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Wednesday, January 30, 2013 ��� Daily News 3B FEATURES Beau���s money management causes concern Turn aggression to Bud like a child, even if he Dear Annie: I���ve been makes poor financial deciwith a wonderful guy for sions. He will resent it and five years. After two abupush back. Instead, sive marriages, I am finally approach all such matters being treated right. ������Bud������ jointly, being respectful of and I have only two issues: each other���s opinions, even money and kids. We have when you disagree. You also broken up a few times over could offer to take over the our problems, but honestly, Annie���s handling of finances for the I can���t live without him. household, keeping everyBud is 44 years old and one within a reasonable budowns his own business, but he does not save money. by Kathy Mitchell get. But you are wise not to When I met him, he had and Marcy Sugar commingle your money if you don���t trust Bud���s ability nothing. Now he has $20,000 in a retirement account and to handle it. Before marrying, conanother $5,000 in savings. He final- sider financial counseling together ly has his two kids pretty well through your bank or the National straightened out, although they will Foundation for Credit Counseling (nfcc.org). never be exactly normal. Dear Annie: My husband and I Bud still doesn���t manage his money well. He needs so many have been married 27 years. We things in his house, yet he went out each have grown children from preand bought a truck he doesn���t need. vious marriages. My husband���s 42-year-old He now has six years of payments on it, his auto insurance went up, unmarried son lives out of state. and if he ever needs new tires, we ������Mike������ is self-supporting, but the are talking thousands of dollars. I only time we hear from him is when want him to sell it and get a reason- he needs some extra money. He ably priced truck. He says he will lives alone except for his dogs. For lose money on the sale, which is the past three years, Mike has spent true, but why sink even more into Christmas with us, staying three or four days. We are always happy to it? Both of my marriages involved see him, even though we only have men who overspent on themselves, two bedrooms and he brings the so I know I have a tendency to be dogs ��� even one who is incontiextra cautious. How can I convince nent. Last year, my daughter (who also Bud that he did the wrong thing by buying the truck, but that he still has lives out of state) visited with her time to fix it? I won���t marry a man I two children. We hadn���t seen her in can���t trust with my money. Not two years. My husband also was scheduled for knee replacement again. ��� Thrice Shy Dear Thrice: You can���t treat surgery the following week. So Mailbox when Mike asked to come with his dogs and a new puppy, we explained that it wasn���t a good time. We asked him to come in February or March, while his father recuperated ��� and hopefully, the puppy would be housebroken. We have not heard from him since, even though I have left numerous messages on his voicemail. What more can I do to mend this fragile relationship? ��� In the Middle Dear Middle: Not much. You have explained, and you have called. We trust you will keep all of the kids informed of Dad���s progress, including Mike. But it is up to him to make the next move. We suspect when he needs money, he will get in touch again. Dear Annie: Most women who responded to ������Your Husband������ do not understand men very well. Without sex, men feel incomplete. It���s part of how we feel loved. Women should realize how important sex is to a man simply by seeing that he is willing to risk everything ��� his wife, family and assets ��� to fill this void. ��� Feeling the Void in Indiana Annie���s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie���s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Butte College Foundation Spring Gala The Butte College Foundation Spring Gala will honor outstanding alumni during an elegant evening of food and entertainment on Saturday, March 23 at the Sierra Nevada Big Room, 1075 E.20th St., Chico, beginning at 6 p.m. Tickets for the annual fundraising event are $100 each and include dinner, a silent and live auction. This year���s theme is ���Celebrating 25 Years of Giv- ing the Gift of Education.��� ���The college will recognize four outstanding alumni who have truly demonstrated excellence in community service and their professional areas of expertise,��� said Dr. Kimberly Perry, Butte College president. ���There are over 500,000 alumni touching lives not only in our community, but also statewide, nationally and even internationally. This event is the main fundraising event for the Butte College Foundation which will support student scholarships and athletics programs.��� The four Butte College outstanding alumni selected this year include Kelly Candaele, writer and filmmaker; Teri Dougherty, platform artist/hair designer; Stephen Gonsalves, principal architect, Nichols, Melburg & Rossetto Architects and Engi- neers; and Larry Jones, Glenn County Sheriff. The Butte College Foundation, created in 1987, is a non-profit auxiliary organization that supports the College and its students, faculty, and staff. Last year alone, the Foundation distributed 387 scholarships directly to deserving students. For sponsorship or ticket information, 530-8952359 or email foundation@butte.edu. Reclamation releases document for Napa Berryessa district NAPA ��� The Bureau of Reclamation has released a Draft Environmental Assessment for the proposed water and wastewater treatment upgrades and expansion by the Napa Berryessa Resort Improvement District, located in Napa County, Calif. The District���s proposed improvements will occur in three locations at the southern end of Lake Berryessa. The project area consists of Reclamation-owned land that is either currently under permanent easement to the District or for which a land-use agreement has been requested by the District, privately owned land or land owned by the District. The total size of the ���footprint��� for the proposed action is approximately 12.3 acres. The purpose of the proposed action is to grant the District a land-use agreement for the expansion of wastewater ponds and the acceptance of proposed improvements to the District���s water and wastewater systems under existing land-use agreements with Reclamation. The District���s proposed improvements will allow the District to meet the standards of regulating agencies and meet current and future needs of the customers within the District���s boundaries by increasing the reliability and efficiency of the water and wastewater systems. The Draft EA was prepared in accordance with the National Environmental Policy Act and is available for public review at http://www.usbr.gov/mp/nepa/ne pa_projdetails.cfm?Project_ID=1 2150. If you encounter problems accessing the document online, please call 916-978-5100 or email mppublicaffairs@usbr.gov. Please send written comments by close of business Monday, February 11, to Melissa Harris, Bureau of Reclamation, 7794 Folsom Dam Road, Folsom, CA 95630-1799. Comments may also be emailed to Harris at mmharris@usbr.gov. For additional information or to request a copy of the draft document, please contact Harris at 916-989-7162. Copies of the Draft EA may also be viewed at Reclamation���s Lake Berryessa Office, 5520 Knoxville Road, Napa, CA 94558. Ishi Conservation Camp receives award On Jan. 3, the Tehama-Glenn Unit���s Ishi Conservation Camp received a Superior Accomplishment Award for the work and commitment of the staff of Ishi Camp to the success of the 27th annual Ishi Crew Preparedness Exercise held in May 2012. CalFire Director Ken Pimlott presented the award to Assistant Chief Dave Russell on behalf of Ishi Conservation Camp at a ceremony held at the California Highway Patrol Academy in West Sacramento. Of all CalFire���s crew preparedness exercises held in various parts of the state, the Ishi Preparedness Exercise, held in cooperation with the California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation (CDCR), is the largest; testing 47 hand crews from 9 of the Conservation Camps residing in CAL FIRE���s Northern Region. Planning each year for the exercise begins three to four months in advance and demands a tremendous amount of work and commitment by the entire staff working at Ishi Camp for it to succeed. In 2012, Fire Crews from Ishi Conservation Camp spent 104,128 hours on emergency incidents in various parts of California. In addition to emergency incidents, Ishi crews spend a significant number of their crew hours during the year on community service, resource conservation, and public works projects. Crews worked 64,880 hours on such projects in 2012 which include 2,936 hours completing work for local schools in Tehama County. positive ends the rational part. DEAR DOCIn contrast, the TOR K: I���m the part of our brain executive assistant that experiences to a CEO, a man emotion ��� the I���ve worked with primitive part ��� for years. By most has been with animeasures, he���s mals since the doing a very good reptiles. job for the compaDr. K That���s why ny, but people managing aggresdon���t like him. by Anthony L. He���s aggressive, Komaroff, M.D. sion is one of the most critical and that���s been good for the company, but issues in leadership suche comes across as angry. cess. The challenge is to I think he���ll listen to use aggression for creadvice from me. How can ative, helpful purposes he channel his aggression without inflicting pain or harm. Hopefully, you can more constructively? DEAR READER: I���m help your boss recognize no expert on leadership, his aggression and funnel but I���ve seen many leaders it into constructive direcin the medical arena. And tions. My Harvard Medical you���re right: An aggressive personality has both School colleague Dr. Ken advantages and disadvan- Settel, with Joseph Cardiltages in a leader. Aggres- lo, has written a short, sion can drive a company instructive e-book about to compete successfully in the characteristics of suca competitive world. The cessful leaders. It���s called leader can set goals that ���CEO Psychology: Who some on the team think Rises, Who Falls, and are unrealistic ��� but then Why.��� You can learn more the skeptics are proven about it at my website, wrong. They discover that AskDoctorK.com. Dr. Settel recommends they are able to meet their leader���s goals. Think what the following exercises to happened to Apple under help a person pay careful the leadership of Steve attention to his anger: ��� Ask: Am I angry? Jobs. But aggressive person- What exactly is stirring alities can also cause dis- me up? Take a time-out. ��� Ask: Is what I am ruption with their anger and impatience. They can feeling appropriate to the drive good people away. situation at hand? ��� Ask: What is That���s particularly true when their personalities expected of me in this sitcause them to dismiss any uation? What is my goal? advice that doesn���t fit What do I want from this their preconceptions. situation? What do others When it becomes clear to want? Finally, I���ll bet your others that a leader is primarily concerned about boss has a sense of humor, his own position and not but others may not have about the well-being of seen it. Laugh at his jokes the company, some people and say, ���I wish others stop following the leader. could see how funny you While many talented peo- are.��� That���s a valuable ple stayed with Apple antidote to the impact of because of Steve Jobs, an intense personality. others left. Dr. Komaroff is a In my opinion, what matters most is which part physician and professor Harvard Medical of a person���s brain is dri- at School. To send ving his or her aggressivego to ness: the rational part or questions, or the emotional part. What AskDoctorK.com, distinguishes the human write: Ask Doctor K, 10 brain from the brains of Shattuck St., Second other animals is the size of Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Retired teachers to meet The California Retired Teachers Association, Mt. Lassen, Division 9 meeting will begin at 11 a.m. Monday, Feb. 11, at the Federated Church of Orland, 709 First Street. For directions to the church call Jan Kinnier at 865-3660 or Shirley Russell at 865-9555. The cost for the luncheon prepared by the Federated Church Women will be $10. The program will be fun activities and entertainment such as the Prairie Strings children���s group, Shirley Russell, bell tree, Martin Trang, flute & piano, and John Tolley vocalist. The main focus of this meeting will be patriotic and making donations to our scholarship fund. Several door prizes will be given away. Come enjoy our meeting in Orland, visit with old friends, and make new ones.