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My daughter will feel terrible if her godmother is not welcome, and I am also fearful that the cous- ins will not come if their mother is not welcomed. Am I wrong in think- ing it is OK to invite her, even though they aren't married? Is my husband acting appropriately in telling me it is his call? We are now fight- ing over this and it isn't pleasant for anyone. What's appropriate? —Upset DEAR UPSET » Your husband and his brother have what could be called the primary relationship in this tough triangle. They grew up in the same household and have long- standing familial loyal- ties that your husband is anchoring to now. You can imagine that your husband is under some pressure from his brother. Sibling loyalty trumps your close relationship with your sister-in-law. You can also imagine that, given the breakup, she might not be ready to amicably attend a family event alongside her ex. Because she is the child's godmother, this is an issue you should take to clergy. You and your husband should ask for a meeting. You should invite her, and the couple should work out between them- selves who will attend. You and your former sister-in-law should work hard to maintain your friendship and relation- ship, regardless of what happens with this event. DEAR AMY » I have a sim- ple solution for "Worried Future Mother-in-law," who was worried that the mother of the groom would be drunk and dis- orderly at the wedding. They should simply not serve alcohol at the reception, although they shouldn't tell the groom's mother ahead of time — otherwise she might bring her own, or arrive drunk. — Problem Solved DEAR PROBLEM SOLVED » I have read that "dry" receptions are on the up- swing, but many couples, their families and friends, are not willing to sacrifice their own imbibing. I absolutely believe in limiting alcohol served at these celebrations. Alcohol use at weddings leads to problems that last far beyond the typical hangover. 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