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4B Daily News– Wednesday, November 14, 2012 FEATURES Hubby's project turns into marathon Dear Annie: Recently, my husband mentioned that he wanted to get together with some friends for a pro- ject. I encouraged him to invite the guys to our home to work on it. I thought it would be a few hours, but it ended up taking well over 12. They arrived early in the morning and stayed until late that night, taking over our living room. I suggested in private to my husband that he should have wrapped things up by late afternoon. The project is for fun. It's not like they had a deadline for work. It is also designed to continue on a weekly basis for the next six months, so committing to only a portion of the day would not have made much difference. My husband, however, is a peo- ple pleaser and didn't feel he could ask his friends to leave before they wanted to. Would it be wise to dis- cuss a lax but scheduled time of arrival and departure with them in the future, or am I being unfair to suggest that the party should move elsewhere after 10 hours? I want my husband and his friends to feel com- fortable in our home, but I also don't want my house invaded for such a long period of time. — East Coast Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear East Coast: It is always wise to discuss time constraints in advance, particularly when over- Dear Annie: My husband has been put on the lung transplant list, and we are praying and waiting. Please remind your readers about donating their organs. They only need to mark the back of their dri- ver's licenses. Many people are des- perate for a lung, and my husband's time is getting shorter. — Vermont Dear Vermont: People are also desperately waiting for kidneys, liv- ers, hearts and corneas. We urge all of our readers to consider the gift of being an organ donor. Dear Annie: I'd like to add another take to ''Not a Fan of the Big Gulp.'' I agree that a Big Gulp is probably a little over the top. However, I always bring my own canned soda to my family's parties. You see, I am a recovering alco- holic with 24 years of sobriety. Sadly, my family members cannot be trusted not to add liquor to what- avoided. Discovery Center will meet at 7 p.m. Thursday at the Farm Bureau build- ing at 275 Sale Lane to learn about "Winterizing your Yard and Garden." Danielle Zane, former manager of Red Bluff Garden Center, will pro- vide attendees with tips of what to prune, mulch, spray, fertilize, plant or any other activities that need to take place this time of year to produce a beautiful yard and garden in the spring. staying annoys you so much. Some wives would have no objection to a 12-hour marathon. They would occu- py themselves elsewhere, and this is one option for you. But please discuss rea- sonable limits with your husband, allowing yourself to be the ''bad guy'' in order for him to ask his friends to leave when you've had enough. There is no point creating ill will with one's spouse if it could easily be ever is served. My sponsor suggest- ed that I bring my own drink and keep it with me at all times. One can then be certain that alcohol-free drinks are neither tampered with nor inadvertently mixed with alco- holic drinks. nephew's fiancee, I brought my own soda. As I was leaving, my sister took me aside and told me that our niece had spiked the lemonade with vodka so people would ''loosen up.'' I was shocked and angry that this 37-year-old niece would pull such a juvenile and dangerous trick. Aside from my sobriety, she never considered that some guests may have been taking medication that could be lethal in combination with alcohol. — Recovering Drunk Dear Recovering: We are cer- tain that etiquette would give you a pass. We also heard from someone whose well water was tainted. But in most instances, it is rude to bring your own beverage to occasions where there is a variety served. And it is never appropriate to bring a Big Gulp. At a bridal shower for my Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd St., Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Meeting to discuss winterizing your garden The Sacramento River planting of wild flower seeds. This topic is particular- ly important to the volun- teers that at helping at the Discovery Center garden to plant new native species in the revitalized garden. Additional volun- teers are needed to help with propagation of some old favorites and the Assemblyman Jim Nielsen, R-Gerber, was awarded for his outstanding public service to the state of California with the President's Medal of Distinction by California State University, Fresno, of which he is a graduate, during the 31st Annual Agribusiness Management Conference held in Fresno on Nov. 7. "I've always tried to live my life in a manner that would reflect my highest priorities in life- faith, family and leader- ship," Nielsen said. "I am humbled to receive such recogni- Local Businesses: children to design an ad for YOUR business! You can sponsor a whole classroom of entry. Your student-designed ad will be featured in YOU choose the winning Through a Child's Eyes • Published as a full section of The Daily News December 22 • Digital edition stays online for a full year • Top student "ad designers" receive cash prizes! For details and sponsorship reservations call your Daily News advertising representative today! 527-2151 Tuesday, November 20 DAILYNEWS Deadline to agree to sponsor: RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY be followed with a ques- tion and answer period and refreshments will be available. The presentation will events and 2013 member- ship forms will be avail- able. SRDC is selling Mendocino National For- est Christmas tree permits and they will be available The SRDC Calendar of or to volunteer please call Bobie Hughes, volunteer executive director, at 527- 1196 or send an email to bhughe1@tehamaed.org. The center is at 1000 Sale Lane within the Mendocino National For- est's Red Bluff Recreation Area and is open to the public Tuesday through Saturday 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. at this time. For more information Nielsen awarded President's Medal of Distinction tion and I appreciate that I've been able to give something back to the university that has given me so much and to hopefully inspire others in the rising generation to become involved in their communities, locally and even at the state level to become architects of their own destiny." The President's Medal of Distinction is the highest non- degree award presented by California State University, Fresno. It is presented to residents of the region, state or nations, whose contributions in the area of professional achievements or public service are of national or interna- tional significance, or represent a contribution of great sig- nificance to the university. "The President's Medal of Distinction is awarded to those who not only give of their time or money, but are wor- thy of emulation through their leadership," said John D. Welty, president of Fresno California State University. "Fresno State says 'thank you' to one of its outstanding graduates, student-athletes and community members." Nightmares and sleep tremors remain a mystery TOR K: I've been having terrible nightmares, and I don't know what to do. DEAR DOC- DEAR READ- ER: Almost every- one can remember having nightmares now and then. Just as we don't really know why we sleep, we don't really understand nightmares, or why some people are more prone to have them. Nightmares and two related phenomena — sleep terrors and sleep- related panic attacks — can make sleep more stressful than restful: Nightmares can be a Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. side effect of certain med- ications. These include antidepressants, narcotics and barbiturates. Talk to your doctor to see if any medication you're taking might be contributing to your problem. Nightmares can also occur if you stop taking certain drugs, such as ben- zodiazepines. Alcoholics who stop drinking often experience dream distur- bances and nightmares. If you experience fre- quent nightmares that aren't linked to medica- tion use, counseling may help. The most common approach is a type of behavioral therapy known as desensitization. In this therapy, you will be asked to recall the details of your nightmare and use relax- ation techniques to over- come your fear. The thera- pist may guide you through typical dream sequences. For example, the therapist can help you imagine confronting or driving off a pursuer. Psychoanalytic thera- py, on the other hand, may focus on identifying and resolving past and present emotional issues that may be playing themselves out in your nightmares. I'm a skeptic when it comes to the value of psychoanaly- sis in treating nightmares. I'm not aware of solid research that demonstrates it is more helpful in reduc- ing them than behavioral therapy. ror, the sleeper may let out a bloodcurdling scream, — During a sleep ter- college, she had a room- mate who, every few nights, in the middle of the night, suddenly sat upright in bed shouting, "Oh, oh, oh, my God!" Then she promptly lay down and fell asleep. She had no memory of this the next morning. A little uncontrollable, stereo- typed spark had been ignited in her brain. In any event, if you consistently remember your nightmares, you're probably not suffering from sleep terrors. When my sister was in Medications such as benzodiazepines are sometimes prescribed for sleep terrors. Hypnosis or a relaxation technique known as guided imagery may also help. — If you have sleep- related panic attacks, you may awaken suddenly because of episodes of intense panic. You may experience a racing heart- beat, sweating, trembling, breathlessness, or the feel- ing that something terrible is about to happen — like you are about to die. Anti- anxiety drugs are often useful for such panic attacks. sit bolt upright, and attempt to fight or flee. The person may seem confused and agi- tated. After the spell is over, he or she is likely to go right back to sleep. Later, he or she may not remember what happened. The cause of these sleep disorders is a mystery. They might seem like a trivial mystery, but I don't think so. What brought on the sleep terrors in my sis- ter's roommate? Why was it always the same five words: "Oh, oh, oh, my God!"? I wish we knew. I think if we did, we'd understand a lot more about how the brain works. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Winter Crush coming to Corning anyone looking to enjoy a unique experience is invited to join the Lucero family as they host the Second Annual Winter Crush, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 8 at the Lucero Olive Oil Mill in Corning. Event-goers will Families, foodies and enjoy witnessing the annual citrus olive oil crush by touring the mill and tasting the fresh olive oil being made. The event will feature live music performances and a vendor market place highlighting local artisan producers, eater- ies and more than 10 local microbreweries. Attendees will have the opportunity to watch live cooking demonstrations hosted by four local chefs, one of whom will be Lucero Olive Oil's own Bobby Lucero — father of Lucero Olive Oil Founder, Dewey Lucero. There will be a kid's zone that will include jewelry making, bag decorating, olive branch crowns and coloring. "Winter Crush is a great community event that gives our customers the chance to not only witness the production of our citrus olive oil, but they can also sample the product and take some home with them that day," said Dewey Lucero, founder. "With a kid's zone, local restau- rants and microbrew- eries, music and cooking demonstrations, Winter Crush is a fun experi- ence for the whole fami- ly." Lucero had a tremen- dous turn out for its first Winter Crush in 2011 and anticipates atten- dance to double for this year's event. The event is free to attend. For more informa- tionh, visit http://lucerooliveoil.com /blog/recipes/winter- crush-event-december- 8th-10am-4pm/.