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OCTOBER 5-11, 2016 UCW 31 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM WEEKLY HOROSCOPE ADVICE GODDESS A Mile In Somebody Else's Choose I'm a woman who's on the feminist dating app Bumble, where women have to make the first move. Men can only write back to women who message them. I thought this would be empowering, but even pursuing a guy in this small way feels unsexy and overly aggressive. Do I just need to get over my retrograde thinking? — Uncomfortable Who does the chasing in dating also isn't some arbitrary thing. It comes down to what evolutionary biologist Robert Trivers, in 1972, called "parental investment." His theory — borne out in research on humans, animals, and insects — is that the sex that has the highest cost from sexual activity (the female — in almost all species) will be choosier about whom they mate with than the sex that invests less (which is almost always the male). In humans, of course, women are the ones who get pregnant and stuck with the kids, and men can, as anthropologists quip, just "inseminate and run." Women can't just shrug off the emotional mechanisms that drive this behavior even today — even if Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe deems it "heteronormative" hooey that women damage their desirability by chasing men. A trip to the Panamanian wetlands would show her she's wrong — that what drives which sex does the chasing and which does the choosing really is about who gets stuck with the child care. Zoologist Stephen Emlen and his team found that it's the male jacana, not the female, that sits incubating the eggs in the nest and cares for the chickies after they hatch. And right in line with Trivers' parental investment theory, female jacanas are the ones who do the chasing, competing for the males, and some even have "harems" of up to five boy birds. And it gets worse. The Emlen team found that as male jacanas sit tending their egg brood, they're sometimes forced to watch while their girlfriend bird gets it on right in front of them with the other boy birds in her harem. Getting back to Bumble, where the app goes wrong is in removing the filtering that comes from a man needing to lay his ego on the line and expend effort to pursue a woman. The notion that it's "empowering" for women to do the chasing ignores that it's in men's genetic interest to not turn down a mating opportunity — even with a woman they aren't that interested in. Also, because men evolved to expect choosier women, even subtle forms of chasing like your contacting a man first may send a message that you're not all that. If you're really looking to put him off, why not turn the tables all the way and send a panorama shot of your erect penis? You: "Yoo-hoo? Where'd you go?!" Copyright Amy Alkon NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD Police and prosecutors in Dallas, appropriately sensit ive at hav ing been t he site of t he 1963 k illing of President John F. Kennedy, have apparent ly t aken out t heir shame on assassinat ion buf f Rober t Groden. A s t he Dallas Obser ver repor ted in September, Groden has been t icketed by police dozens of t imes for operat ing book sales boot hs near t he "grassy k noll" (site of t he alleged "second shooter " of t he president) — and yet he prevails in cour t ever y single t ime (82 st raight, and count ing). ( Tip for v isitors f rom t he Obser ver: Never publicly ut ter "grassy k noll" in Dallas, as it seems par t icularly to of fend t he police.) [Dallas Obser ver, 9-8-2016] The Continuing Crisis Stephen Mader, 25, nat ive of Weir ton, West Virginia, and former Weir ton police of f icer, is f ight ing to get his job back af ter being f ired for not being quick enough on t he t rigger. W hen Ronald Williams Jr., in May, made a ham-handed at tempt at "suicide by cop," it was Mader who, rat her t han shoot ing , t ried to t alk Williams dow n ( based on his Marine Corps and police academy t raining), but when Williams pointed his unloaded g un at t wo of Mader 's colleag ues, and one of t hem quick ly shot t he man to deat h, police of f icials f ired Mader for hav ing been insuf f icient ly aggressive. [Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, 9-11-2016] Can't Possibly Be True: Few U. S. forces in A fghanist an speak t he nat ive Pashto or Dari, and t he war prospect s would be dim were it not for courageous A fghan civ ilians who aid t he U. S. as interpreters under promise of protect ion and f ut ure emigrat ion to t he U. S. However, t he Congressional bat t le over immigrat ion polic y has delayed ent r y for about 10,000 interpreters, who (along w it h t heir families) face imminent deat h if t hey remain in A fghanist an. Some in Congress also regard A fghans as risk ier immigrant s (despite t he interpreters' demonst rated loyalt y). [New York Times, 8-18-2016] COPYRIGHT CHUCK SHEPPARD ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, certain feelings may not be easy to convey, but try to find the words this week. It's important to let your feelings be known, and others are waiting on you to speak up. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 Taurus, coworkers respond favorably to a proposal you worked hard on. Allow this professional momentum to pay dividends outside of the office as well. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 Gemini, mixed signals lead to a bit of confusion. It's nothing you can't handle if you backtrack and remedy the original situation, just provide yourself ample time to set things right. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 Be extra sensitive to the plights or concerns of others this week, Cancer. Some around you could benefit from some empathy and understanding. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 Leo, now might be a great time to take a step back and enjoy a little breathing room. Look at things from a different perspective, and you might be amazed at your new outlook. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, many things in your life are vying for your attention. It's difficult to choose just one, but you will have to do so this week. If necessary, reach out to a friend for assistance. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Libra, your values and those of a loved one may clash from time to time. Some polite and intelligent discourse might be just what the doctor ordered this week. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Reactions come swiftly and strongly this week, Scorpio. You either love or hate something, and things may be very black and white in your world in the days ahead. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Sagittarius, try to separate your personal life from your professional activities this week. This may require being a little more quiet and introspective than usual, but do your best. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, let your feelings be heard if you feel underappreciated by someone close to you this week. Your loved one will appreciate your honesty and welcome your insight. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 A meaningful conversation with the right person may occur this week, Aquarius. It could mean a step in the right direction for you and help to further your career. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Pisces, your emotions are so strong this week that you may feel alienated from those closest to you. If so, make an effort to stay connected. Amy Alkon Chuck Sheppard Join Us Every TUESDAY Morning 8:30am - 10:00am A Women's Business Networking Group Between Us Girls Meeting to be held at Let Me Cater to You 445 Westwood Shopping Center For More Information Contact Keri Dickson 910.584.4121 Keri@UpAndComingWeekly.com