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October 31, 2014

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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband of five years is addicted to marijuana. We have an 8-month-old daughter. He smokes every day — in the morning, afternoon and night. Over the years, his smoking patterns have changed; sometimes he smokes less, but mainly he smokes more. I do not smoke. A few years ago he attended Marijuana Anonymous meetings but was turned off when a group mem- ber realized they had a mutual friend and told the friend. His addiction is run- ning my life. Airplane travel is out because he can't fly with pot and wouldn't know what to do if he needed it when he arrived at our destination. He wants to take a car trip and bring some pot to a friend in an- other state. I'd like to go with him but refuse to drive with him and our daughter in case he gets caught. We live in New York where marijuana is not legal. I'm embarrassed to discuss this with friends and think professional help would serve me best. What would you do? —Sober DEAR SOBER » Your husband is buying and consuming an illegal substance. I assume he is selling it too. He intends to transport it across state lines (that's the kind of caper that only sounds smart when you're stoned). He is impaired virtually all the time. He needs professional help and (likely) in-pa- tient rehab. You ask what I would do: I would detach from his addiction. I would be completely honest with family members and friends. I would ask for help. I would focus my energies on that squishy concept called "self-care." I would see a profes- sional counselor or social worker immediately. I would support my loved one's sobriety and not enable his addiction. And if things didn't change, I would ask him to leave. DEAR AMY » I'm 24 and just started seeing a really great guy. Things have progressed slowly (we didn't have our first kiss until date No. 4), but from the way it's going, I think he really likes me. We have a ton of sexual chemistry/tension, and I'd love to begin to explore that part of the relation- ship, but because of past experiences and the fact that I really like him, I don't want to sleep with him unless I know we are exclusive. How do I make this clear without scaring him off? Wh en an d how do I bring this up? — In Like DEAR IN LIKE » If you two enjoy great chemistry, you are both going to w ant to take it to the next level soon. The time to bring this up is well before you find yourself fumbling with your buttons. Talking about sex is in- timate, important — and pretty sexy. If you are not brave enough to be honest with someone on this level and to frankly state your own needs, you should not be getting naked with him. Husband's pot addiction has wife caught in its tight grip You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — A situation will be out of your hands. Despite your help and caring, someone close to you will be faced with difficulties. Quiet support will be welcome. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You have a unique way of looking at things. Where some see only problems, you see solu- tions. Get-togethers will lead to a stimulating discussion. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Extra cash can be made. Professional gains will improve if you make a move. New oppor- tunities will be very lucrative. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — You will receive mixed signals from someone close to you. Talk it out until you are sure you are both in agreement. Working to- gether will help fix the problem. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Make sure that any donation you make is legitimate. Anyone can print out brochures or make soliciting phone calls. It is up to you to do your research before you help. Aries (March 21-April 19) — If you feel like partying, host one. If you use your imagination, you will entice diverse, interest- ing people to accept your invita- tion. Some amazing connections will be made. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Don't criticize others. Chances are, you are not privy to all of the information required to make a judgment call. If you show interest, perhaps you will be included in the fine details. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You have a lot to offer, so don't be too shy to share your beliefs and concepts with a broad range of people. What you offer will lead to a proposal. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Be prepared to face opposition. You have to express your point of view clearly if you want to win your case. Vague promises will not persuade others to fol- low you. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Romance is highlighted. If you are single, someone special is out there waiting for you, and if you are already committed to someone, now is the time to turn up the heat. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — All eyes will be on you. If you make the most of your time in the spotlight, you will end up in a higher-paying line of work. Your knowledge will attract partners. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — It's human nature to want more, but if you are constantly in pursuit of something else, you won't have time to appreciate what you already have. Stop and smell the roses. Horoscope By Eugenia Last FRIDAY, OCT. 31 FRIDAY, OCTOBER 31, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B

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