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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iama13- year-old boy with sibling troubles. My 12-year-old brother has anger manage- ment problems and gets worked up over simple re- quests, like "Stop," "No," and even "Maybe." When he gets angry, he'll spit venom at me until one of my parents gets in- volved. And then the problem is considered my fault. Whenever he's had a few good days and I start to wonder if the cloud has passed, something else happens and we're back where we started. We've both seen differ- ent therapists within the past year. We are both very at- tached to our parents and don't tend to argue with them much. They're nice, so he's definitely not get- ting this from them, and his friends are nice and polite. I don't know what to do, so I'd like some ad- vice on how to solve this. —BiggerBrother DEAR BROTHER » You've had access to your fair share of therapy, and so I won't suggest "talking to a responsible adult." I'm not a therapist, but I'll try to apply some common sense to your problem. I can't solve this for you, and you probably can't completely solve it — but maybe you can strategize a way to cope with this problem during the worst moments. The first rule of self- defense when you're up against an erratic adoles- cent sibling is: Avoidance. You should look for new ways NOT to engage with the little guy; if trouble starts and you feel it's out of control, leave the scene. See if you can stand up to this angry bully, not by being as aggressive as he is, but by staying peaceful and meeting aggression with a sort of neutral attitude. Not only is this good training for you, but you will be modeling be- havior your brother needs to emulate. Your parents need to deal with your brother, and I hope they will. DEAR AMY » My husband and I have been together for 34 years; he has a daughter, "Angie," from his first marriage. Angie dumped her first husband and retained the home and custody of their teen- age daughter. She recently lost the home to foreclosure, spending the money on parties and her second husband (who is now in jail for having sexual relations with Angie's daughter). She is now with a third husband who cannot keep a job because he's constantly drunk. I work full time an d my husband is retired. Angie falls off the face of the Earth until she needs something — like a place to live, a car, a phone, etc. We feel sorry for her, but we can't handle all the drama! Is there some- thing we can do to help? — Sad Situation DEAR SAD » You need to stop helping. You two should hold hands and comfort each other through the anxiety and frustration this family member is creat- ing. You have to help yourselves. 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