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4B Daily News– Wednesday, May 23, 2012 FEATURES Giving up after 40 years Dear Annie: After more than 40 years of devotion to my husband, I have finally realized what a stonehearted jerk he is. I have done everything in my power to love, respect and encour- age him. But I've fallen into a pattern of picking up the pieces of my heart and overlooking my own hurt in order to give him another chance and keep peace in our home. All of this is ''not important'' to him, as he has told me numerous times. My marriage is terribly lonely. Year after year, his disinterest and disregard for my feelings have chipped away at the love I once had. I have fought hard to stay in his life, and he tells me, ''So what?'' and ''Leave if you want to.'' My pleadings fall on deaf ears, and he refuses to discuss it. I have raised our children and Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar worked beside him and also outside the home. I have contributed as much as he has to build our life together. This is obviously not how I envisioned our retirement, but I have had enough and am finally ready to begin a new life without him. Where do I start? — Beyond Sad Dear Beyond: With counseling. The maker of a new DVR that lets consumers zap away broadcast TV com- mercials at the touch of a button suggested Tuesday that the networks are being short-sighted in opposing the technology. NEW YORK (AP) — Not necessarily to save your marriage, but to help you move forward in what- ever direction helps you. After 40 years, there may be a great deal of grief for the loss of your relationship, fear of the unknown future, worry about finances and loneliness, as well as the need to forgive. You have a great many choices and adjustments to make, and counseling will help you navigate. If you choose divorce, please also see an attorney. Good luck. Dear Annie: I have an ongoing dilemma about an extremely uncom- fortable bed. My parents recently turned 80. They have a guestroom with a bed that desperately needs to be replaced. I can tolerate sleeping there if I am exhausted, but it is truly awful. My parents are not rich, so a new bed would be a major expense. But they don't like handouts, so buying one for them might be resented. How do I tell them that my siblings and I would prefer to buy them a new mattress rather than spend the money staying in a motel? I don't want to embarrass or offend them. — Bad Back Dear Back: Your parents don't sleep in the guestroom and have no idea how bad the bed is, nor are they in any hurry to replace something they don't actually use. porary, so simply make the arrange- ments and then tell them, ''Mom and Dad, it's time to update your guestroom The Dish Network, which has offered its new Auto Hop feature on new digital video recorders since March, said it believes that people who buy the machine are watching more network television than they had before. The Auto Hop auto- matically records every minute of prime-time pro- gramming on ABC, CBS, NBC and Fox and stores it for eight days. ''It's a win-win for both consumers and the net- works,'' said Vivek Khem- ka, Dish Network vice pres- ident of product manage- ment. tal, however. Dish officials say they don't yet have hard data to back up the con- tention that more of their customers are watching net- work shows because they That opinion is anecdo- are automatically stored on their DVR. Network executives are angry about how Auto Hop allows viewers to eliminate commercials on the record- ed shows through one but- ton, no fast-forwarding required. It didn't help their moods that Dish, the satel- lite service with about 14 million customers in the U.S., was advertising the new feature on the week that networks were touting their new fall programming. The feature isn't available for cable network program- ming. have refused to allow its ads for the new DVR on their networks. ''Ads are key to our busi- ness, so we're not supportive of anything that doesn't sup- port our advertisers,'' said Paul Lee, president of the ABC Television Group. During a presentation to Dish said Fox and NBC Their embarrassment would be tem- mattress. We've bought you one as a gift, since we are the ones who use it most.'' Then say it's a done deal, no argument, and give them the delivery date. It would help if one of you could be there when it arrives. Dear Annie: I feel bad for ''Puz- zled in Indiana,'' whose brother has multiple sclerosis. The brother is hold- ing a grudge against Dad because he sold the family home and used the pro- ceeds to build a new one instead of dis- tributing the money to his kids. I was diagnosed with multiple scle- rosis 16 years ago. Some people with MS have problems with memory, rea- soning, judgment and depression. The stresses of life, especially the loss of a job or a loved one, can exacerbate flare- ups. All communications should be done with this in mind. My mother also had MS. She spent the last 10 years of her life bedridden and in pain. My advice to ''Indiana'' is to contact the National Multiple Scle- rosis Society (nationalmssociety.org) at 1-800-FIGHT-MS (1-800-344-4867). — Maryland Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. New ad zapper has TV networks worried about sales gramming.'' In one respect, the issue is a rerun for TV networks. In 2001, they sued the maker of Replay TV, another DVR, to stop a similar feature. The feature wasn't included in the next model of DVR that Replay TV put out, and the company that made them filed for bankruptcy before the lawsuit could be resolved. Kevin Reilly, Fox enter- tainment president, said it was surprising that Dish would make such a move against its largest content provider. ''More broadcast is watched there than anything else, so this seems like a strange thing to do,'' Reilly said. ''But we're still evalu- ating it.'' advertisers at Radio City Music Hall, Ted Harbert, chairman of NBC Broad- casting, called the Dish Net- work feature ''an insult to our joint investment in pro- Khemka said Auto Hop has features that are sensi- tive to the broadcasters' con- cerns. The commercial zap- ping feature has to be acti- vated; the recorded pro- grams will still contain the ads if the button isn't used. The feature also won't allow the commercials to be skipped until at least 1 a.m. Eastern time the next day, and studies show that a sig- nificant amount of recorded programming is viewed the same night it airs. Head lice are embarrassing, but easy to get rid of DEAR DOCTOR K: My daughter was sent home from school with head lice. I'm embar- rassed and worried. What should I do? DEAR READER: Don't be embarrassed. Head lice are not caused by poor hygiene or housekeeping. They simply are out there in the environment, like termites, which can affect even the cleanest homes. Head lice are small insects that infest the hair on people's heads. When they bite the skin to feed on a per- son's blood, their saliva gets into the bite. The person's immune system reacts against the foreign saliva. This causes a lot of itching. A single insect is called a louse. A louse can lay more than 100 eggs, called nits. Nits attach tightly to the hair, usually close to the scalp. They are little oval capsules, colored white or tan. Dish has also supported broadcasters by paying sig- nificant rate increases for their content, said company spokesman Robert Toevs. If people are deciding between a cable or satellite provider, the feature gives the company a competitive edge, Khemka said. Indeed, Auto Hop is the feature that Dish focuses on during its current ad campaign. Dish said it's exemplify- ing its belief in the advertis- ing structure by spending tens of millions of dollars on television ads, the kind of ads customers would be allowed to zap through. At this point, Auto Hop is likely in the hands of rela- tively few viewers, but Dish wouldn't say how many of their customers have it. As a point of comparison, an esti- mated 700,000 new homes signed up for Dish in the first three months of the year. The jury is also still out on the ultimate impact of ad skipping. Nearly half of American households with televisions now have DVRs, and there hasn't been any measurable impact on the rates that advertisers are paying for broadcast com- mercials. DVR usage has increased viewership of some network TV shows, said Jack Myers, publisher of the industry newsletter The Myers Report. In an odd way, fast- forwarding through com- mercials often makes people concentrate more intensely on the TV and stop if some- thing interests them, he said. Ratings indicate that C & C PROPERTIES active infection with head lice normally has fewer than a dozen live lice on his or her head at a time. However, hundreds of nits may be pre- sent. You remove nits with a comb, as described below, and lice with insecticide medicines. A person who has an Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. necessary, about 10 days later. (called pedi- culicides) are available over- the-counter in drugstores. Most pediculi- cides are applied as a shampoo, then washed off 10 minutes later. A second treat- ment is often very well for most people, but some head lice are resis- tant to them. If live head lice are discovered a day after treatment, ask your doctor about pediculicides that are available by prescription. The most commonly used pediculicide is permethrin. Do not use products that are not registered by the FDA as pediculicides. It's a good idea to launder or change items (like clothes, towels or bed linens) that were in direct contact with your daughter's hair during the last day or so. Washing items in hot water or drying them in high heat will kill lice and nits. Also, inspect everyone These products work First, add a hair condi- tioner to your daughter's hair, wash it out and lightly dry the hair. Then brush it out to remove any tangles. Next, use a comb with very fine teeth. Draw the comb in a series of continuous strokes through the hair. At the end of each stroke, examine the comb for nits and wash it. You may need to do this several times weekly until no lice are seen for two or more weeks. You should treat your daughter with insecticides only if she has live (crawl- ing) head lice. Do not treat if you've seen only nits. The insecticides used for lice else living in your home for head lice. Fortunately, head lice are less common today than they were years ago. They don't carry diseases, they don't jump to our pets (and then back to us), and they are easy to get rid of. Some peo- ple are embarrassed if they or a member of their family has head lice. They should- n't be: Head lice can affect anyone. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School.To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Theme parks opening new attractions, coasters ORLANDO, Fla. (AP) — The first phases of a reimagined Fantasyland at Florida's Walt Disney World, the new Cars Land at California's based on the ''Cars'' movies, and Universal Stu- dios Hollywood's new Transformers ride top the list of new attractions at theme parks across the country in 2012. And thrill ride enthu- siasts won't be disappointed, with at least 20 new roller coasters debuting at parks from Maryland to Califor- nia. 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