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ByJulieZeeb jzeeb@redbluffdailynews.com @DN_Zeeb on Twitter RED BLUFF TheannualTe- hama County Senior Nutri- tion Spaghetti Dinner and Dessert Auction had quite the bidding war Friday for its 15-item dessert auction at the Red Bluff Community Center. Thingskickedoffwitha $35Starbucks lemon loaf followed by a cream cheese frosted carrot cake that jumped straight from $30 to $60before things really got serious with lemon bars provided by Janice Meehan. Jumping straight from $30 to $50with small increases it quickly hit $100with Supervisor Steve Chamblin taking the prize for $150 over fellow Supervisor Burt Bundy and another bidder. Not the first big ticket item, there were at least two desserts that sold for $80 each, and others reaching $115and $120, but the top prize of the night was a lemon cake that sold for $200. Tom Jones of Food For The Hungry bid on multiple high dollar desserts and bought at least two for $100or more. Honors for the cake that came from the farthest went to a business named Island Sunset that was flown in earlier Friday all the way from Hawaii. The item opened with a bid of $50 and landed at $100. In all, the dessert auction made just shy of $1,450, said Senior Nutrition Coordinator Juanita Rajanen. The total amount raised for the evening, including $2,000donated by the Red Bluff Elks Lodge, was about $8,800, she said. "This money will fill in the gaps for us that came from all the sequesters and budget cuts," Rajanen said. "With all the cuts, there's never enough. We have 24 seniors on our waiting list." The program provides both home delivered meals, which for many is the only time someone checks in on them, and lunches at the two congregate sites, which for some is the only social activity they get. In 2015, there have been about 9,900meals served, which averages out to 40-50 meals a day in a 150-mile radius. "Our main goal is to keep seniors able to stay safely in their homes," said Tehama County Chief Administrator Bill Goodwin. Seniors can be adopted for the price of $9a meal, $45 a week, $190a month or $2,285a year. For more information or to adopt a senior, call 527- 2414. TEHAMA COUNTY Se ni or N ut ri ti on f un dr ai se r tu rn s to b id di ng w ar JULIE ZEEB — DAILY NEWS Tehama County Supervisor Steve Chamblin receives his lemon bars following a bidding war resulting in a $150price tag Friday at the Tehama County Senior Nutrition Annual Spaghetti Dinner and Dessert Auction. JULIE ZEEB — DAILY NEWS Rick Barram of Red Bluff auctions off desserts, several of which went for more than $100, on Friday at the Tehama County Senior Nutrition Annual Spaghetti Dinner and Dessert Auction. Every day I drive by a beautiful new assisted liv- ing complex under con- struction close to where I live. As beautiful as this place is, it's be- come a daily reminder to me for how diffi- cult it can be to talk to aging parents about their health and fu- ture needs. If you're 40 or older, you're part of the "Sand- wich Generation" and likely to fall into one of these three categories: Traditional Sandwich: Those being squeezed be- tween the needs of ag- ing parents, relatives or friends while also support- ing and meeting the de- mands of their own chil- dren, spouses and careers. Club Sandwich: Those in their 50s or 60s sand- wiched between aging par- ents, adult children and grandchildren, or those in their 30s and 40s with young children, aging par- ents and grandparents. Open-Faced: Anyone else involved in elder care. Double-Stuff Sandwich: Those whose adult, post- college kids return home to live with their parents for lack of employment, di- rection and or money. Also known as the "boomer- angs." Of my husband's and my friends, I would estimate that at least half are either caring for elderly parents or supporting adult chil- dren and grandchildren — and in most cases, some or all have actually moved in with them, taking up per- manent residence. Surveys suggest that today's Baby Boom- ers (adults born between 1946 and 1965) likely will spend more years caring for a parent than they will spend rearing, caring for and supporting their own children. And these days, parents care for their chil- dren for at least 20 years. In the same way a trip to the dental hygienist can prevent a painful proce- dure down the road, a con- versation with your par- ents about aging will be worth it to help preserve a future you both can han- dle. The longer you wait to talk with them about the future, the fewer choices you may have down the line and the more it may cost to make sure they get the care they need. As long as parents are still capable of mak- ing reasoned decisions, your role is merely to help them make those deci- sions. Just try taking con- trol by telling them what to do and you'll know what I mean. The way you approach the subject will have a huge effect on whether your parents are willing to accept your help. Here are a few guidelines to help you get this conversation started: LISTEN. Don't miss an opportunity to talk about the future. Listen to your parents and ask questions. Avoid telling them what to do, no matter how tempt- ing it may be. Get the con- versation going earlier than later. BE PATIENT. Your par- ents have been biting their collective tongue for all these years as they have dealt with you. Now it's your turn to be pa- tient and give them time to think over their alter- natives. Major decisions won't be made during one casual phone call. DON'T EXPECT RE- SPONSE. Don't expect quick responses to your questions. This may be one of the most difficult seasons of their lives. Give them time to process, to think and ponder. DON'T ASSUME. Don't make any assumptions. Above all, do not mistake indecision for lack of in- terest. I think you can be fairly certain that they've been thinking about this a lot longer than you have. But it's easy to put it off when the future appears to be so far away. GET HELP. It's all right if you don't know what you're doing. Your willing- ness to assist your parents is a big step. Dare to ask for help. LAUGH. Don't lose your sense of humor. It will keep you happy and sane in the years to come. 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