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Saturday, March 26, 2011 – Daily News – 5A FEATURES Damaged daughter disowns deceiver Dear Annie: I was mar- ried for almost 20 years to a great family guy. But when we had conflicts, they were always my fault, and I had to apologize or ‘‘stop being so sensitive.’’ Eventually, I cheated on him. I know I was wrong. He divorced me and quickly remarried someone who is barely older than our daughter. Our older child left with him and has had nothing to do with me since. I miss a relationship with my daughter. I have tried to initiate contact, but there is no reply. Our son stayed with me and seems to have adjust- ed. He still sees his father, and I encourage that relationship. He also speaks to his adult sister often. Do I let my daughter go or just Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar waiting, but no one came. I visited my mother today in a home. She brought up this same column in our conver- sation, and I promised to try to track it down. Can you help? — Loving Daughter Dear Daughter: Happy to. Here it is: It Was Grandfather’s Birthday by Rudy Joe Mano (reprinted with permission) It was Grandfather’s birthday. He was 79. He got up early, shaved, showered, combed his hair and put on his Sunday best so he would look nice when they came. He skipped his daily walk to the town cafe where he had coffee with his cronies. He wanted to be home when they came. wait? It’s been two years. My ex says he will not get in the middle to help me. I know nothing of her life. — Sad in the South Dear Sad: Please do not give up on your daughter. Two years may seem like an eternity, but there is a good possibility she will want a relationship in the future. She first needs to grow up a little and be able to forgive you. Keep writing, e- mailing, whatever. Don’t be intru- sive or demanding, but be sure to say you love her and are thinking of her always. We hope you don’t have to wait too long. Dear Annie: I’m looking for an essay that appeared in an old Ann Landers column. It was about an elderly man who was celebrating a birthday. He spent the whole day He put his porch chair on the sidewalk so he could get a better view of the street when they drove up to help celebrate his birthday. At noon, he got tired but decided to forgo his nap so he could be there when they came. Most of the rest of the afternoon he spent near the telephone so he could answer it when they called. He has five married children, 13 grandchildren and three great- grandchildren. One son and a daughter live within 10 miles of his place. They hadn’t visited him for a long time. But today was his birthday and they were sure to come. At suppertime, he left the cake untouched so they could cut it and have dessert with him. After supper, he sat on the porch waiting. At 8:30, he went to his room to prepare for bed. Before retiring, he left a note on the door that read: ‘‘Be sure to wake me when you come.’’ It was Grandfather’s Birthday. He was 79. Dear Annie: I read the letter from ‘‘Loving Auntie,’’ whose 10- year-old nephew has begun correct- ing the grammar of the adults around him. When I was 8 years old, we lived with my grandparents. Grandma often corrected Grandpa’s grammar and pronunciation in front of other people. I felt so embarrassed for him, although he quietly accepted the corrections from his beloved wife. His family moved here from Denmark, and he had to drop out of school in third grade to help support his family after his father died. He went on to become a very success- ful businessman and pillar of the small community in which we lived. I’d just like to remind people that it is also bad manners for a spouse to correct her partner in front of oth- ers. — Loving Granddaughter Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. New car? Buy now, before prices surge It's the most basic concept in economics: supply and demand. And it works, whether you're talk- ing about the price of oil or corn -- or cars. Toyota has announced that it plans North American plant shut- downs because of parts shortages resulting from the recent disasters in Japan. The news comes just as the U.S. economy picks up some steam and car sales are recovering. So with constant or rising demand but less supply, there is only one conclu- sion: Car prices will rise. If there are shortages of Japanese branded cars (whether made here or in Japan), it's obvious that there will be few incentives on their cars. The second phase of that supply/demand equation suggests that domestic automakers will also be able to raise prices (or will offer fewer deals), since one of their main competitors is not about to cut prices. Edmunds.com, the auto website, analyzed the situation: "We can be sure new car prices will go up as inventory thins out. These shut- downs likely are just the beginning. All automak- ers are just now scram- bling to review who sup- plies every little part. The shortage of any one could shut down an assembly line. Toyota isn't the only one vulner- able; virtually all major automakers have some risks." The car dealers read the same news you do, so they are already on alert to maximize the profit on the cars on their lot. But if you're in the and other users of fuel did when the Egyptian, then Libyan crises hit. Fearing supply disruptions, they bought immediately for future use -- pushing oil prices higher. Some called that "greedy" or "speculative." But it was really just a smart reaction to the reality of supply and demand. Now it's your turn to Terry Savage The Savage market for a new car in the coming weeks, and can't afford to wait until the supply rebounds, you should head to your deal- er while the car you want is still in stock, and while there may still be some deals to be had. That's exactly what the airlines Truth on Money face that reality in car prices. And that's The Sav- age Truth. Terry Savage is a registered investment adviser and is on the board of the Chicago Mercantile Exchange. She can be reached at www.terrysavage.com. She is the author of the new book, "The New Savage Number: How Much Money Do You Really Need to Retire?" Making the right decision DEAR DR. GOTT: This is a follow-up to your Q&A on cataracts that I read with interest. During the past two weeks, I had cataracts removed from both eyes and intraocular lenses implanted at the same time — with no waiting. I had two other lens choices, neither covered by Medicare. Those were lenses enabling me to see without glasses at all, at several thousand dollars. For about $600, I could have chosen lenses that would require glasses for reading only; however, the main issue was the fact that there is no wait- ing for lens implant after removal of cataracts. DEAR DR. GOTT: I read your column advis- ing surgery for cataracts. I was told several years ago that I would soon need cataract surgery. I’m a wimp and don’t want to even think about surgery! I Googled cataract eye- drops and found a suppli- er. I’ve been using the drops for several years, and my doctor no longer even mentions surgery to me. He just says “keep on eating those carrots.” Used in Russia and China, eyedrops are effective 80 percent of the time. The name of the prod- uct is Longevity Science’s Visual Ocuity. My hus- band had also been told that he needed the surgery, and he has also had great success with these drops. They dis- solve the fatty deposits on the lens, and these become “floaters,” which come out in the corner of the eye. I hope this can help people avoid surgery. It sure has helped us. Free electronic waste collection event The Tehama County Sanitary Landfill Agency will conduct a Free Electronic Waste Collection Event, from 8:00 a.m. to noon Sat- urday at the following locations: • Red Bluff - Tehama County Department of Social Services, 310 South Main St. • Corning - Park and Ride Commuter Park- ing Lot, northeast cor- ner of Third and Solano streets Televisions, comput- er monitors and equip- ment, microwaves, DVD/VCR players, cell phones, and other small electronic waste, or e-waste, will be accepted for free dur- ing the event. There is no quantity limit on e- waste accepted. This is an opportuni- ty to safely dispose of your old electronics. E-waste is of con- cern largely due to tox- icity, from lead, mer- cury and cadmium, of some of the substances if processed improper- ly. E-waste collected will be recycled, sav- ing landfill space and protecting the environ- ment. For details about the acceptance of electron- ic waste please call the Tehama County Land- fill at 528-1103 or visit the landfill’s website at www.tehamacounty- landfill.com. Clinical Medical Assisting course at the Tehama Campus The Shasta College Economic & Workforce Development Department announces the Clini- cal Medical Assistant course is now offered at the Tehama Cam- pus, 770 Diamond Avenue, Red Bluff. A Clinical Medical Assistant works in a doctor’s office or clin- ic, and will help a physician carry out procedures, care for patients, perform simple lab tests, and administer medica- tions. A Clean, Reliable, Trustworthy, Chimney Company... 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Open registration is now available. This class fills fast so sign up today! For course or registration information visit: www.shasta- college.edu/ewd, and click on "Pathways – Programs and Courses," or call the EWD office at 242-7630. K W I K K U T S Family Hair Salon 1064 South Main St., Red Bluff • 529-3540 with coupon $200 REGULAR HAIRCUT off Not good with other offers Reg. $13.95 Expires 3/31/11 BOOK BARN Used Books Tues-Fri 10-5 Sat 10-2 Serving Tehama County since 1994 619 Oak St., Red Bluff (530) 528-2665 In response to the sec- ond reader, I must admit I was not familiar with Visual Ocuity lubricant eyedrops. From what I’ve since read, they contain 1 percent N-Acetylcarno- sine, a time-released form of naturally occurring dipeptide L-carnosine. The product is reported to be an antioxidant and antiglycating nutrient that helps improve or dissolve cataracts, as well as assisting with dry eyes and other conditions. A 2008 study that appeared in the Royal Journal of Opthalmology could not find safety or efficacy in the product, however. Visual Ocuity is available in eyedrop or capsule form. Another information site indicated the product contains 1 percent glyc- erin and hydroxypropyl WE STAND BEHIND YOUR RETURN. GUARANTEED. Dr. Peter Gott methylcellusose, sterile water, the NAC listed above, boric acid, citric acid, potassium bicarbonate and purified benzyl alcohol as a preservative. And there you have it. I urge readers to speak with their eye specialists to be assured that any deci- sion they make — whether it is surgical, the use of herbs, prescription or over-the-counter drugs or anything in between — be discussed before it is implemented. Therefore, I am passing the informa- tion on from both readers as we all want to be able to make the right choice. What may be correct for one person may not be correct for another. Par- don the pun, but we all see things differently. Thank you both for writ- ing. DEAR DR. GOTT: In my mid-40s, I started get- ting little red dots on my arms, legs and trunk. My doctor called them cherry angiomas. They are becoming quite numerous and are growing larger. Is this simply a cosmetic inconvenience or some- thing significant? DEAR READER: A cherry angioma is a benign growth composed of small dilated blood vessels that appears as a smooth red skin lesion — thus the name. On rare occasions, a dark brown/black color may be present, giving the poten- tial appearance of a malignant melanoma. While there doesn’t appear to be any connec- tion to race or the sex of an individual, light- skinned older people are more inclined to have them. Lesions can appear anywhere on the body but are commonly found on the trunk. Treatment is recom- mended only when the lesions are undesirable from a cosmetic point of view. Options can include cryotherapy, curettage and electrodesiccation or shave excision. If you haven’t already, see a dermatologist for a complete examination of the lesions to be certain there are no malignancies and to discuss if the possi- bility of removal is best for you. Most cherry angiomas do not require treatment. Readers who would like related information can order my Health Report “Medical Special- ists” by sending a self- addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order made payable to Newsletter and mailed to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092-0167. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website’s direct link at www.AskDrGottMD/orde r_form.pdf. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com. 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