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4B Daily News – Friday, November 16, 2012 FEATURES Wife wants hubby to take the initiative Dear Annie: My hus- band and I have been mar- ried for 16 years. We have two children, one with Asperger syndrome. Over the years, my sex drive has waned because of stress, age, work, children, etc. I try to make an effort to be intimate every week. I've seen a doctor to check my hormone levels, and we are already in family coun- seling because of our child. Additional counseling to discuss intimacy would be cost pro- hibitive. don't feel like having sex. Rather than trying to ''woo'' me just a lit- tle, or even initiate sex when we have quiet time and our kids aren't likely to walk in, my husband sits and sulks until I make the first move. He does this every single time. During one particularly stress- ful summer, I didn't make any moves, and he ignored me for two months. He later admitted that he was just waiting to see how long it would take me to ask for sex. He finally apologized. But, Annie, sometimes I just guy. He helps around the house and with the kids. But he rarely talks to me unless the conversation has sex- ual overtones. I have told him that I would prefer more real dialogue — which would, in fact, lead to more sex — instead of being bombarded with sexualized comments. Once, he excitedly called me outside, and I thought he had something of import to say. Nope. He thought I My husband is otherwise a good looked nice in my shorts and wanted to grope me. I can't just switch it on like that. And when I don't respond, he becomes offended. I appreciate that he finds Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar went away for a week, and while we were gone, they picked all our ripe cherries. Some Talk, Please Dear Talk: Your husband sounds amazingly clueless. His behavior toward intimacy is pas- sive-aggressive, and your resent- ment only undermines his attempts to have sex. If you cannot get him to understand this, please look into free or low-cost counseling through your church or United Way. It will be worth it. me sexy, and I know I could work on my libido, but why is it always up to me? Why do I get the guilt trip? What can I say to help him under- stand that I'm perfectly will- ing, but would also like him to pay attention to me when he doesn't want sex? — Dear Annie: A few years ago, we got a dog. Our next-door neigh- bor made it clear he didn't like ''ugly'' fences, so we put up a smaller, aesthetically pleasing fence. The neighbor's trees prevent- ed us from placing it on the actual property line, so he gained a foot or so. What is the best way to deal with the situation? We'll probably be neighbors for another 15 years. — Wondering What's Next Dear Wondering: You are much too accommodating, and your neighbor is taking advantage of you. We say put up a high, no-non- sense fence on your property line. If your neighbor objects, tell him, ''Good fences make good neigh- bors.'' Dear Annie: This letter is in response to ''Letting Go,'' whose boyfriend's wife died three years ago, and he still has her things in the house. Alzheimer's drugs target symptoms, not the cause TOR K: Can you tell me about med- ications to treat Alzheimer's dis- ease? How do they work, and what do they do? DEAR DOC- These include antidepressants, anti-anxiety drugs and antipsy- chotics. I married a widower and also found it strange that he had all of his late wife's belongings in the house. But I am not threat- ened by these items. My hus- band's first wife is only a mem- ory. She was a truly wonderful woman, and I am very lucky to have this man in my life. I am accepted and loved by his first wife's family. We still have a picture of her prominently dis- played in our house. — Califor- nia I purchased climbing roses and planted them along the fence. The neighbor then planted an intrusive vine that is wrapping around my rosebushes. He also has tomato plants draping over the fence and heavy clay pots hung on hooks. It's burning me up that they are so inconsiderate. The year before, we Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. IRS warns of possible disaster scams WASHINGTON – The Internal Revenue Service today issued a consumer alert about possible scams taking place in the wake of Hurricane Sandy. Following major dis- asters, it's common for scam artists to imperson- ate charities to get money or private information from well-intentioned taxpayers. Such fraudu- lent schemes may involve contact by telephone, social media, email or in- person solicitations. The IRS cautions both hurricane victims and people wishing to make disaster-related charita- ble donations to avoid scam artists by following these tips: • To help disaster vic- tims, donate to recog- nized charities. • Be wary of charities with names that are simi- lar to familiar or nation- ally known organiza- tions. Some phony chari- ties use names or web- sites that sound or look like those of respected, legitimate organizations. The IRS website at IRS.gov has a search fea- ture, Exempt Organiza- tions Select Check, which allows people to find legitimate, qualified charities to which dona- tions may be tax- Local Businesses: children to design an ad for YOUR business! You can sponsor a whole classroom of entry. Your student-designed ad will be featured in YOU choose the winning Through a Child's Eyes • Published as a full section of The Daily News December 22 • Digital edition stays online for a full year • Top student "ad designers" receive cash prizes! For details and sponsorship reservations call your Daily News advertising representative today! 527-2151 Tuesday, November 20 DAILYNEWS Deadline to agree to sponsor: RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY deductible. Legitimate charities may also be found on the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA) Web site at fema.gov. • Don't give out per- sonal financial informa- tion — such as Social Security numbers or credit card and bank account numbers and passwords — to anyone who solicits a contribu- tion from you. Scam artists may use this infor- mation to steal your iden- tity and money. • Don't give or send cash. For security and tax record purposes, con- tribute by check or credit card or another way that provides documentation of the gift. • Call the IRS toll-free disaster assistance tele- phone number, 1-866- 562-5227, if you are a hurricane victim with specific questions about tax relief or disaster related tax issues. variety of tactics. Some scammers operating bogus charities may con- tact people by telephone to solicit money or finan- cial information. They may even directly contact disaster victims and claim to be working for or on behalf of the IRS to help the victims file casu- alty loss claims and get tax refunds. They may attempt to get personal Scam artists can use a financial information or Social Security numbers that can be used to steal the victims' identities or financial resources. Bogus websites may solicit funds for disaster victims. Such fraudulent sites frequently mimic the sites of, or use names sim- ilar to, legitimate chari- ties, or claim to be affiliat- ed with legitimate chari- ties, in order to persuade members of the public to send money or provide personal financial infor- mation that can be used to steal identities or financial resources. Additionally, scammers often send e- mail that steers the recipi- ent to bogus websites that sound as though they are affiliated with legitimate charitable causes. Taxpayers suspecting disaster-related frauds should visit IRS.gov and search for the keywords "Report Phishing." More information about tax scams and schemes may be found at IRS.gov using the key- words "scams and schemes." Community Clip? e-mail: clerk@red- bluffdailynews.com or Fax: 527-9251 DEAR READ- ER: The drugs currently available to treat Alzheimer's dis- ease target the symptoms, but not the underlying causes of the disease. The memory loss, impaired thinking and personality changes seen in Alzheimer's disease come from a loss of neurons (nerve cells) and their connections with other neurons. The symptoms of Alzheimer's disease also come from a decline in levels of neurotransmitters — brain chemicals that carry messages between nerve cells. Currently, no treatment prevents or stops Alzheimer's. However, medications can improve symptoms in many patients, although only temporarily. The FDA has approved Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. ease. They may improve appetite and sleep and increase energy, too. Anti-anxiety drugs may help a person with Alzheimer's disease who is anxious, restless or agi- tated. Because they are also sedating, these med- ications often relieve insomnia and sundown- ing. (That's the worsening of behavior problems in the evening.) relieving depres- sion, antidepres- sants often enhance the social functioning in a person with Alzheimer's dis- In addition to five drugs for the treat- ment of Alzheimer's dis- ease: donepezil (Aricept), rivastigmine (Exelon), galantamine (Razadyne, formerly Reminyl), tacrine (Cognex) and memantine (Namenda). I've put a table of these medications, along with their side effects and some additional comments, on my website, AskDoc- torK.com. In some people, these drugs lead to modest improvements in memory and cognitive function (such as making decisions and exercising judgment). Donepezil, rivastig- mine, galantamine and tacrine belong to a class of drugs called cholinesterase inhibitors. They raise the levels of acetylcholine in the brain. (A deficiency in this neu- rotransmitter contributes to the memory problems of this disease.) The drugs are effective for people with mild to moderate Alzheimer's disease. Memantine works dif- ferently. It blocks gluta- mate, another neurotrans- mitter. This is beneficial because too much gluta- mate can destroy neurons. Other drugs are used to treat emotional and behavioral problems that often arise in people with Alzheimer's disease. Antipsychotic drugs may help manage behav- ior problems that result from delusions, hallucina- tions, paranoia, severe agitation and hostility. Will there ever be treat- ments that can prevent Alzheimer's disease, or that can reverse the dis- ease once it starts? I am cautiously optimistic. Over the past 25 years, enormous progress has been made in understand- ing what causes Alzheimer's disease, much of it from col- leagues of mine here at Harvard Medical School. Two molecules, called amyloid beta and tau, begin accumulating in the brain many decades before the symptoms begin. By measuring these molecules, doctors may be able to identify the people who are at risk for getting Alzheimer's disease decades before the symp- toms start. We now have ments that reduce the lev- els of amyloid beta. They have not worked yet in humans who already have the disease. However, many experts think that the treatments may work better if started years before the symptoms of the disease appear in peo- ple at high risk. It will take a decade or more to know. treat- Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. For Thanksgiving Décor Make your holiday table special Create your own festive look! Beautiful Pumpkins & Gourds Saturday, Nov.17th at 11am Plant a beautiful centerpiece to enjoy! Our class is free, please call for reservations. Planted Centerpiece Workshop We will be closed Thanksgiving Day 8026 Airport Road, Redding I-5 North, Exit #673, Rt on Knighton, Rt on Airport Located 1 mile south of the Airport (Next to Kents Mkt) Open Mon-Sat 8-5 & Sunday's 10-4 wyntourgardens.com WYNTOUR GARDENS 365-2256 Facebook p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 20, at the Coming City Council Cham- ber, 794 Third St., Coming. There will be collecting of toys, wrapping paper and food for the Northern Valley Catholic Social Services Annual Holiday "Adopt A Family" Program. Members will listen to a presentation about the Youth Service Agency by Jennifer Uhles and continue work on their 2012/2013 subcommittee workplans. Everyone in the community is invited to attend. The Tehama County Health Partnership is a collabora- Health Partnership to meet The Tehama County Health Partnership will meet 1-3 tive effort among various organizations and individuals to improve the health and well being of Tehama County resi- dents. The vision is to develop a multi-disciplinary approach to addressing the broader determinants of popula- tion health: thus redefining the concept of health to include not only physical and mental health but also education, economy, safety, housing, transportation, recreation and other aspects that influence our quality of life. The partnership meets on the third Tuesday of the month at 1 p.m., alternating between Red Bluff and Coming. For more information call 527-6824 or email jacobsonm@tcha.net. Turkey Trot celebrates 27th Shasta Regional Medical Center's Turkey Trot will cele- brate its 27th anniversary on Nov. 22. Redding's biggest and longest standing tradition on Thanksgiving morning is an event not to be missed and fun for the whole family. The event includes the Diestelhorst Dash for children 8 and younger, the 2-mile fun run/walk for the entire family, and the timed 6-mile run for the more serious runner. In 2011, the Turkey Trot had more than 1,000 runners in the 6-mile run and four times as many in the 2-mile fun run/walk along the Sacramento River Trail. All the proceeds from the event, more than $40,000, were donated to Shasta Family YMCA, Shasta Family Justice Center, Girls on the Run and SWEAT Running Club. This year's proceeds will benefit the Good News Rescue Mission and the Shasta Family Justice Center. For more information, visit www.ShastaRegional.com.