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FEATURES Dear Annie: My son has been dating ''Mered- ith'' for quite some time. They live together at col- lege and plan to marry next year. I don't know how to han- dle this girl. She never says thank you when you give her a gift, even in person, or when we cook dinner for her. And when the rest of us get up to clear the table, she just sits there. It's awkward for me to ask her to help. She apparently was brought up without manners. I have discussed this with my son, who doesn't seem to care, but it irks me to no end. Worse, my son always seems to be taking care of her. He rubs her back, clears her plate and brings her drinks and snacks. She never responds in kind. This is going to create a lot of tension at future family get-togeth- ers, and I want to say something before they marry. Do I just tell her my feelings directly and let the chips fall? — New Jersey Dear New Jersey: Please don't. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar risk alienating your son. Dear Annie: I am 45 years old, possible. Ask if Meredith treats you so poorly on pur- pose and, if so, why. Ask what you can do to improve things. But we urge you to do it without condemning Meredith, which would force your son to defend her. The point is to make him think about what his future with her will be like. If noth- ing changes, please find something to appreciate about this girl even if it kills you. The alternative is to have never been married and do not have kids. I am a straight man look- ing for a long-term relationship, but have had no luck finding the right lady. I have tried several dating websites, to no avail. I keep meeting divorced women with issues and baggage far beyond what I can han- dle. My longest relationship lasted nine months and ended abruptly. I have no problem dating It's possible that Meredith is horrif- ically shy and cannot bring herself to respond in a normal way. That would require that you patiently teach her. But if that's not the case, you have a rude, indulged girl who isn't going to change unless your son insists on it. And he has no intention of doing so. Talk to your son as neutrally as divorcees with kids, but they don't seem to want a man in my situation. And I'm having trouble meeting women who have never been mar- ried and don't have children. What can I do? — Single Too Long Dear Single: There are draw- backs to being 45 with no baggage. People wonder what's wrong with you. Gather your closest friends and relatives and ask for an honest cri- tique of your date-ability. Be will- ing to work on their suggestions. Thursday, May 31 2012 – Daily News 5A Mom fed up with daughter-in-law to be (Counseling can help if the issues relate to your basic personality.) The rest is going where the women are. Do some volunteer work. Trav- el. Join a choir, community theater, church group, political organiza- tion, whatever interests you. It will give women a chance to get to know you without the pressure of a rela- tionship — and vice versa. And keep in mind that becoming a step- father can be rewarding as well as challenging. Please don't dismiss it so quickly. Dear Annie: ''Hands Tied in Michigan'' said her husband works out of state and sometimes doesn't call when he's back from dinner with the guys. her own interests and friends and find ways to keep busy while he is away so she is not so demanding. It is excessive to expect a phone call each night. She sounds insecure and immature. After working all day and having dinner with co-workers, he may be finished talking for the day. Couples who have independent interests add more to their relation- ship. — An Independent Wife I say the wife needs to develop Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Burn season suspended June 1 The Tehama-Glenn Unit of the California Department of Forestry and Fire Protection (Cal- Fire) and the Tehama County Fire Department (TCFD) want to remind residents that debris burn- ing in the unincorporated areas of Tehama County will be suspended as of Friday, June 1, through the end of declared fire season. The burn ban includes all areas of Tehama Coun- ty with the exception of the communities of Min- eral, Childs Meadows, Deer Creek, and Mill Creek. The burn ban in these areas goes into effect Sunday, July 1, through the end of declared fire season, unless fire conditions require an earlier burn ban. burning will be suspended within the State Responsi- bility Areas (SRA) of Glenn County. Residents should check with their local fire officials for burning restrictions in the Capay Fire District, Corn- ing and Red Bluff city limits, or if they live in portions of Glenn County that are not in the SRA. Agricultural, forest In addition, debris management, and other industrial type burning may proceed if an autho- rized fire official inspects the area and issues a spe- cial permit. Always check with Air Pollution Con- trol to verify if it is a legal burn day prior to starting any burn. Campfires will be allowed in designated campgrounds with per- mission of the jurisdic- tional authority and with a valid campfire permit. Experience has shown that suspending burning is an effective way of pre- venting wildfire escapes, especially as Tehama County enters a period of hotter and drier weather. Although all fires cannot be prevented through a burning suspension, the number of fires can be significantly reduced. CalFire/TCFD reminds homeowners that this is the time they can help protect their homes and families, as well as fire- fighters, by providing 100 feet of defensible space around all structures. To ensure residents are ready to evacuate early and safely when wildfire strikes visit www.fire.ca.gov or www.ReadyForWildfire.o rg. BLM announces fire restrictions The Bureau of Land Manage- ment on June 4 will implement fire restrictions for lands managed by the Redding Field Office in Shasta, Tehama, Butte, Trinity and Siskiy- ou counties. The restrictions will remain in effect until further notice. Field Office Manager Jennifer Mata said the restrictions are need- ed because of dry fuels and increasing fire danger in the north state region. under these conditions can pose threats to public land visitors, nat- ural resources and adjacent private lands and communities. She said wildfires fires and barbecues are prohibited except in these specifically posted Under the restrictions, all camp- campgrounds and recreation sites: Junction City, Steel Bridge and Douglas City campgrounds and the Steiner Flat primitive campground. Portable stoves and lanterns using gas, jellied petroleum or pressurized liquid fuel are allowed outside of posted recreation sites, with a valid California campfire permit. Visitors should be extremely careful with their use. Wildland visitors should to carry a shovel and water. Target shooting will be allowed only from a hour-hour before sun- rise until noon daily. Other restrictions include: • No smoking, except within an enclosed vehicle or building, or at a designated, developed recreation site, or other designated areas. • No motor vehicles off of estab- lished roads or trails. • No shooting using incendiary, tracer, steel core or armor-piercing ammunition. Targets made of material that could emit sparks may not be used. • No fireworks, including "safe and sane" devices. to develop and maintain100 feet of clean, open space around their homes to provide defensible space and improve the chance that their homes can be saved in an uncon- trolled wildfire. For more information, contact the Redding Field Office at (530) 224-2100. The BLM advises homeowners New earthquake faults uncovered near Tahoe The steep, fault- formed range west of the lake could generate rela- tively strong earthquakes with magnitudes from 6.3 to 6.9, according to the study led by the U.S. Geo- logical Survey. RENO, Nev. (AP) — Scientists studying earth- quake faults in the moun- tains west of Lake Tahoe say new, high-resolution imaging technology has helped uncover more sub- stantial seismic hazards than previously thought to exist there. The study also warns that temblors could trig- ger landslides along the whole Tahoe-Sierra frontal fault zone stretch- ing from west of Truckee Calif., to the south end of Lake Tahoe — through the middle of Squaw Val- ley USA ski resort, Tahoma, Emerald Bay and Fallen Leaf Lake. Researchers at the Uni- versity of Nevada, Reno, Cal-Berkeley and Army Corps of Engineers helped with the new tech- nology known as bare- earth airborne LiDAR — Light Detection and Ranging. It offers a look at tectonic activity obscured by vegetation. James Howle, a USGS scientist and lead author of the study, said it estab- lishes that the fault zone is ''an important seismic source for the region.'' ''Although the Tahoe- Sierra frontal fault zone has long been recognized as forming the tectonic boundary between the Sierra Nevada to the west, and the Basin and Range Province to the east, its level of activity and hence seismic hazard was not fully recognized because dense vegetation obscured the surface expressions of the faults,'' Howle said. ''Using the new LiDAR technology has improved and clarified previous field mapping, has provided visualization of the surface expressions of the faults, and has allowed for accurate mea- surement of the amount of motion that has occurred on the faults.'' The research focused on comparisons between the locations of faults and linear moraines — the boulders, cobbles, gravel and sand deposited by advancing glaciers. The authors developed new three-dimensional techniques to measure the amount of tectonic dis- placement of moraine crests caused by repeated earthquakes. 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''From investigations of geologic hazards to calculations of carbon stored in the forest canopy to simply making the most accurate maps possible, LiDAR returns its investment many times over.'' Anti-thyroid med TOR K: My best friend was just diagnosed with Graves' disease. I'd like to under- stand the condi- tion and what her treatment will entail. The thyroid gland is located in the front of the neck, close to the Adam's apple. It produces hor- mones that control how our bodies use energy. Thyroid hormones stimulate metabolism in all our cells. We need a certain amount of thyroid hormones for the body to function normally. When the thyroid gland is under- active, many body processes slow down. When it is overactive, and levels of thyroid hormone in the blood are too high, our cells and organs are overstimulated. This overstimulation causes symptoms such as these: ER: Graves' dis- ease is an autoim- mune disease that can affect the thyroid gland, eyes and skin. In almost all cases, it causes the thy- roid gland to be overac- tive. DEAR READ- nervousness, insomnia, emotional swings, shak- ing (tremor) of the hands; — Skin: sweating, feel- ing hot all the time; — Heart and lungs: rapid heartbeat (palpita- tions), shortness of breath; — Muscles: muscle weakness; — Weight loss, because cells are burning calories more easily; — Eyes: The eyeballs push out, so that a person looks "wide-eyed," or frightened; — Brain and nerves: treates Graves' disease DEAR DOC- Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. propanolol (Inderal). For anxiety and insomnia, a doctor may prescribe an anti-anxiety medication. There are three treat- ments to stop the thyroid from producing too much hormone: anti-thyroid medications, radioactive iodine and surgery. Graves' disease is most often treated with methi- mazole (Tapazole). This drug blocks the formation of thyroid hormones. Once her hormone levels are back to normal, your friend can choose to con- tinue daily anti-thyroid medication or pursue radioactive iodine treat- ment. Symptoms such as palpita- tions, increased heart rate, tremor and nervousness are treated with a beta-blocker med- ication such as given by mouth and goes straight to the thyroid gland. It kills the thyroid cells that make thyroid hormones. Usually a large enough dose is given to completely stop the thy- roid from producing thy- roid hormone. Your friend would then have to take thyroid medication daily for the rest of her life, since her thyroid gland would no longer make thyroid hormones. Surgery to remove the thyroid gland is rarely done these days. The exception is people with very large goiters. Radioactive iodine is enlarged thyroid gland that produces a bulge in the front of the neck. What causes Graves' disease? The immune sys- tem makes antibodies that stimulate the thyroid gland to make excessive amounts of thyroid hor- mones. Those same anti- bodies cause the gland to grow larger in many peo- ple with Graves' disease. Treatment focuses on a short-term and a long- term goal. In the short term, the goal is to rapidly relieve symptoms. In the — Thyroid: goiter, an severe eye symptoms, glu- cocorticoid medications may help. They may be given alone or together with radiation treatments to the muscles that control eye movement. Although some of the staring appearance may remain, this treatment can lead to considerable improve- ment. If your friend has Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. The Los Molinos Mutual Water Company announced its 2012 election of directors in April. The shareholders of the company elected Darl A. 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