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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myfiance and I have been together for three years; I have a 5-year-old from a previous relationship and we have a 1-year-old together. He has been a wonder- ful guy from the start and has always accepted my oldest, even though he is not his biological father. We moved in together al- most a year ago and it's been going great. We plan to get married soon! The problem is that ever since he moved in, his mom has been calling him every day (sometimes twice a day!). As a mom myself, I understand that "a mother's worry can never go away," but is it necessary for her to call every day? I have mentioned to him that it's starting to bother me — the daily calls, especially when it's dinnertime, when it's the only time of the day we have to bond all together. I feel she always wants to know what is going on in our house. How can I handle this with my fiance? Do I have a right (even though I'm not his wife yet) to make myself heard? —AnnoyedFuture Daughter-in-Law DEAR ANNOYED » Healthy boundaries are important between adult children and their parents, and also between spouses and in-laws. But you may be building a brick wall when a picket fence would do. You certainly have the right to be annoyed about daily phone calls at din- nertime, but that's easy to fix: Your fiance simply has to train himself not to answer his phone between certain hours so your little family can have some important bond- ing time after work and before bath and bed (the same rule should apply to you). You do not get to decide how often your fiance talks to his mother. For many people, a phone call every day is quite normal. If his mother lives a distance away, you might be able to influence the dynamic by actually including her more in your life. Skyping once a week with her so she can see the kids might give her a more positive stake in your family. In your world, you and your immediate family should be at the center — other family members and friends reside along the periphery. You control what to tel l th em and face the consequences of that choice. DEAR AMY » A work col- league has had porno- graphic pictures posted publicly. I saw them, but I'm not sure if she has. Should I let her know as politely as possible? I feel I would want to know. Your advice would be appreciated. — Concerned Colleague DEAR CONCERNED » Of course you should let her know. She might have had photos stolen — or might be the victim of a smear from a former lover or friend. Be discreet, be kind, and say, "I'm telling you this because I would want to know. I hope it's OK." Mother's constant check-ins on son bother his fiancee You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Concentrate on behind-the- scenes activities. This is not the time for you to be front and cen- ter. You can make alterations in your living arrangements. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You should be trying to meet and mingle with individu- als who can provide you with information and mental stimula- tion. Shake things up. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — If you put in extra hours at work, financial reward will be yours. Discuss your work and money situation with someone. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — You can gain popularity by voicing your opinions and ideas. Correct any bad habits that you may have picked up. Don't get involved in gossip. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Take care of any lingering health problems to avoid an illness that could put you out of commission later. Concern yourself with family matters and taking care of correspondence. Aries (March 21-April 19) — A friendship may develop into a serious partnership. Although this is a time for change, stabil- ity can be yours if you plan your actions carefully. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Put your effort into getting ahead financially. Then focus your attention on the home- front. Don't hesitate to pamper your mate. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You can make changes that will enhance your appearance as well as your reputation. Don't be afraid to try something unusual or daring. Be ready to entertain and be entertained. This is just the beginning of something good. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Be cautious while traveling. Keep your emotions contained, and don't let your mood inter- fere with the task at hand. Then you can release some tension. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Your generosity will lead to financial setbacks or difficul- ties with children. Be extremely careful with your money. Some- one close to your heart may try to curtail your freedom. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — The possibility of a romantic interlude with a work associ- ate is present. Make sure you carefully consider things before you proceed. Don't let your deci- sion be one that damages your reputation. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Problems with weight will plague you if you are overin- dulgent. Plan social activities that involve physical exertion. Someone you love will get upset if you have been preoccupied. Horoscope By Eugenia Last TUESDAY, NOV. 11 TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 11, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B