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Friday, May 13, 2011 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Time together transforms to terrible tykes Dear Annie: My daughter has five beautiful children whom we love very much. My husband and I often take the kids overnight and on weekends to give some quiet time to their parents. When the children are with us, they behave beau- tifully. But when their par- ents walk back in the door, it is a total disaster. This past weekend was the worst. As soon as their par- ents came over, the kids began jumping, running around, scream- ing and teasing the dog. I lost it and really yelled. I know my son-in-law was upset, but he will sit there and do nothing when things like this are going on. I feel terrible and am depressed about losing control. My daughter and her husband never correct the children, and it is upsetting when my husband and I go out of our way to make a wonderful weekend for the kids and have it end on a sour note. I want to say something to my daughter and son-in-law, but don’t want to damage our relationship. I have thought of alternatives, such as not taking the children at all, taking only one at a time or only watching the kids at our house. We have a country home, a large yard, a couple of dogs and plenty of space, so it is more enjoyable for us to have the children here anyway. I am so disappointed, angry and hurt with the children’s behavior, I just want to cry. My husband does Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar not want me to say any- thing. What do you think? — Frustrated and Sad Dear Sad: As tempting as it is to criticize your daughter’s parenting skills, we urge you not to. She will resent it enormously. The most helpful thing you can do is teach those children proper behavior when they are with you. Whenever possible, baby-sit at your country home. If they turn into wild animals when their parents pick them up, so be it. Dear Annie: Counseling is fre- quently mentioned in your column, sometimes as your recommenda- tion, sometimes by readers whose partners won’t accompany them and occasionally by someone dis- appointed or happy with the results. This makes me wonder how suc- cessful counseling is. Perhaps your readers would share their experi- ences and tell us how to find a good counselor. — Problem Still Here Dear Problem: You’ve raised some valid issues. So, readers, how about it? Let us know if you’ve tried counseling, how you found your counselor and what your experience was like. We’ll print the most interesting and helpful responses. Dear Annie: My boyfriend, ‘‘Dan,’’ recently died after a sud- den heart attack. He was only 39 and in seemingly good health. Dan was completely estranged from his family, so when he had his heart attack, I was the person the hospital contacted, and I was the only one by his bedside. I notified his family, but they didn’t bother to show up until after he died. At that point, they all swooped down and made funeral arrange- ments that Dan would not have wanted. Instead of the military funeral and religious service he once told me he preferred, the fam- ily had him cremated with no ser- vice at all. I was told there was nothing I could do because Dan didn’t leave a will, nor had he named me as the person to handle arrangements. In most states, the immediate family, no matter how distant, has the right to make those decisions. Annie, please let your readers know how important it is for people to make a will and give specific instructions. It could save a lot of grief and misunderstanding. — Sadder but Wiser Dear Sadder: People don’t like to think about their funerals, espe- cially if they are relatively young. But anyone who has specific wish- es should put them in writing and see that everyone has a copy. Our condolences. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Aguide to the superhero invasion BY DAVID FRESE MCT Superheroes are muscling their way into the multiplex like never before. Comic book fans are thrilled — and afraid. How will their beloved idols fare in Hollywood's hands? Here's a guide to the heroes coming our way and the real threats that await them. GREEN LANTERN June 17 The real threat: Obscurity. Who is this guy? A test pilot with a magic ring and green pajamas? Green Lantern is among the top-selling characters in comics, but few outside the comic shop know who he is. So now t he cast is repeatedly comparing the film to "Star Wars." OK ... Cast: Ryan Reynolds, Blake Lively, Peter Sarsgaard CAPTAIN AMERICA: THE FIRST AVENGER July 22 The real threat: Nationalism. This tale of a 98-pound weakling who becomes a shield- slinging Nazi fighter shows great promise — in the U.S. The studio is toning down the "Amer- ica" thing for overseas audiences, which can make or break a film. Also: Joe Johnston's last film was "The Wolfman." 'Nuff said. Cast: Chris Evans, Hayley Atwell, Hugo Weaving HULK Sometime in 2012 The real threat: Lika- bility. Here's a guy who smashes stuff when he gets mad — essentially he's a big green Charlie Sheen. Two previous Hulk films under- whelmed. Now Guiller- mo del Toro is making a Hulk TV show. Cast: None yet, but Mark Ruffalo plays the Jade Giant in ... THE AVENGERS May 4, 2012 The real threat: Too much of a good thing. This is a dream project of fangirls and fanboys everywhere. Thor, Hulk, Black Widow (the redhead next to Hulk), Captain America, Iron Man all in one movie. It's being directed by Joss Whedon, who, like the Hulk, is loved intensely by a few and totally ignored by everyone else. Cast: (In addition to Ruffalo) Robert Downey Jr., Chris Evans, Scarlett Johans- son, Samuel L. Jackson, Chris Hemsworth THE AMAZING SPIDER- MAN July 3, 2012 The real threat: Spi- der-fatigue. Sam Raimi's first two Spideys were exem- Sun Country Quilters presents Quilting Around The World May 14th & 15th 2011 Tehama District Fairground 200 Quilts • Vendors Demos-Food-Donation For more information 530 527-5458 Dr. Andrew PomazalD.O. Physician & Surgeon General Medicine Saturday Appointments Available • High Blood Pressure • Diabetes • Joint & Muscle Pain • Lung Problems We offer Osteopathic Manipulation 530 528-2066 2050 Main St, Red Bluff Accepting New Patients Sunday, May 15th @ 1pm Come learn how to grow a giant pumpkin Contest will beheld October 29, 2001 Red Bluff Garden Center 766 Antelope Blvd. (next to the fairgrounds) 527-0886 plary, but No. 3 lowered the bar so much that the franchise had to be rebooted. Also: Spidey's next foe is the human-sized Lizard. Fierce! Cast: Garfield, Emma Stone THE DARK KNIGHT RISES July 20, 2012 The real threat: Unre- alistic expectations. We have high hopes, but maybe they're too high. Seriously: How do you top "The Dark Knight"? Christopher Nolan is keeping the story under wraps, and that's cool, but even non-Batfans have to be under- whelmed by the villains — the thief Selina Kyle (aka Catwoman) and a guy named Bane who, in the comics, is little more than a steroid- slamming luchador. Cast: Christian Bale, Anne Hathaway, Thomas Hardy SUPERMAN: MAN OF STEEL December 2012 The real threat: Bryan Singer and Zack Snyder. Singer directed the languid "Superman Returns," in which the universe's most power- ful man never punched anyone. When Snyder was hired to direct a reboot of that reboot, we were all excited until we saw "Sucker Punch," which was just icky. Andrew Cast: Henry Cavill, Amy Adams, Michael Shannon IRON MAN 3 May 3, 2013 The real threat: Rust. A meddling Marvel Stu- dios made "Iron Man 2" a muddled mess, with too many characters. Ol' Shellhead's rogues gallery is fairly limited, and the first two films used parts of his best comic stories. Cast: Robert Downey Jr. — that's it, so far. WONDER WOMAN Coming soon? The real threat: Inter- pretations. David E. Kel- ley, who brought us TV's "Ally McBeal," is turn- ing the Amazing Ama- zon into a corporate shill who worries about the breast-size on her action figures. A pilot is being filmed, and NBC is reportedly interested, but everything we read about it frightens us to our core. And a movie is ten- tatively scheduled for 2015. Cast: Adrianne Palic- ki, Elizabeth Hurley, Cary Elwes Conflicting advice over treating tumor DEAR DR. GOTT: I’m 88 years old and have developed a breast tumor. One doctor wants to do a mas- tectomy, but another who knows I have carotid-artery dis- ease and is treat- ing me for it advises not to have the surgery but to take Arimidex to try to shrink the tumor. I value your answer because I read your arti- cles constantly. I feel con- fused but am an active person who still drives, cooks, and takes care of myself. I’ll wait for a reply in the paper. Thank you. and medical histo- ry, he or she has likely determined there are other fac- tors that enter the big picture sup- porting this approach. Dr. Peter Gott The Arimidex he is suggesting is designed to treat breast cancer as well as slow estro- DEAR READER: I completely understand where each physician is coming from and why you have received two con- flicting recommendations. Let’s address the issue of your breast tumor first. Because your doctor (I am assuming an oncologist) wants to perform a mas- tectomy, he has apparently determined that you have a malignant tumor. Unfor- tunately, you did not indi- cate what testing was per- formed in order for your doctor to make the diag- nosis. Was it by palpation only, through mammogra- phy, ultrasound or MRI? Was a stereotactic biopsy performed? Is the tumor invasive or noninvasive? Invasive implies the dis- ease has spread to sur- rounding tissue. Noninva- sive implies the disease is confined to the lining of the milk ducts (breast can- cer) or the lobules (pre- cancerous). Has he or she been informed you have carotid-artery disease? My guess is that you are also seeing a cardiolo- gist who feels a more con- servative approach in your case might be more bene- ficial. Because of your age gen levels in post- menopausal woman. This, in turn, may slow the growth of specific types of tumors that require estro- gen in order to grow. Patients with a history of heart disease, circulato- ry problems, severe liver disease, history of stroke or blood clot, and those who have not completely gone through menopause might require testing or dosing adjustments before beginning the medication. You certainly fall into this category, so specific atten- tion to proper dosing must be adhered to. The best-case scenario is for you to meet with both physicians at the same time, perhaps through a conference call in one office or the other, so both specialists can work together with you to determine whether you are well enough to under- go surgery or whether a trial of the Arimidex is more appropriate. Unfor- tunately, without knowing all the details and without having access to your complete medical history, I cannot make any recom- mendations. Good luck. Dr. Peter H. 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