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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARCAROLYN»My husband is Mr. Decision, chop-chop, everything has to be decided quickly and with little fanfare. I move more slowly, and am constantly being picked at and nagged to hurry up and make a darn decision already. A lot of times, I feel pushed into making decisions and end up regretting the end re- sult. So how do we find a happy medium, because it seems to drive both of us nuts? —Tortoise DEAR TORTOISE » Does he recognize that he's one way and you're the other, as you recognize it? If so, then you have the foundation for an open- eyes compromise where he gives you some unpres- sured time to think and you agree for that time to be finite. If he doesn't recog- nize it as you do, or if he does and thinks it's your job to change yourself to conform to his way, then it might be time to call in a marital referee. DEAR CAROLYN » Re: Chop-chop: Do couples not notice this while dating? If they do, they should perhaps consider not marrying in the first place. — Anonymous DEAR ANONYMOUS » It's so easy to judge this in hindsight, but, the thing is, a person's sense of a deal-breaker changes over time. To Mr. Chop- Chop, Ms. Waffle might have seemed charming and easygoing, and Ms. Waffle might have found Mr. Chop-Chop to be so refreshingly sure and confident. Repeat over X years, and they can both be so worn down by the nui- sance of managing their different paces that they struggle to recall what that refreshing charm felt like. DEAR CAROLYN » Re: Chop-chop: This could be my husband and me, except I'm Ms. Chop- Chop. The crucial step for me was recognizing that the throat-choking fear I have with not knowing what will happen is the same thing he feels when asked to make a snap decision. Now, it works best for us if we divide responsibilities so I am in charge of nebulous tasks (carpet cleaning, car maintenance, etc.) and he gets the ones with dead- lines (taxes, Christmas presents, etc.). — Anonymous 2 DEAR ANONYMOUS 2 » I just love reading "it works," brought about by mutual respect and effort. Thanks. DEAR CAROLYN » Re: Chop-chop: As one waffler married to another, all I can say is that one of us being a chop-chop decision-maker might have not been a bad thing. — Anonymous 3 DEAR ANONYMOUS 3 » Snort. When making decisions, man rushes while his wife waffles Carolyn Hax Ask Carolyn Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. 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