuggle with her. When we sit on Resource the sofa, he joins us and places his stepfamilies.info. Dear Annie: I married a wonmother's arm around his neck as if derful widower nine months ago. to say, ''Hey, what about me?'' I've tried to ignore this behavior, We are both in our 60s, and he treats but it is starting to wear on me. My me like a queen. ''Vern's'' previous marriage of girlfriend sees nothing wrong with it, saying they have always been 34 years was a great one. When we close and it's always been just the married, he had lots of photos of his two of them. But I think this isn't late wife. He thoughtfully removed quite right. I want her son to grow them, but what upsets me is that he put a lot of them, including their up a bit. I raised three children and never wedding picture, in his home office experienced this type of thing with where he spends 40 hours a week. my kids. I feel she needs to do Worse, the centerpiece of his booksomething to curb this behavior. shelves is the urn with her ashes. I told Vern I thought this was a Am I being insecure or territorial or something? I love my girlfriend and little odd, but he said it would be don't want this to be an issue, but I disrespectful to put her ashes in a have no idea what to do. Any sug- closet. What do you think? — Second Wife gestions? — Don't Want a Contest Dear Wife: Vern was thoughtful Dear Contest: Many boys at 13 are still children, and the cuddling enough to remove these photos with Mommy is not indicative of an from your presence, and his office aberration. However, this is also a is his own private space. And we time when Mom should be setting can understand why he wouldn't sensible boundaries and gently dis- want to stick the urn in a closet. You Mailbox can gently encourage Vern to scatter his late wife's ashes somewhere that has significance for him or ask whether he'd like to bury them. But if he is resistant, we suggest you leave this alone. Neither the photos nor the ashes are in your shared space. You have no reason to be jealous. Dear Annie: ''Frustrated in Michigan'' said she sent her college-aged nieces very generous checks and didn't get a thank-you note. She then called the mother of one of the recipients to see whether it had been lost. The check was then cashed, but still no thank-you note. In a situation like this, I wonder whether the giver is begging for attention. The gift was unsolicited. It almost seems as if the nieces are saying, ''No, thanks, I'd rather do this myself.'' I have been the recipient of unasked-for gifts, and they almost always come with strings attached. — No Strings for Me Dear Strings: If a gift comes with unwanted strings, it need only be returned — along with a note of thanks. But not to send any acknowledgement at all is extremely inconsiderate. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. COURT ROUND-UP The following defendants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: —————— Recent State Prison Commitments • Andrew Horris Westbrook was sentenced to eight years in state prison for first degree residential burglary with special allegation-two prior felonies. Victim arrived home and heard someone inside his residence. The victim then saw Westbrook attempting to run out the front door with some of his luggage. When Westbrook spotted the victim he dropped the luggage and fled. • Ryan Daniel Cool was sentenced to five years and eight months in state prison for second degree commercial burglary and assault with a deadly weapon. Cool was originally granted formal probation on both cases. He violated his terms of probation when he failed to keep probation informed of his current contact information. • Frances Joseph Mistretta was sentenced to five years and four months in state prison for second degree commercial burglary with special allegation-prior strike; failure to appear Mistretta entered a local business, filled a shopping cart full of items and attempted to exit the store without paying for the items in his cart. He was released from custody and failed to appear in court as ordered. • Ou Nai Saetern was sentenced to four years in state prison for child abuse, assault with a deadly weapon by means likely to produce great bodily injury. Saetern was originally granted formal probation. He violated his terms of probation when he failed to keep in contact with probation and was terminated from the child abuser program. • Elizabeth Lee Holcraft was sentenced to three years in state prison for possession of a controlled substance; failure to appear on own recognizance. A deputy contacted Holcraft who had a warrant out for her arrest. Upon conducting a search of Holcraft's hotel room the deputy located methamphetamine and a glass smoking pipe. Holcraft was released from custody on her own recognizance and failed to appear in court as ordered. • Dillon Christopher McFadyen was sentenced to two years and eight months in state prison for possession of a billy, blackjack, etc.; possession of a short-barreled rifle or shotgun An officer contacted McFayden after becoming aware he had warrants out for his arrest. The officer conducted a search of McFayden's person and located a steel crow bar with electrical tape inside McFayden's pants. McFayden was originally granted formal probation. He violated his terms of probation when he failed to contact his probation officer as required. • Brian Michael Anderson was sentenced to two years in state prison for petty theft with a prior; post release community supervision. Anderson entered a grocery store and attempted to leave without paying for the item in his possession. He was released from prison to post release community supervision. He violated his terms of supervision based upon the offense in NCR84949. • William Paul Mueller was sentenced to two years in state prison for receiving stolen property, motor vehicle. Mueller was originally granted formal probation. He violated his terms of probation when he failed to appear for scheduled probation appointments and for his drug and alcohol testing. • Deborah Simonsen was sentenced to two years in state prison for possession of a controlled substance; obtaining aid by misrepresentation. Simonsen was originally granted formal probation on both cases. She violated her terms of probation when she tested positive for methamphetamine. • Kelly Delmerle Moyer was sentenced to two years in state prison and 365 days in Tehama County Jail for second degree commercial burglary; second degree commercial burglary. Moyer had broken into a local business and stole several cell phones and cash. When officers arrived on scene they located Moyer who then took off on foot. After a brief foot chase Moyer was apprehended and taken into custody. Moyer was originally granted formal probation. He violated his terms of probation when he failed to contact probation as required. Recent County Jail Commitments • Anthony Lee McKinnie was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for grand theft person; second degree commercial burglary. McKinnie entered a local business, put on a new pair of boots and placed his old boots in the shoe box. McKinnie then proceeded to exit the store without paying for the boots. McKinnie and a companion attacked the victim and stole ten dollars from her person. • Ronald David Cook was sentenced to 270 days in Tehama County Jail for carrying a dirk or dagger with special allegationprior felony. An agent observed Cook driving a vehicle and knew him to have a warrant out for his arrest. The agent proceeded to conduct a traffic stop on the vehicle at which point Cook pulled to the side of the road and then fled on foot. Cook was caught a short distance later and was found in possession of a fixed blade knife. Upcoming Court Dates -Trials, Preliminary Hearings(PX) and Pre Trial Conferences(PTC): • Ralph Elvis Martin will appear in court at 8 a.m. on Monday, Jan. 7, in Dept. 3. He is facing the charges of-oral copulation/sexual penetration with a child under 10, forcible oral copulationvictim under 14 years, lewd act upon a child. Martin helps run a daycare facility in his home. Detectives received a report that he had sexually molested one of the children while in his care. After an investigation into the incident Martin was arrested and taken into custody. • Clifford Manuel Palmer will appear in court at 10 a.m. on Monday, Jan. 7, in Dept. 1 for a pretrial conference and 1:30 p.m. on Tuesday, Jan. 8 for a preliminary hearing. He is facing the charges of voluntary manslaughter. Palmer and victim began arguing over who was going to bring firewood into the house. Palmer became angry and hit the victim over the head with his breathing machine and punched him in the face. Victim fell to the floor and stopped breathing. The victim was unable to be revived and died as a result of the incident. • Gary Dean Belcher will appear in court at 1:15 p.m. on Jan. 14 in Dept. 3. He is facing the charges of second degree robbery with special allegation-personal use of a firearm, second degree robbery with special allegation-personal use of a firearm, attempted second degree robbery with special allegation-personal use of a firearm. Belcher entered Bank of America in Corning and demanded money from the teller at gunpoint. The teller filled Belcher's bag with the money she had in her drawer. Belcher fled the scene before officers arrived. During the course of this investigation officers learned Belcher was also responsible for the previous robberies that occurred at the Subway restaurant in Corning and the attempted robbery at the Chevron gas station near Rolling Hills Casino. • Joseph Dailey Froome and Kellie Mae Froome will appear in court at 9 a.m. on Feb. 8, in Dept. 2. He is facing the charges ofFiling False Tax Return with Special Allegation; two counts of offense while on bail or O.R., perjury by declaration with special allegation; two counts of offense while on bail or O.R.; return or information unfiled with special allegation; two counts of offense while on bail or O.R. Kellie is facing the charges of two counts of filing false tax return, two counts of perjury by Declaration, two counts of return or information unfiled. Agents from the Franchise Tax Board conducted and investigation into this incident and determined defendant's had a large sum of money that passed through their personal and business accounts but only a portion of that money was reported on their tax returns. • Joseph Dailey Froome and Daniel Miguel Ludwig will appear in court at 9 a.m. on Feb. 8, in Dept. 2. Froome is facing the charges of cultivating marijuana; possession of marijuana for sale and eight counts of money laundering. 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"The DMV web site offers a convenient alternative for our customers and it is great to see more people choosing online options for services," said DMV Chief Deputy Director, Jean Shiomoto. "We are continually looking for new and innovative ways to provide faster and easier alternatives for customers." Online vehicle registrations, easily the most popular online transaction, numbered 7,641,999 in 2012. Online driver license renewals were also very popular with a 6.9 percent increase from 2011 to 647,463. Online driver license records, which the department began offering in 2011, increased over 35 percent in 2012. In addition, online filings of Notice of Release of Liability jumped 7 percent to 1,486,003. Self-Service Terminal use surged 62 percent to 777,688 in 2012, compared to 469,492 in 2011. Online Business Transactions 2011 2012 (+/-) Driver Record 157,989 214,538 +35.8 percent Driver License Renewal 605,746 647,463 +6.9 percent ID Card Renewal 10,125 33,584 +231percent Vehicle Registrations 7,624,947 7,641,999 +0.22 percent Change of Address 874,313 1,048,908 +20 percent Release of Liability 1,389,546 1,486,003 +7 percent Personalized License Plates 58,139 64,019 +10 percent Self-Service Terminals 469,492 773,688 +64.8 percent Totals 11,190,297 11,910,202 +6 percent The DMV offers an array of services to customers 24 hours a day, 7 days a week through its Website including online appointments for written and drive tests; vehicle registration and driver license renewals, selection of personalized license plates, changes of address and payment of fees via secure debit transactions. Customers can also effect transactions by calling DMV customer service at (800) 777-0133. DMV is a department under the Business, Transportation and Housing Agency.