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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihavea23- year-old granddaughter who has been living with a 25-year-old man for over five years. He doesn't seem to feel he should get engaged or plan their marriage. I know she is upset about not getting a ring and ap- proached him about it a few months ago. He said he would get her a ring but wanted to wait until he had saved enough money for it. But time goes on and still no ring! He treats her well and to my knowledge her only complaint is that he will not commit to engage- ment or marriage. His parents lived together for seven years before they got married, so that might be one reason why he hasn't made the commitment. I've been married for 60 years and feel that if you are going to live with someone you need to make a commitment to marry soon — and not several years down the road. Am I old-fashioned? Should I let her continue to be "used" by him? I feel that the lack of commitment doesn't show her respect. I know that it bothers her, but she continues to hang in there. —Disappointed DEAR DISAPPOINTED » You are old-fashioned. Furthermore, you seem to judge this man harshly. He is no more "using" your granddaughter than she is using him. The two are merely cohabiting, not undertaking a life of crime. In fact, even by your account, he sounds like a nice guy who is supportive and kind. Sav- ing up for a ring (rather than going into debt) is the right and responsible thing to do. Furthermore, it doesn't take an engage- ment ring to get married. If your granddaughter really wants to get mar- ried, she might have to employ the age-old pres- sure tactic: "We either get married or we part." DEAR AMY » I recently connected with an old acquaintance via a dating website. He used to date my sister. This was over 20 years ago. As a courtesy, I told my sister that I had been talking to and seeing him. Her initial response was. "I don't care, that was over 20 years ago and I am happy." Four days later she called me and ripped me a new one. She told me I was disrespect- ing her. She said I was disgusting and being selfish. Neither he nor I have a problem with their long-ago relationship. Am I being disrespect- ful? Am I being selfish? — Living My Own Life DEAR LIVING » So far, the big mistake you seem to have made is to give your sister the courtesy of a "heads up" regarding your interest in this guy. She chose to respond rudely. The kindest assump- tion is your sister needs some time to adjust her attitude. You should give her ample time to do this. Don't discuss your rela- tionship until she demon- strates the willingness to behave respectfully. If she has a problem with your choice, she should discuss it rather than tell you off. Grandma wants grandchild's live-in boyfriend to propose You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Taurus(April20-May20)— Compromise is key if you want to avoid arguments. Being too demanding or stubborn will lead to discord. Be willing to listen to the other side of a situation before you take action. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Family gatherings, outings with friends, or traveling will lead to interesting opportunities and good connections. Love is on the rise. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Make your own decisions and don't rely on what others tell you. Be particularly cautious with your cash, personal items and valuables. Expensive loss can occur if you are careless. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — You will take what others say the wrong way. Ask questions and make sure that you have a clear idea of what's expected of you. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Spice up your life, but don't overspend, or the fun will soon be over. A short excursion will turn out to be as impressive as an expensive travel package. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You can make a contribution to worthy organizations without depleting your bank account. Volunteer your time or skills, and make a positive and effective difference. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — You will be determined, but don't let your persistence lead to tunnel vision that blinds you to other interesting options. A close friend will offer valuable advice. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Your love life is heating up. Business seminars, conven- tions or other travel opportuni- ties will lead to an interest- ing personal or professional partnership. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Begin a home improvement project. Ask for input and as- sistance from friends or family members. If you are willing to compromise, you will be offered the help and support you need. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Someone with ulterior motives will press you for infor- mation. Keep your opinions and aspirations to yourself, or you will risk damaging your reputa- tion and prospects. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Mixing business with plea- sure will lead to an important connection. Don't waste time waiting for people or opportuni- ties to come to you. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Beneficial changes are heading in your direction. People around you will be amazed by your creativity. Learn from those who have had more experience. 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