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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihavebeen planning a four-day week- end getaway with my wife to celebrate our 20th anniversary. We have school-age children and work full time. We de- cided we owed ourselves a little enjoyment on a milestone anniversary. We booked a room at a very nice resort with an in-room hot tub. We had plans for breakfast in bed each morning, sightseeing, dining on a lake cruise, antiquing and just relax- ing and reconnecting. Last week while discussing our plans, my wife matter-of-factly said, "Just so you know, we aren't going to have any sex on this trip." While intimacy be- tween us has dropped off significantly over the past few years (though not through lack of trying on MY part), I never expect- ed her to say that. I don't want to go. I am angry and insulted. Why would she say that? What should I do? —CelebrateorCelibate DEAR CELIBATE » I can imagine how insulted, disappointed and sad you feel. This sounds like a nice celebration and also a bit of a seduction. This abrupt announce- ment from your wife should be a conversation starter, to say the least. If she is feeling discon- nected from you, one way to reconnect is to be sexually intimate. Unfor- tunately, the stereotypical male/female difference is most obvious at a time like this: Generally speak- ing, men see sex as a way to connect, whereas wom- en see it as an expression of a connection that has already been made. You should ask your wife why she felt com- pelled to make this an- nouncement. Be honest about your reaction. Is there something about a highly romanticized plan that makes her want to pre-emptively cut you down? Are there any cir- cumstances under which she would have sex? Is that in-room hot tub freaking her out? DEAR AMY » I'm 20 years old. My boyfriend is great. He's respectful, caring, kind, funny, adorable and open. The chemistry was instant and I knew that first night this was it — the guy I'd always wanted had finally arrived. I discovered very quickly, however, that he's very insecure and worried all the time about us because of his recent bad breakup. I'm the first girl he's dated since then, and he tells me all the time that I can break up with him if I want, that he's sorry for being a bad boyfriend and that he has trust issues. I really do care about him and I do want to give him time to adjust to our relationship. How should I address these frustrat- ing issues? — A DEAR A » Your guy is violating Relationship Rule Number One: Don't make this relationship pay for the sins of the last relationship. The fact is that you don't know him that well. Great chemistry can blind you to some very impor- tant issues. Hubby receives rejection from wife as 20th anniversary gift You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Love is in the air. Socializing will brighten your day and bring you closer to someone special. Your quick wit and intellect will result in interesting offers. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Check out the real estate market. Whether you rent or own, a move will be a pick-me- up. A career change is possible. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You will have trouble making up your mind. Rather than tak- ing action in the spur of the moment, allow time to consider the negatives and positives. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Show your superiors how dedicated and responsible you are. Your excellent work habits will allow you to negotiate a healthy career change. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Don't enter into financial deals with fast-talking sales- people. Consider their motives and credibility before you part with your cash or commit to anything. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Don't take a loved one for granted. Spend time nurturing and appreciating your most im- portant relationships. Work and outside pressures can take a toll on your personal life. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Consider talking to a life coach or professional career counselor. A career change will take place if you head in a direction that makes better use of your skills. Evaluate your strengths. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Look for a new challenge. Someone who shares your inter- ests will motivate you to forge ahead with a dream. Check out local facilities for interesting courses or seminars. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Think before you act. Becoming involved with someone who has different values and beliefs may seem exciting and exotic, but serious ramifications are likely to develop. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Open up the lines of commu- nication with someone you are having a problem seeing eye to eye with. Don't make assump- tions. Have an honest and meaningful discussion about your concerns. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — You deserve a special treat. A new look or outfit will boost your morale and increase your self-esteem. If you stay within your budget, it will delight. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Your home will experience an unexpected transformation. Focus on being flexible. Share your thoughts, but do so with diplomacy, suggestions and a foolproof plan. 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