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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband and I have been married for three years, and I have known his family for five years. I used to get alo ng wel l with them; I would take them to lunch, run errands for them, and visit them frequently. They would do the same for me. A few years ago we had a falling-out when the parents threw me to the wolves. I won't go into the details, but it caused great tension between my husband and me. I completely lost trust in my in-laws. My in-laws never apologized, but I have forgiven them. Because I don't trust them, and because there is still tension in my marriage, which they caused, I am uncomfortable. Now at family get- togethers, my mother- in-law ("Glenda") insists on saying, "I love you." She forces me into hugs. I have always been a private person, and these were not easy things for me to respond to before, but now it's nearly impossible. I'm often met with glares, but would like to know how to politely and graciously react. —Unsure DEAR UNSURE » You deserve credit for want- ing to know how to politely react to some- thing which makes you so uncomfortable. Granted, some people definitely use terms of endearment and close hugs aggressively — or passive aggressively — but you must at least imagine that it is poss- ible that your mother- in-law genuinely wants to make amends with you. You say you have forgiven these people, but you haven't. If you had, you would be able to cope with their behav- ior and not blame them for behaving affection- ately now. Generally, I believe the best way for you to respond to an unwanted or uncomfort- able "I love you" is to say, "Glenda, how nice. Thank you." This is a cordial, gracious, non- committal statement that might demonstrate the polite distance you would like for her to adopt. DEAR AMY » "Rest Easy" was wondering about putting her former and current husbands' last names on her headstone. I wante d to tell h er what my mother did: She had us put her maiden name at the top of the stone and then "Wife of" and both husbands' names and the years they were married below her name. It turned out very well. She was buried next to her first husband (our fa- ther) and the back of the stone listed her children's names (she didn't have children with her second husband). — Missing Her DEAR MISSING HER » I'm impressed that your mother thoughtfully worked all of this out in advance of her death. This made things easier for you. Sometimes 'I love you' seems aggressive instead of sincere You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. 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