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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myboyfriend and I have been together for five years. We were long distance for four years, and then last year I moved to Florida to be with him. He has always said he doesn't want to live anywhere other than Florida. Initially, I didn't think that would be a prob- lem but now I'm wonder- ing. I resent that he's unwilling to compromise about things — like where we live. To top it off, I don't feel attracted to him. Sometimes I feel attracted to women. I've never been with a woman, but these feelings really confuse me. I'm 34 years old. If I were gay, wouldn't I have known it before? People are beginning to ask us if we will marry, and the thought makes me feel queasy. My par- ents had an acrimonious divorce, and I thought I was opposed to marriage because of this. Now I wonder if there is more. I worry that I run away from good things when I have them. I love him, but I'm not sure I'm "in love" with him. We live together, I have a job here and any real change would have to be a big one. What should I do? —Unsure DEAR UNSURE » The current thinking is that sexual orientation hap- pens along a wide spec- trum. You can discover or uncover aspects to your personal and sexual iden- tity at any point. You have a lot to sort out, ideally with a thera- pist's help. You need to be ruthlessly honest with yourself, and make some changes — knowing that in life the thing that mat- ters most is not whether you make mistakes (or change your mind about things), but whether you act with integrity toward yourself and other people. DEAR AMY» My father died in January. For the viewing, the funeral home created a display of pho- tos and symbolic items (small grocery cart, apron, shopping bag, etc.) honor- ing my dad's life as a grocer in our small town. Over 1,000 peop le cam e through the reception line to speak with our family members about my dad. As one of my friends came through the line, she laughed at the display and said loudly that it looked stupid. I have not been in touch with my friend since then. I am torn about what to do as this is a longtime friend. — Grieving DEAR GRIEVING » I can understand why this up- sets you. This remark was unkind. Only you can decide whether you want to try to revive your friendship with this person. You should express how you feel. Keep it simple. She may blame you for being sensitive. Accept this in advance, but speak your truth. After that it will be easier to move on. Feelings of confusion have a woman questioning sexuality (You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook. Amy Dickinson's mem- oir, "The Mighty Queens of Freeville: A Mother, a Daughter and the Town that Raised Them" (Hyperion), is available in bookstores.) Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Cancer(June21-July22)— Participating in sporting events or activities with friends will help clear your head and confirm what you should do next. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Clashes with a business or personal partner will leave you questioning the relationship. Rethink your steps and consider the best way to move forward. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Participate in an entertaining event that involves large groups of people. You are likely to meet someone who can influence your future. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Handle your own financial mat- ters, or you will end up feeling suspicious of a partner or your banker. Assess the reason for any discrepancies that show up. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Where affairs of the heart are concerned, be true to your own. If your lover is truly committed, he or she won't try to turn you into someone you're not. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You may be dissatisfied with current events, but time is on your side, so be patient. Any- one who is currently opposing you will eventually see things your way. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Don't try doing everything on your own. You will receive valuable guidance if you are willing to ask for assistance. You will form a strong alliance with the person who helps you out. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Consider the consequences of your actions. You will end up facing trouble if you act impul- sively. Listen to reason, and you will find a safer and better way to move forward. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — You will win admiration from your peers with your wit and wisdom today. Consider travel as a way to increase your knowledge and expand your awareness. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Too much worrying can lead to minor health issues. If you are troubled over a recent disagreement with a friend, make amends. It takes a special person to admit mistakes. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Plan a getaway that will bring you closer to nature or the beliefs and traditions you honor. Romance is on the rise, and spending time with someone special will bring you closer. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You should make efforts to work extra hours or pick up a part- time job. If you are industrious and determined, you will grab the attention of someone who can help you advance. Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol TUESDAY, JULY 8 TUESDAY,JULY8,2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B