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JUNE 29 - JULY 5, 2016 UCW 27 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM WEEKLY HOROSCOPE ADVICE GODDESS The Gift Of Blab My girlfriend tells her mother and her friends pretty much everything. Literally four of her friends and her mom were weighing in on her recent urinary tract infection. I just don't get why she feels the need to let everybody know her business, and it's the opposite of what I do. I'm very private, and I'd like us to have some things that stay between us — especially stuff that goes on in the bedroom. How would I set boundaries like this? And does this mean that we are ultimately incompatible? — Mr. Uncomfortable Beyond individual human differences, there are some male-female differences, like in feelings — and information — sharing. Sex differences, researcher Joyce Benenson explains, that men evolved to be the physical defenders of the species, and it would have put a man at a deadly disadvantage to show the enemy his emotions — like if he went all scaredypants from fear: "Oh my God, is that the enemy? I'm gonna throw up." Women, on the other hand, evolved to build support networks and avoid social exclusion by convincing other women that they aren't a threat. A woman does this not by hiding her vulnerabilities but by putting her problems and weaknesses on parade — a la "My ladyparts have been declared an EPA cleanup zone!" In other words, your privacy nightmare — the scrapbooking circle getting together to focus-group your medical issues — is your girlfriend's emotional comfort zone. But this isn't necessarily a sign that your relationship is toast. For a relationship to make it, you and your partner don't have to be the same; you just have to have enough in common and be loving in dealing with each other's differing weirdass needs. If there were such a thing as psychological catnip for humans, it would probably be feeling understood. So, tell your girlfriend that you understand it helps her to hash things out with her mom and the ladypeeps and that you think that's great. You're just wired differently. Explain how, and then — sweetly — make your request: You'd feel most comfortable if what happens between you stays between you…given that your idea of openness involves making people sign a 30-page nondisclosure agreement before viewing the heavily encrypted photos -- of Steve, your dog. Copyright Amy Alkon NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD In May, the Norwegian Consumer Council staged a live, 32-hour TV broadcast marathon — a word-for-word reading of the "terms of service" for internet applications Instagram, Spotify and more than two dozen others, totaling 900 pages and 250,000 words of legal restrictions and conditions that millions of users "voluntarily" agree to when they sign up (usually via a mouse click or finger swipe). A council official called such terms "bordering on the absurd," as consumers could not possibly understand everything they were legally binding themselves to. (The reading was another example of Norway's fascination with "slow TV" — the success of other marathons, such as coverage of a world- record attempt at knitting yarn and five 24-hour days on a salmon-fishing boat, mentioned in News of the Weird in 2013.) [Wall Street Journal, 5-25- 2016] Government in Action! The Defense Department still uses 1980s-era 8-inch floppy disks on computer systems that handle part of America's "nuclear umbrella," including ballistic missiles. Also, according to a May report by the Government Accountability Office, systems using 1970s-era COBOL programing language are still used for key functions of the Justice Department and Internal Revenue Service, among others (including Veterans Affairs, for tracking beneficiary claims). Agencies have reported recruiting retired employees to return to fix glitches in operating systems long since abandoned by Microsoft and others. [CNBC, 5-25- 2016] In April, police in Boise, Idaho, told KAWO Radio that they will not relax the year-old ban on dachshund "racing" that was a traditional family entertainment highlight at the annual "Arena-Wiena Extravaganza" — because all dog-racing in Idaho is illegal. The station had argued that the law intended to target only greyhound racing; that an exception had been carved out for popular dogsled racing (reasoning: individual dogs were not racing each other); and that, in any event, the "race" course was only about 40 feet long — but reported that the authorities were "dead serious" about the ban. [LoweringTheBar.net, 4-25- 2016] COPY R IGHT CHUCK SHEPPA R D ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, there is much you want others to know about you this week, but you're not ready to share all of the details just yet. Continue to bide your time, sharing only when it feels right. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 There's not much you can do to change a current situation, Taurus. Step away for a bit and let the pieces fall where they may. Then you can develop a strategy. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 You have a new goal this week, Gemini, but others are not as receptive to your ideas as you hoped they would be. You may need to fine tune things. Be persistent. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 Cancer, resolve to make the most of this week even if it seems difficult to do so. Seek support from friends or family members willing to lend an ear or a helping hand. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 Leo, take a few moments to recharge this week. You have been going at a breakneck pace for too long, and now it's time to slow things down. Use some vacation time if you can. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, others are routinely drawn to your unique personality. Make the most of others' warm reception and do your best to return the favor whenever you can. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Libra, if you want to get things accomplished this week, you may have to do them yourself. Going it alone may require a lot of work, but you are up to the challenge. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Scorpio, your magnetism can draw others to you like a moth to a flame, and that has helped you establish lasting friendships and build strong relationships. Cherish your good fortune. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Sagittarius, your super sense of humor is on full display this week, when you have an opportunity to be the life of a party. Spend as much time in the limelight as you can. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, so much is going on that the week seems like it may stretch on forever. Just take things one day at a time and enjoy your full schedule while it lasts. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Take some time for yourself this week, Aquarius. You have earned a little R&R, and now is the perfect time to prioritize some fun and excitement. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Pisces, channel your creative energy into a special project. Invite others to join in the project and let things go where your creativity takes you. Amy Alkon Chuck Sheppard