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AUGUST 3-9, 2016 UCW 23 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM WEEKLY HOROSCOPE ADVICE GODDESS Crazy Cad Lady Four months ago, I started hooking up with this hot guy I met on Tinder. He isn't someone I'd normally go for; he's a total mess and serious trouble. He always made me come to his place, and I always left feeling gross rather than satisfied. However, about once a month, I'd feel attached and confess this to him. He'd go into hiding, but he always came back for sex. The whole thing made me worried, anxious and sad, so I deleted his contact info, but I miss him and think about him constantly. How do I stay strong? If he texted me, I'd just run back to his bed. — Detoxing Because women can get "impregnated and abandoned," anthropologist John Marshall Townsend explains, female emotions evolved to act as an "alarm system" to monitor the "quality and reliability" of male investment and "remedy deficiencies even when (women) try to be indifferent to investment." In a study of Townsend's I've referenced before, even when women wanted nothing but a shag from some dude — basically seeing him as useful meat — they often found themselves fretting the morning after about whether he cared about them or only wanted sex. These women aren't mushy-minded idiots. Chances are, they've been roofied into these feelings — by their own bodies. Oxytocin — a hormone associated with emotional bonding — gets released in both men and women through cuddling, kissing and orgasm. However, men's far greater supply of testosterone — especially when they aren't in a committed relationship — can act as a sort of nightclub bouncer, blocking the uptake of oxytocin. As for the monthly pull this guy has on you, research by evolutionary psychologists Kelly Gildersleeve and Martie Haselton suggests that once a month — during ovulation — a woman seeking casual sex is more likely to be drawn to a cad's more masculine features (like a square jaw and a muscular build). As for how you might quit this particular cad, let's get real. Deleting somebody's number doesn't stop them from calling. You've got to block his number. You might also use free smartphone apps — like Productive, to motivate yourself by ticking off the days you've gone cadless, and Clue, to track your ovulation. For added fortitude, make a list of the ways sex with him makes you feel. Being worried, anxious, sad and grossed out can sometimes be a reason to get a man over pronto — but only if he's a miracle worker of a plumber." Copyright Amy Alkon NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD A 28-year- old woman, unnamed in news reports, veered off the road and into a house in the Florida panhandle town of Mary Esther on July 7. She apparently was free of drug or alcohol influence, but readily explained to police that she must have gone through a stop sign and left the road when she closed her eyes to pray as she drove. (The house was damaged, but no one was injured.) [Daily News of Northwest Florida, 7-11-2016] Weird Numbers Making the News Recently The Transportation Security Administration announced in May that it had collected $765,000 in loose change left behind in airport scanner trays during 2015 — an average "haul" for the agency of $2,100 a day (numbers assuming, of course, that TSA personnel turn in all of the money they find). Los Angeles and Miami airports contributed $106,000 of the total. [WTOP Radio (Washington, D.C.), 5-17-2016] Take Your Word for It: Scientists at the University of Cambridge, writing in May in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, claimed to have figured out how to construct a "motor" a "million times" smaller than an ant. (It apparently involves lasers, gold particles and "van der Waals forces," and the object is to bind the gold particles and then cause them to automatically "snap" apart with, according to author Jeremy Baumberg, "10 to 100 times more force per unit than any known other machine.") [Washington Post, 5-3-2016] CEO Michael Pearson told a Senate committee in April that he "regret(s)" the business model he instituted in 2015 for Valeant Pharmaceuticals — the one that, for example, allowed a drug (Cuprimine) that treats liver failure and formerly cost a typical user out-of-pocket about $3 a pill (120 per month, $366) to, overnight, cost the user $15 a pill. (The insurance company's and Medicare's cost went overnight from about $5,000 per 100 tablets to $26,000.) (A Deutsche Bank analysis of the industry tallied Valeant's all-drug average price spike at more than five times the average of any competitor's.) Pearson told the senators he had no idea that such a pricing strategy would turn out to be so controversial. [New York Times, 4-28- 2016, 10-4-2015] COPYRIGHT CHUCK SHEPPARD ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, you know how to lay on the charm to get a job done, and you might need to work your magic this week. Some might scoff, but the end results will be positive. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 Taurus, your work ethic is recognized by superiors this week. Accept this well-earned praise, but keep working hard to maintain your reputation. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 Gemini, while you may have one foot on the ground, your head seems to be up in the clouds. Make an effort to regain your focus so you can finish the tasks at hand. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 Problem-solving does not interest you this week, Cancer. You just want things spelled out to you in black and white. If things become too complicated, ask for clarification. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 Leo, the pressure to make decisions is easing up, and you can finally relax and focus on entertaining things. Take some time to strengthen an important relationship as well. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, ideas in your head are developing so quickly that you can't pin one down. Your creativity is a feather in your cap, so make an effort to sort out your ideas. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Decisions that seemed so easy to make just a few days ago now seem like uphill battles. Don't sell yourself short, as you can handle the challenges ahead. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 You have an ability to attract power and love, Scorpio. Make the most of this power and try to help others as much as possible. You will be glad for having done so. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Sagittarius, recent contributions on the job are finally getting you some special attention. Your efforts paint you as a team player, and others are taking notice. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, a big decision has you mulling all of the potential outcomes. Take a few breaths and some extra time to reevaluate your priorities in the next few days. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Aquarius, beauty is everywhere if you just look for it. Pay attention to the little details that can show you the potential of others. You may be surprised at what you find. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Pisces, you are much more comfortable when surrounded by a close network of friends. Organize a get-together with your social circle. Amy Alkon Chuck Sheppard