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8A Daily News – Friday, October 28, 2011 FEATURES Previous partner pervades paramour's privacy Dear Annie: I have been seeing my boyfriend for more than a year. ''Keith'' was divorced three years ago, but he and his ex-wife live in the same town and have four kids together, one of whom still lives with her. I am bothered by their relationship, which goes beyond normal concerns for the children. They talk and text or see each other nearly every day, and it's not always about the kids. She was a controlling wife who regular- ly emasculated Keith. She has money, so she pays him child sup- port, and I'm guessing it's a sub- stantial amount. He doesn't work and survives on her money. They have keys to each other's houses, and she will walk into his home and use his dishes and pool as if they were still hers. This bothers him, but he doesn't do anything about it. Her mail still comes to his house, so he has to deliver it to her. She ''hires'' him to do jobs like moving her furniture. relationship with his ex, so I've put ours on hold. Do you think that relationship is normal? — Unwilling To Share Dear Unwilling: We Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar think Keith is still depen- dent, financially and emo- tionally, on his ex. If he refuses to limit their contact and you are concerned that he would go back to her ''in a heartbeat,'' we'd say your relationship is doomed. It's time to move on. Keith is essentially unavailable. Dear Annie: I was in charge of a recent event that was a huge suc- cess. Our committee planned it for a long time and raised a good amount of money. The only disagreements we have had are about her and her intrusive and controlling nature. I believe this relationship is unhealthy, and I refuse to have her in my life. I've told Keith that I will not share him. I fear he would return to her in a heartbeat if she asked, mostly because of the money. I realize they must be in touch for the kids' sake, and I'm OK with that. But he is unwilling to limit the My boss was also on the commit- tee. Our business donated money, which we used to purchase snacks. Another business donated cases of water. After the event, my boss gathered all of the leftover snacks and water and took them with her. The next day, she told a co-worker that another committee member said it was OK to donate the items to another event she was involved in. She also left the labels on the items, saying they were compli- ments of our business when they are actually the property of the event. What bothers me most is that she never mentioned it to me. It seems sneaky. Do you think this was a tacky thing to do? — Team Captain Dear Captain: If you were in charge of the event, the boss should have asked whether it was OK if she took the leftovers and donated them elsewhere. However, we suspect she thought no one would mind if one donation benefited two good caus- es. She could have handled it more ethically, but it serves no purpose to hold a grudge. Dear Annie: I'd like to tell ''Sad Wife'' that parental favoritism is not unusual. My first husband had three siblings. His parents doted on all of them, but not on my husband. My current husband also has three sib- lings and a similar situation. One thing I noticed in both cases is that parents give their attention to the children they think need it most. To the left-out child, it feels like favoritism, but I truly believe the parents consider that child to be the most loved and think they need to dote on the oth- ers. I finally told my husband's parents how he felt, and they were mortified. Please tell ''Sad Wife'' not to feel bad for her husband. Feel bad for the siblings. — Making My Husband Feel Special Every Day Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Lions Club council of governors meeting The District Governors from Multiple District 4 Lions Club will be meet- ing at the Red Lion to dis- cuss Lionism in California today and Saturday. District Governors from all over California will be discussing Lionism throughout California oth- erwise known as MD4 at Lions Clubs International. Lee Hallowell from the Shingletown Lions Club is the District Governor for Lions Clubs in Northern California Butte County, Shasta County, Siskiyou Lantino Outreach of Tehama County County, Modoc County, Lassen County areas Mul- tiple District 4 represents the Lions organization in 15 Sub Districts within California and an Admin- istrative Office in Santa Barbara. 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Lions Clubs Interna- tional is the world's largest service club organization with more than 1.3 million members in approximately 45,000 clubs in more than 200 countries and geo- graphical areas around the world. For more informa- tion, visit www.lion- sclubs.org. Dulled sense of taste takes away one of life's pleasures DEAR DOC- TOR K: I've recently noticed a dulling of my sense of taste. What's worse, my ability to taste sweetness (my favorite taste!) seems to be the most affected. Is it possible that I've damaged the part of my tongue that detects sweetness? Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. DEAR READER: We don't give much thought to our sense of taste until it isn't there. I'm sure your recent taste troubles have made you realize how much you rely on this sense. You've actually touched on a medical myth about our sense of taste. It's a common mis- conception that the taste buds for each type of taste are grouped together in a particular part of the tongue — sweet taste in one part, sour taste in another, and so on. That's not true. To understand why, here's how we taste things. Our tongues can identi- fy five tastes: sweet, sour, bitter, salty and savory (also called umami). Savory can be a tough taste to describe, but chicken broth is a good example. We have five different types of taste buds, one for each of the five tastes. The five differ- ent taste buds don't look very different, but they are "wired" differently: They each send a different sig- nal to the brain. These five different types of taste buds are scattered around the tongue. So damage to one area of your tongue would not explain why you would lose an entire cate- gory of taste. A reduced ability to taste is fairly common; I see it occasionally in my patients. It has many causes. Aging reduces the ability to taste in some people. Infections of the nose, throat and sinuses can too, until they go away or are cured. That's mainly because smell contributes to taste. Have you ever noticed how, when you get a bad cold, things don't taste as good? Noth- ing's wrong with your taste buds. It's just your sense of smell that is tem- porarily reduced. If none of the less seri- ous explanations can be applied, it would be a red flag telling me to consider more serious diagnoses. Diabetes can injure the nerves from taste buds to the brain. So can liver dis- ease, kidney disease, Alzheimer's disease and Parkinson's disease. A bad injury to the head, or surgery around the ear, can injure the nerves that go to the tongue. Cancer chemotherapy drugs can reduce the sense of taste. So can exposure to pesti- cides. It sounds like this change in your sense of taste has lasted more than a day or so. If this is true, talk with your doctor about it. While there may be a simple explanation, it's important to get it checked out. As anyone with taste problems will tell you, it's not something we should take for granted. Eating is one of life's necessities. That's why nature made it one of life's great plea- sures. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. Go to his website to send questions and get addi- tional information: www.AskDoctorK.com. Wine tasting event tonight Cooking Class: Flight Night with LaRocca Winery of Chico is set for 6- 7:30 p.m. on Friday, October 28, at Cal- ifornia Kitchen Company. LaRocca Winery is the only organic winery in the local area. Every final Friday of the month from 6-7:30 p.m. is Flight Night. This new concept in wine tasting fea- tures a different winery each month. Each flight will offer wines that the shop does not carry. Then each wine will be paired with dishes that will be prepared in a cooking demonstration. You watch, drink, eat and give your feedback on these new items. Cost is $15. Must be 21 to attend and pre-registration is required. For more information call 529-2482 or visit cali- forniakitchencompany.com. James W. Tysinger, Jr. M.D. Eye Physician & Surgeon Fellow American Academy of Ophtalmology We accept Medical, Medicare & most Insurances Office Hours: Tues-Wed-Thurs 8am-4:30pm Mon & Fri 1pm-5pm For Emergencies, After Hours, Week-ends, Call 530-567-5001 345 Hickory St. Red Bluff Tel: (530) 529-4733 Fax: (530) 529-1114 October Specials Ask about October Punch Cards! Haircut and 15 foils $ Glossing service and Deep conditioning $ 40 10% off color services Headquarters For Hair Leanne Stewart Hrs flexible for earlier/later appt, if needed. 527-8484 40 Chestnut Ave. Hrs: 10-5 Mon-Fri NOTICE OF CURRENT PROPERTY TAX DUE Dana Hollmer, Tehama County Tax Collector, hereby announces that regular secured tax bills will be mailed on or before November 1, 2011, to all property owners, at the addresses shown on the tax roll. If you own property in Tehama County and do not receive a tax bill by November 10, contact the tax collector's office, 444 Oak Street, Room D, Red Bluff, CA or call 527-4535. Failure to receive a tax bill does not relieve the taxpayer of the responsibility to make timely payments. The FIRST INSTALLMENT of 2011-12 taxes are due and payable on November 1, 2011, and will become delinquent if not paid by 5:00 p.m. or the close of business, which ever is later, on December 12, 2011, thereafter a 10% penalty will be added. When the delinquent date falls on a Saturday , Sunday or legal holiday, the time of delinquency is 5:p.m. on the next business day. The SECOND INSTALLEMENT is due on February 1, 2012 and will become delinquent if not paid by 5:00 p.m., or the close of business, whichever is later, on April 10, 2012, thereafter a 10% penalty will be added plus the cost to prepare the delinquent tax records and to give notice of delinquency. BOTH INSTALLEMENTS MAY BE PAID when the first installment is due. Payments may be made by electronic funds transfer or by credit card by logging on to co.tehama.ca.us or by mail sent ot P.O. Box 769, Red Bluff CA, 96080. Mailed payments must be POSTMARKED BY THE DELINQUENT DATE to avoid late penalties. Payments may also be made in person at the county tax collector's office, 444 Oak Street, Room D, Red Bluff, CA, between the hours of 8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m., Monday through Friday, holidays excepted. I certify, under penalty of perjury, that the foregoing is true and correct. DANA HOLLMER Tehama County Tax Collector Executed at Red Bluff, Tehama County, California, on October 21, 2011. Published on October 28, 2011 and November 4, 2011 30