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Thursday, May 2, 2013 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Man fantasizes about what could have been Corneal transplants dren, doing housework, payDear Annie: I'm in my ing bills — all of those 40s and have been married things are unromantic and for 20 years. We have two unexciting. It takes work to children. Our marriage has make a good marriage. been OK but not totally fulDon't simply tell your wife filling. For the past five what you want her to years, I have been in contact change. Maybe she'd like with my ex-fiancee. you to change, too. I have thought about getWe commend you for not ting divorced a number of Annie's wanting to hurt her. So times but have never gone please give your marriage a through with it. I love my wife, but not the same way I by Kathy Mitchell chance before you bail. Ask love my ex. Whenever I and Marcy Sugar your wife to come with you for marriage counseling to speak with my ex, I am my happy old self. She is the most car- see whether you can work through ing, sweet, romantic person I've some of those things that are makever met, and I know, without a ing you unhappy. Dear Annie: My husband doubt, that our lives would be happy if we were together. Not a day goes recently passed away after 40 years by that I don't think about her. We together. It's been heartbreaking. While going through his desk, I treat each other the way people found a checkbook for our joint should be treated. My children do not have the best trust account. He had written in it relationship with their mother, so I that he wanted to leave all five of don't think a divorce would be all our children a sizable amount of that traumatizing for them. I just money. I have no problem with four don't want to hurt her. I have spoken of them, as they are all employed to her about the things I'd like and responsible adults. However, changed, but she only complies for the fifth ''child'' is 58, unemployed, a short while, and then things go and living on his veterans benefits and disability so he can smoke medback to the way they were. Is this just a midlife crisis? ical marijuana. I have already written checks for Should I settle and stick with my current life or take a chance on a the first four kids, but I am dragging my feet about the fifth. It was my new one? — Wanting No Regrets Dear Wanting: So why didn't husband's wish that they all be you marry your ex-fiancee? It's not treated equally. Am I being disreuncommon to fantasize about a spectful to my husband's memory wonderful life with someone you by not getting a check out to my don't actually live with. The mun- son? I'm afraid he will blow it all on dane responsibilities, raising chil- weed. — An Anxious Mom Mailbox Dear Mom: We think your son is probably as responsible as he's going to get. Certainly your husband knew this. Talk to your son. Explain that he has money coming to him, but you are concerned that it won't last very long. Ask whether he'd like you to pay it to him in installments or put it in a trust for his long-term benefit. He may actually prefer an arrangement like this, but if not, please give him the money anyway. What he does with it is not your problem. Dear Annie: Perhaps the owners of vacation homes whose guests leave photos of their own families in the home could start guest scrapbooks. A large scrapbook would provide room for visitors to note when they were there and perhaps mention a few of the more interesting things they did while enjoying the generous hospitality of the owners. This would provide a nice memory book for both the owners and guests, as well as providing an appropriate place for guests to leave their family photos. — Barbara in Ventura Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Group makes quilts for Mother's Day Mother's Day is just around the corner, and the Community Service group of the Sun Country Quilters Guild of Red Bluff is preparing for the presentation of lap quilts at both Brentwood Nursing Rehab and Red Bluff Healthcare Center for the Mother's Day Celebration. The members have spent many hours of sewing and quilting to insure that the patients at the above mentioned facilities will receive a wonderful handmade quilt in honor of Mother's Day. Many of these patients do not have family or visitors nearby. It is always a pleasure to be able to pass on our quilts to them. The warm feeling in our hearts is multiplied when we visit the hospitals and see one of our quilts covering their legs. It gives one the feeling that all the Monday mornings spent making the quilts is worth it. The following quilters have participated in this project: Pat Brink and Georgina Tacconi, CoChairmen's, Janyce Mathis, Jackie Crain, Leanna Jensen, Pat Peebler, Kathy Miller, Fran Smith, Courtesy photo Pictured are Jackie Crain, Kathy Miller, Leanna Jensen, Pat Brink and Pat Peeble. Amy Seibert, Lucy Tully and Darlene Leddy. These ladies meet every Monday morning to assembly the quilts from the fabric donated by guild members. Each is different in its own way and seldom are there two quilts identical in pattern and fabric. Each is made with special care, knowing that the love and warmth put into the making will be shared with someone with a need. The group has been presenting quilts for Mother's Day for over 10 years and also gives quilts to Head Start, Meals on Wheels, Father's Day and child protective services. This year the group will hold its biannual quilt show is May 18 and 19 at the Tehama District Fairground with the theme of a Garden of Quilts. Community Service will have a booth showing the quilts we give away. Stop by and visit with the members and they will tell you how you too can get involved. The Sun Country Quilters Guild of Red Bluff is a non-profit organization. It welcomes any quilter, new or old, that would like to donate their time on Monday morning to contact either Pat Brink at 529-6650 or Georgina Tacconi at 528-1126 for more information. Library to hold book sale Saturday are highly successful fine nylon sutures DEAR DOC(surgical threads). TOR K: I'm (I've put an illusscheduled to have tration of the proa corneal transcedure on my plant. What can I website, AskDocexpect during this torK.com.) Afterprocedure? ward, your eye DEAR READwill be covered ER: The cornea is Dr. K with a soft eye the clear, round by Anthony L. patch and hard "window" that allows light to Komaroff, M.D. eye shield. Steroid eye enter the front of the eye. If the cornea drops will help prevent becomes severely dis- your body from rejecting eased or damaged, it can the transplanted tissue. cause a significant loss of Rejection is the most vision. A corneal trans- common complication: plant often is the best The body's immune syssolution. In this proce- tem identifies the donor dure, an eye surgeon cornea as foreign and replaces part of the cornea begins to attack it. In most with a section of healthy cases, rejection can be cornea taken from a treated successfully with deceased donor. Donor medication. You'll continue to wear corneas come from a local the eye patch for a few eye bank. Before surgery, your days. Sutures are usually doctor may prescribe left in place for several antibiotic eye drops. You months, or they may be may need to adjust or dis- allowed to remain in the continue certain medica- eye permanently. After the tions that could increase transplant, your vision your risk of surgical com- should improve gradually plications. In the mean- over a period of months. Corneal transplant time, the eye bank will confirm that the donor surgery was first percornea is free of infection, formed more than 100 transparent and structural- years ago. Over the years, the results have become ly sound. The eye surgeon will much better. Superior surmeasure your eye to deter- gical equipment now is mine the size of the available, and the risks of cornea that is needed. infection are much lower Before the surgery is start- because of antibiotics. ed, the surgeon will cut The risk that the transthe donor cornea to the planted cornea will be rejected has been greatly right size. Corneal transplants are reduced by medicines that usually done as an outpa- suppress the immune systient procedure. You will tem in the eye. Even 60 years ago, get a sedative and local anesthesia. You'll be people with damaged awake but drowsy; you'll corneas could not always feel tugging on your eye be saved from blindness. but will feel no pain. The Today, the odds are very surgical team will use spe- good that their vision can cial techniques to keep be restored. your eyes open so you Dr. Komaroff is a don't have to worry about physician and professor blinking. Harvard Medical The surgeon will cut at To send out a circular "button" of School. go to tissue containing the dis- questions, AskDoctorK.com, or eased or damaged part of your cornea. Then the write: Ask Doctor K, 10 donor cornea will be Shattuck St., Second stitched into place using Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Anderson Century Bike Ride The ninth annual Anderson Century Bike Ride will be held on Saturday, May 18, and riders may register online at andersoncentury.com. The Anderson Century Bike ride has riders from the local area and throughout California, Oregon, Nevada and Washington. Riders enjoy the 25, 40, 60 or 100 – mile rides, starting and finishing at Anderson River Park. Longer routes climb through the foothills of southeastern Shasta County. Enterprise and Anderson Lions clubs provide service for the riders including rest stops with snacks, drinks and lunch. All riders enjoy a pasta meal furnished by Mary's Pizza Shack at the park upon completing the ride. Riders will also be able to register for next year's ride at a reduced fee after the race. Check the website or call the Ride Director at (530) 941-9977 or send an email to mikeferrier11@gmail.com for specific information. Courtesy photo The spring Book Sale hosted by the Tehama County Friends of the Library, is set for 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Saturday, May 4. Come support your library. Books are sold for 50 cents or less and all proceeds go to Children's Programming. 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