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Tuesday, June 11, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Ex wife's false accusations ruining life Learn to stop before therapy for his own wellDear Annie: My son's being. He needs to get his estranged wife has reported life back. him to child protective serDear Annie: My dear vices six times and to the friends' daughter recently police for various things married. When she first got she's invented over the past engaged, she announced a three years. Due to her false small wedding, and I offered accusations, he has been to make silk flowers. I do arrested three times. He has been found innocent of all Annie's this professionally and had most of the supplies. charges, but she persists. Months later, it turned She charged him with violating a restraining order by Kathy Mitchell into a huge event. I also was and appeared in court last and Marcy Sugar in the middle of a major move. I agonized over findweek flanked by bodyguards supplied by victim services. ing the exact color and got frustratThis charge was thrown out. My son ed when I needed to do more flowhas never touched her, but she has ers than I had originally planned. I convinced many people that he is also had to buy additional supplies dangerous. She is such a good liar because what I had in mind wasn't that she actually believes her own acceptable to the bride. Since I had stories, which makes her even more moved, I needed to find new suppliers. I spent hours running around convincing. My son has become so paranoid, and emailing the bride about her he barely leaves his house. He is so specifications. I knew it was going depressed that he can barely func- to cost me hundreds more than I tion and is unable to work. She is planned, so several months before slowly killing him. Is there anything the actual wedding, I opted out of he can do besides continue to attending. I was newly unemployed defend himself? The lawyers' costs and simply could not afford it. But I have become a nightmare for our found the perfect ''bling'' that the whole family. There must be some- bride wanted and sent the flowers to thing more we can do besides wait- her. I never received so much as a ing for her next dramatic step. — thank you. Her last email was, ''Are Worried Family Members Dear Worried: Your husband you still coming?'' I refused to may need to go on the offensive. answer. Not once did she ask, What his ex-wife is doing is harass- ''How are you?'' So Bridezilla had ment, and he should ask his lawyer her day, and now my friend is not about suing her. He also can search speaking to me. Was I wrong not to attend? I told for a divorce support group in his area or online and get into low-cost my friend I wasn't coming. — The Mailbox Friend Who Wasn't There Dear Friend: You are never obligated to attend a wedding unless you are a participant. And your flowers were a lovely gift for which the bride should have thanked you and over which she undoubtedly drove you nuts. However, when the bride asked whether you were coming to the wedding, it was rude of you to ignore her email. Perhaps if you apologize first, the friendship can recover. Dear Annie: To ''Frustrated Daughter-in-Law,'' whose motherin-law doesn't get out and do things, has it ever occurred to her to ask her mother-in-law to go with her to these places? I am a widow, and after a lifetime of having someone with you, it is hard to do things by yourself. I prefer having someone I know go with me, but no one wants to be bothered taking me anywhere, so I sit at home. If she would take her motherin-law to these places, Mom could see how much fun it could be, perhaps make a friend and then take it from there on her own. — Fort Myers, Fla. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. New weather station installed at Shasta College A new California Irrigation Management Information System (CIMIS) weather station has been installed at Shasta College (#224) and is now on-line and providing accurate data to assist agricultural and landscape irrigators to accurately schedule irrigation applications. Efficient use of water resources benefits Californians by saving water, energy, and money. The new station installation and ongoing maintenance is through a cooperative agreement between the Bella Vista Water District, Shasta College and the California Department of Water Resources with funding through a WaterSmart Grant from the U.S. Bureau of Reclamation awarded to the Bella Vista Water District. The California Irrigation Management Information System (CIMIS) is a program in the Office of Water Use Efficiency (OWUE), California Department of Water Resources (DWR) that presently manages a network of 238 automated weather stations in the state of California. CIMIS was initially developed in 1982 by the California Department of Water Resource and the University of California at Davis to assist California's irrigators manage their water resources efficiently. Since the beginning of the CIMIS weather station network in 1982, the primary purpose of CIMIS was to make available to the public, free of charge, information useful in accurately estimating crop water use for irrigation scheduling purposes. Although irrigation scheduling continues to be the main use of CIMIS, uses have expanded to include the timing of new plantings as well as fertilizer, pesticide and herbicide applications. In addition to calculated reference evapotranspiration (ETo), data includes daily and hourly precipitation, solar radiation, minimum, maximum and average temperatures, soil temper- ature, relative humidity, wind speed and direction. The Email Scheduler is a convenient feature of CIMIS that enables users to receive CIMIS data automatically via email. The Email Scheduler is accessed on the CIMIS website, where users fill in a form specifying the desired CIMIS information and it will be delivered automatically to the requested email address. Users only need to fill in the form one time in order to receive automatic updates. For more information, or to access or sign up for emailed data, visit cimis.water.ca.gov/cimis/ welcome.jsp or call (530) 241-1085. Vet recommends medical marijuana for pets LOS ANGELES (AP) — Until she introduced ''magic cheese'' to her sick and aging bulldog, Laura Bugni-Daniel watched him suffer for two years. He'd spend his days lying down or throwing up. Today, at age 12, he plays like a puppy through the day, his fur is soft and he sleeps at night, soothed not by magic, but by the dose of marijuana in that cheese. Bugni-Daniel is part of a growing movement to give medical marijuana to pets in pain. Many urge caution until there's better science behind it. But stories abound about changes in sick and dying pets after they've been given cannabis — even though it isn't a proven pain killer for man or mutt, and it's an illicit drug under federal law despite being legal for people in 19 states and the District of Columbia. Leading the charge is Los Angeles veterinarian Doug Kramer, 36, known as the ''Vet Guru,'' who felt it was his duty to speak out while he has no family that would feel a verbal or financial backlash. ''I grew tired of euthanizing pets when I wasn't doing everything I could to make their lives better,'' he said. ''I felt like I was letting them down.'' Pot eased his Siberian husky's pain during her final weeks, after she had surgery to remove tumors. Not only did Nikita stop whimpering while using cannabis, but she started eating, gaining weight and meeting him at the door again. It gave him six extra weeks with his dog before he had to euthanize her, he says. It wasn't a cure, but he thinks it freed her of pain and improved her last days. Some other vets contacted said they share Kramer's view on pot, but they wouldn't talk on the record for fear of arrest or retaliation. Kramer hasn't lost any clients over his view, but he was asked not to return to some of the clinics where he volunteered or relieved other vets because of concerns over the negative image his advocacy creates, he 'I grew tired of euthanizing pets when I wasn't doing everything I could to make their lives better' — Veterinarian Doug Kramer said. Dr. Duncan Lascelles, a professor of surgery and pain management at North Carolina State University College of Veterinary Medicine, thought about studying marijuana a decade ago. He didn't, not for lack of interest, but because the timing was wrong. ''I have been considering looking at that field again because I think it does have a lot of potential,'' he said. He also figures those all-important grants needed for research will be available now. Testing could take 10 years or more to be sure a pain killer will be effective and free of side effects, Lascelles said. Kramer said it's unconscionable to let a decade pass, when millions of pets will die of illness and old age. Vets who want traditional testing point to a study by two Colorado animal hospitals that compared the number of dogs treated for what appeared to be accidental marijuana overdoses between 2005 and 2010 with increases in the number of marijuana licenses issued. As registrations increased 146-fold, the number of sickened pets went up four-fold. ''Sometimes public sentiment and activity gets ahead of the scientific background and that can be dangerous,'' said Barry Kellogg, senior veterinary adviser to the Humane Society of the United States. While two dogs with pot in their system died in the Colorado survey, hallucinogenic reactions may make dogs wobbly on their legs, raise their pulse and cause dribbly urine, said Dr. Karl Jandrey, an emergency and critical care vet at the Veterinary Medical Teaching Hospital at the University of California, Davis. But pot clinic managers say that a proper dose of the drug will prevent a bad reaction. Jessica LeRoux of Twirling Hippy Confections in Denver made custom treats that helped extend the life of her last service dog, a black Lab-border collie mix named Thor. ''I got the 15th year out of that relationship because of the product I made for him,'' she said. Old or ailing pets who take cannabis usually experience an immediate boost in appetite and relief from pain. That lets them get around, relieve themselves without help, sleep better and enjoy their families until age or disease catches up, LeRoux said in explaining how the cannabis helps pets. At La Brea Compassionate Caregivers in Los Angeles, manager Megan Hanley recommends a drop of liquid marijuana extract marketed as Companion Cannabis for every 10 pounds of dog. It can be spread on cheese or bread. ''It's a revolutionary product and response to it has been tremendous in the last year,'' she said. Bugni-Daniel, in Divide, Mont., is allowed to have four marijuana plants under state law for her medical needs. She turns that into extract for her and Rabito. Marijuana has been like the fountain of youth for the American bulldog. 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