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Friday, August 19, 2011 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Concealed connubiality consternates creator Dear Annie: Last night, I visited my daughter's Facebook page and saw that she had enjoyed a lovely anniversary. Going a little further, I Googled her name and found an article about her in connection to an award she had won. In the article, it mentioned that she had a husband and a stepchild. This all came as a surprise to me, as I had no idea she had won an award or married the man she was living with. I like the guy, and I'm happy for her, but why didn't she tell me she has apparently been married for a year? We talk every six weeks or so, and I let her initiate the call because I know she has a specific time allot- ted for me. She hasn't spent a holi- day with our family in years. Instead, she spends a lot of time with her mate's family. How do I handle this new infor- mation? Do I flat-out tell her what I discovered? She friended me on Facebook, so seeing the announce- ment is not an issue. Do I wait for her to tell me? She has not men- tioned her marriage to her siblings, either. I don't want to jeopardize the relationship we have. She is super- sensitive and always defensive. I usually let her call the shots, but this time, it's almost more than I can bear. — A Bewildered Mother Dear Mother: We can only imagine how difficult it is to learn of such an important event after the Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar fact. Send your daughter a lovely card and write, ''I saw on Facebook that you and 'George' celebrated your wedding anniversary. Congratulations! I've always liked George, and I know you will be very happy.'' If possible, send a gift, as well. You cannot force your daughter to be closer, and confronting her about this announcement will not produce a good result. Facebook posts and semi-annual phone calls are appar- ently as much as she can manage. Dear Annie: My best friend, ''Lizzie,'' feels that it is appropriate for her to correct others on their manners. She chastised someone for texting during a meal and primly announced to all that we mustn't eat before the hostess does. My friends are adults, and while their manners may not be perfect, it is not my place to correct them. I am responsible for seeing that my daughter develops proper manners. Lizzie, however, insists she is being helpful when addressing the short- comings of others. I know some of our friends resent this behavior, as do I. We went out to a nice restaurant last week, and as soon as we sat down, Lizzie told me to put my napkin in my lap. I said I knew that, and I sim- ply hadn't gotten to it yet. While she may be right in theory, constantly being judged makes me very uncomfortable. What is your opinion? — Omaha Dear Omaha: Lizzie is guilty of a breach of etiquette. She is rude. One does not correct other adults in public, ever, nor should she be lec- turing her friends about their behav- ior unless they are spitting across the table (although texting comes close). She may mean well, but she is making herself obnoxious and unwelcome. Dear Annie: ''Modest in Iowa'' did not want a male nurse to attend to her in the hospital. As a well-edu- cated, experienced male registered nurse, I find this type of behavior frustrating. Modesty and privacy are always respected by the profession- al nurse. A patient's request for a female nurse is accommodated pro- vided one is available. Staffing is tight in health care, and we all try to give patients a satisfactory experi- ence while meeting their medical needs. What concerns me even more is that her fiance threatened to assault the health care worker who was try- ing to assist her. This type of behav- ior is unacceptable and dangerous. — Nurse in Pennsylvania Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Dance studio introduces new instructors Dance Red Bluff excitedly welcomes Michelle Ack- ley, Destiny Rose, Stacia Fortenberry and the incompa- rable Olga Goya to their faculty. Ballet is Ackley's love, starting at age 4. She danced in numerous companies in Southern California before moving to Red Bluff with her husband. When not danc- ing, she is hard at work obtaining her master's degree in educational counseling. Ballet levels I-Advanced including Pointe and Repertoire are her classes. Rose is a North State native who is excited to bring her skills at Belly Dancing and Hip Hop to Red Bluff. An experienced performer, she has excelled in compe- titions up and down the West Coast, including making the finals for the Seattle auditions of "So You Think Can Dance" and performing in the Disney parade. She will be leading classes in both Hip Hop (including Competition Hip Hop) and Belly Dancing. A well-rounded dancer, Fortenberry has studied many forms of dance both in Los Angles area and in Red Bluff. Ballet remains her first love, and she is eager to share her heart for dance with the youngest dancers; she will teach Beginning Dance for 3-4 year-olds, 5-6 year-olds and Jazz I. A Tehama County legend, Goya will be bringing her wisdom and passion to Latin dance classes for children and adults. She has danced since the 1950s. Currently working in the Red Bluff Union Elementary School District, she is well loved among youth and is an advo- cate for the Hispanic community. Artistic Director and Studio Manager Noel Brown will again be teaching Contemporary Dance as well as Jazz. The Two of Us may be Noel's guilty pleasure as she shares her love of movement with toddlers and their special adult. An accomplished dancer and choreographer, she returned to Las Vegas this sum- mer to perform again in the Dance in the Desert Fes- tival. Having studied and taught dance for years in southern Nevada, she now lives in Red Bluff where she has been instrumental in developing Dance Red Bluff. Open House and Back To Dance Night takes place 4-7 tonight at the studio, 12881 Baker Road. Informa- tion can be found online at www.DanceRedBluff.com or by calling 527-4877. Aug. 22 will find all the dancers back to work for the fall. School of Social Work accessible to North State The School of Social Work at California State University, Chico is devel- oping new programs for the North State that involve tra- ditional classroom learning and online and multimedia delivery of material. The new degree pro- grams for both the current bachelor's (BASW) and master's (MSW) are called Distributed Learning pro- grams. They were devel- oped out of a request from and with the support of regional mental health directors and the California Social Work Education Center Child Welfare Training Program to better serve the educational needs of rural Northern Califor- nia. Three-year BASW and MSW programs will begin fall 2012 and be offered through blended learning modalities. Students will spend two weekends per semester on the CSU, Chico campus, with the remainder of the course content being delivered through online and other multimedia delivery plat- forms. Celeste Jones, director of the School of Social Work, said the school con- ducted an assessment of the workforce education needs in CSU, Chico's 12-county service area. The results of the assessment demonstrat- ed a large number of indi- viduals residing in geo- graphically remote and iso- lated areas who desire to further their education and careers by obtaining BASW and MSW degrees. It also showed great need from mental health, social service and tribal directors for degreed staff. Jones said the Social Work Distributed Learn- ing program's intent is to decrease this shortage with professionally educated social workers experi- enced in working with the economic, cultural and social needs of the region. These communities need social work professionals with the knowledge, val- ues and skills to work in multiple levels of practice, she said. For the past six years, CSU, Chico's School of Social Work has offered an MSW in an alternative for- mat for two cohorts of stu- dents. One has used onsite weekend courses in Chico, while the other is located in Redding. In addition to being offered off-campus, the Redding cohort includ- ed the use of online and videocasting technologies when students were unable to travel due to inclement weather. The cohorts typi- cally include 30-40 stu- dents. In addition to the MSW Spawning gravel program under way The Bureau of Reclamation will begin placing salmonid spawning gravel in the Sacramento River about a quarter- mile downstream of Keswick Dam on Monday. The work is scheduled 7 a.m. to 4 p.m. Monday through Friday and will be completed by about Friday, Sept. 9. The project will place some 5,000 tons of gravel into the river to help K W I K K U T S Family Hair Salon 1064 South Main St., Red Bluff • 529-3540 with coupon $200 REGULAR HAIRCUT off Not good with other offers Reg. $13.95 Expires 8/31/11 Teen with high blood pressure can't keep up DEAR DR. GOTT: My 17- year-old son takes lisinopril for high blood pressure. Lately when he runs around 1 1/2 miles with his soccer team at practice, he has had a difficult time keeping up. He has been finishing about 25 feet behind the group and is usually out of breath. On one occa- sion he threw up. What makes this unusual is that he has run cross- country or track (a one- and two-mile run) for the last six years. He was the best runner on the soccer team. Does the lisinopril have any effect on his running? DEAR READER: In teens up to the age of 18, hypertension is defined as a reading greater than the 95th percentile for their age, height and gender. Measurements between 90 percent and 95 percent of that expected range are con- sidered to be borderline, and individuals will run a higher risk of develop- ing high blood pressure as adults. The prevalence of hypertension in children and adolescents is increasing, due in part to childhood obesity and a growing awareness of the disorder. The pres- ence of hypertension may contribute to the early development of coronary artery disease in adults. Some common causes for teens to develop the condition include hormonal disor- ders, kidney problems and abnormalities of the aorta. The condition may also be inherited from one or both par- ents. Other causes include program delivery in alter- native formats, the social work program has been offering the BASW courses in alternative formats due to student and community needs. Currently, all BASW prerequisite cours- es are offered via online delivery and consistently have full enrollment. For more information about the programs contact Donna Jensen, distributed learning coordinator, School of Social Work, at 530-898-6668, e-mail Djensen@csuchico.edu. obesity, drinking alcohol or drug use, renal vascu- lar disease, iatrogenic illness, endocrine causes including hyperthy- roidism, the use of dietary supplements and over-the-counter prepa- rations, and a sleep dis- order than can increase blood pressure readings. Lisinopril carries side effects of stomach pain with or without nausea or vomiting, an irregular or slowed heartbeat, chest tightness, chest pain, muscle weakness, lightheadedness and, less common but possi- ble, shortness of breath. I recommend that he see his prescribing physician to discuss the Dr. Peter Gott matter. I certain- ly cannot say that the medica- tion is solely to blame; in fact, it may have no bearing at all. However, he is young and shouldn't be e xperiencing such a rapid decline in his abilities. If his physician feels there is a connec- tion, a simple change to a different drug might resolve the problem. Further testing may be in order. That might allow him to get back in the game in more ways than one. Readers who would like related information can send for my Health Report "Hypertension" by sending a self- addressed, stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 U.S. check or money order to Dr. Peter Gott, P.O. Box 433, Lakeville, CT 06039. Be sure to mention the title, or print an order form from my website's direct link: www.AskDrGottMD.co m/order_form.pdf. DEAR DR. GOTT: I am 57, with impetigo on my face and ear. I took two 20 mg pills of pred- nisone for one week, then one, but would like to know if there is a home remedy I can try instead. DEAR READER: Impetigo is a bacterial infection, so I am unclear why you were given prednisone. How- ever, as long as the impetigo hasn't spread, you might try 1 table- spoon of white vinegar diluted in 16 ounces of water. Soak a cotton ball or gauze pad and apply to the area for 20 min- utes two or three times a day. You might then want to apply an aloe vera ointment to the cleansed area following each application. Or, simmer 1/4 cup each of rosemary leaves and thyme in 2 cups water for about 15 minutes. Apply the cleansing mixture in the same manner several times each day. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including "Live Longer, Live Better," "Dr. Gott's No Flour, No Sugar Diet" and "Dr. Gott's No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook," which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com. improve spawning habitat for Chinook salmon and steelhead. This project helps meet requirements of the Central Valley Project Improve- ment Act to restore and replenish spawn- ing gravel and rearing habitat for salmonid species. For more information, call Tom Kisanuki at 530-276-2046 or send an email to tkisanuki@usbr.gov. 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