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Friday, July 8, 2011 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Daughter’s departmental dalliance disappointing Dear Annie: I recently found out that my 27-year- old married daughter is having an affair with her 40-year-old boss. He is married and has two chil- dren. She doesn’t know that I know. I warned her to be care- ful when I noticed that she and her boss sometimes work late. I told her that when I was her age, I did some things I was not proud of. I also sent her articles about people having affairs. I told her it was wrong and people would get hurt. I have tried to give her as much advice as I could with- out letting on about what I know, but now I think it’s time to tell her. I do not want to do this over the phone, so I am waiting for the vaca- tion we are taking with her and her husband in a few weeks. This has truly been a shock to me because I thought I had taught her better than this. Before she married, her father and I separated for a year. I never told her that he was seeing someone else. Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar convince her to end things, you should discuss your concerns with him. Beyond that, sorry to say, the choice is hers, good or bad. Some- times we simply have to let our children fall down and pick themselves up. Dear Annie: My brother, an irresponsible, selfish and self-centered person, divorced my sister-in-law a number of years ago, stating she was ‘‘not fun’’ anymore, that she never allowed him to buy all the things he wanted, and that she had gained weight. While he danced through life at everyone else’s expense, his poor wife was left with all the heavy lifting in their relationship, including raising the children. (By the way, my brother, who has struggled with alcohol and emotional issues his whole life, also has a weight problem.) So far, I have told no one about my daughter’s affair, but I want to confide in my husband. How should I handle this? — Puzzled Dear Puzzled: Talk to your daughter. We are hoping you are wrong about the affair, but either way, rest assured, your previous warnings have not gone unnoticed. If you think her father could help My brother bounced from one job to another, always spending more than he earned. It was heart- breaking to watch my sister-in-law become a shell of the person she once was. And when she was total- ly and completely drained, he filed for divorce. When he discovered I was still in contact with my ex-sister-in-law, he called me ‘‘The Bad Sister’’ and stopped speaking to me. He pestered his daughters for a photo of himself so he could post it to a dating website, and he started see- ing other women before the divorce was finalized. I was ashamed of his behavior. I wish I could mend the fence my brother has put up, but I refuse to abandon my sister-in-law, who is not only one of my closest friends, but the mother of my two beautiful nieces. Please tell your readers to think about the hearts of others before issuing ultimatums that force people to choose sides in a divorce. More often than not, it’s the hearts of the children that break. — Lov- ing Aunt in Connecticut Dear Aunt: We hope our readers are listening. Thank you. Dear Annie: ‘‘Crying in Califor- nia’’ was upset that she did not receive a condolence card from the doctor after her daughter died. My wife, age 56, passed away just over a year ago after an 18-month battle with lung cancer. Her oncologist at the Lack’s Cancer Center in Grand Rapids, Mich., as well as his staff and her chemotherapy nurse all sent cards. Those cards meant a great deal to me. — J.T. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Forum to address obesity and highlight health The Sierra Cascade Collaborative for Health and Movement Promotion (SC-CHAMP) is bringing awareness of obesity to Red Bluff when it holds “Shap- ing a Healthier Future in the Sierra-Cascade” from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. on July 19 at the Red Bluff Community Center, 1500 S. Jackson St. The forum, which brings together local nutritionists, health educators, CalFresh outreach coordinators, is about sharing their efforts and create new initiatives to increase awareness of obesity and provide our commu- nities with the resources to live healthy lifestyles. Throughout the day topics such as the Dietary guidelines, “Choose My Plate”, the Childhood Reau- thorization Act, and CalFresh will be discussed. As California continues to battle an obesity epidem- ic, many local organizations are coming together to help those in their community make healthier choices. Recent studies indicate 60 percent of adults are over- weight or obese and 44 percent of children and adoles- cents under the age of 18 are at risk for overweight or are overweight in the Sierra Cascade Region. SC-CHAMP brings those who are trying to solve the obesity epidemic together to find solutions. Eating more fruits and vegetables and being physically active each day can help reduce the risk of being overweight and obese and developing health problems such as heart disease, type 2 diabetes, stroke and some types of cancer. It is critical that we actively promote healthy The Department of Fish and Game (DFG) encour- ages its vast and varied con- stituents to actively partici- pate in the California Fish and Wildlife Strategic Vision. At a meeting today in Sacramento, the Execu- tive Committee of the Strategic Vision announced that they are accepting applications for the stake- holder advisory group. The stakeholder adviso- ry group represents a diverse range of interests affecting state policies that manage fish and wildlife, including individuals repre- senting fishing and hunting interests, non-profit conser- vation organizations, non- consumptive recreational users, landowners, scientific and educational interests, and others dedicated to habitat conservation and protection of public trust resources. The stakeholder group will advise and support the executive committee, among other tasks. Applica- tions can be found at www.vision.ca.gov and will be accepted through July 13. The California Fish and The day kicks off with 15 minutes of ice breaker games starting at 9 a.m. and is followed by the My Plate presentation from 9:15-9:45 a.m. There will be a Poster Display presentation from 1-1:30 p.m. Speakers will include Patty Mannel, program direc- tor, Network for a Healthy California-Sierra Cascade Region, Cindy Wolff, director, Nutrition & Physical Activity, CSU Chico and Denise J. Ohm, food service director, Enterprise Elementary School District and Shasta County Office of Education. About 60 attendees will participate in physical activ- ities and looking at 10 different poster presentations from local organizations, such as Sierra Cascade Nutri- tion and Activity Promotions Obesity Prevention Efforts and Childhood Obesity Prevention Efforts. Speakers from local organizations will be discussing success stories and providing details on what they are doing to improve the health of their community mem- bers. For more information on the forum, contact Patty Mannel, program director, Network for a Healthy Cal- ifornia˜Sierra Cascade Region, at 530-345-2483 x215 or pmannel@healthcollaborative.org. The event is funded, in part, by the USDA Supple- mental Nutrition Assistance Program and California Department of Public Health. Applications sought for Participation in strategic vision Wildlife Strategic Vision began from legislation (AB 2376, Huffman) signed into law last year that requires the Natural Resources Agency to convene a com- mittee to develop a strategic vision for DFG and the Fish and Game Commission. The goal is to provide real solutions to improve and enhance DFG’s capaci- ty and effectiveness in ful- filling its public trust responsibilities for the pro- tection and management of the state’s fish and wildlife, for their ecological values, and for the benefit of the Financial management training offered Northeastern California Small Busi- ness Development Center (SBDC) at Butte College is presenting a series of workshops, “Financial Management Training for Existing Businesses.” The workshops will be held on Wednesday evenings, from July 20 through August 17, from 6-8 p.m. at the center at Butte College, 19 Williamsburg Lane, Chico. The workshop cost is $75 per person pre-registered or $85 at the door. The five-week, 2-hour per week, series is designed to teach existing busi- ness owners how to manage business financials for success. The series is intended for existing businesses only. Pre-registration is required. Please call the Northeastern California SBDC at Butte College at 895-9017 to register and for information. people of the state. “We are pleased that the process is under way,” said DFG Acting Director John McCamman. “We ask our many partners, stakeholders and other interested parties to help shape this vision, and to take this opportunity to share what has worked and what hasn't in the department’s more than 100 years of existence.” Sunscreen eliminates tinea versicolor DEAR DR. GOTT: I have been plagued with an extensive tinea versicolor skin infection on my back and abdomen since I was a teenager. I was treated by at least five doctors over the years. One suggested using Selsun Blue sham- poo as a lotion overnight for several days, which was unpleasant and only provided a few weeks of relief. The infection even returned within about four to six months of tak- ing oral antifungal med- ication. My last doctor said these meds were dangerous to the liver. I am an otherwise healthy woman in my 50s. lifestyles so local residents are informed enough to make healthy choices for themselves and their fami- lies. About three years ago, I used the only sunblock I happened to have on hand, Banana Boat for Kids SPF 50. After two days of application fol- lowing my morning shower, I noticed my tinea versicolor disap- pearing! I kept applying it daily, and the skin infec- tion completely cleared within about a week. With faithful daily use of this or the “baby” version of the brand, it has never returned. This was such an amazing and acciden- tal discovery — an easy, safe and low-cost remedy — that I must share it to benefit other sufferers. Do you think the key is the 2.4 percent titanium dioxide? I am a label reader, and I don’t recall previously using a lotion with this component. I am concerned that some- day the manufacturer will discontinue or change the product, which is another reason I hope you will print this letter. DEAR READER: Tinea versicolor is a com- mon fungal infection that causes patches of skin to become discolored or lose pigmentation. It is most common in teens and young adults. Symptoms include small, scaly patches of discolored (white, pink, tan or dark brown) skin and possible mild itching. The patches grow slowly and tend to become more noticeable following sun exposure. It usually affects the neck, back, upper arms and chest. Tinea versicolor may be present on healthy skin. It is when the fun- gus becomes overgrown that infection occurs. This typically happens during warm, humid tem- peratures when excessive Dr. Peter Gott sweating and oily skin become more common. It can also be the result of hormon- al changes and a suppressed immune system. T reatment begins with over- the-counter anti- fungal creams. If these fail to pro- vide improvement or the infection is severe to widespread, prescription topical or oral medica- tions may be necessary. Over -the-counters include Selsun Blue shampoo (or the generic equivalent), miconazole, terbinafine and clotrimo- zle. Unfortunately, infec- tion can recur. Persistent cases may require once- or twice-monthly medica- tion to prevent the fungus from overgrowing and infection occurring. I don’t know why the sunscreen works for you, but I cannot argue with a three-year success rate. It is inexpensive and safe, so I am passing on your tip to my readers. I hope other sufferers have the same fantastic results you have had. DEAR DR. GOTT: I am a 31-year-old single mother who suffers from severe back pain and depression/anxiety. My doctor currently has me taking more than 13 pre- scription drugs daily. I feel overmedicated, but when I talk to him, all he does it prescribe more pills. What can I do? DEAR READER: Based on your brief note, it appears that your doc- tor isn’t listening to you at all. I recommend you switch to another physi- cian who will sit down with you to review your medications and deter- mine which ones can be eliminated. You should also have a physical examination and imaging studies to determine the cause of your back pain. I also recommend blood work to check your liver and kidney functions and, more important, to ensure that the medications aren’t causing more harm than good. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. 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