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4B Daily News– Wednesday, October 3, 2012 FEATURES Life of sacrifice repaid with debt, loneliness Dear Annie: I'm writ- ing on behalf of those of us in the ''trapped'' genera- tion. We are the ones who grew up thinking Doris Day was the ideal woman. We were college-educated, but still expected to marry and have a family. Many of us limited our careers to part- time efforts. Then came our hus- bands' midlife crises and no-fault divorces. For many of us who had ''dumbed down'' our careers to care for our husbands, we weren't able to make ends meet once the child support payments stopped. For some of us, we had sacrificed further education or job advances for our husbands' careers. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Thwarted: We are sure you speak for many women. But please don't give up. Your children are grown now. If you want to meet men (or anyone), devote some time to your- self. Look into activities and organizations that are free, low-cost or volunteer, and see if you can break out of the cycle you are in. stresses from one-sided divorces. I continue to hope that real companionship is still a possibility. — Thwart- ed According to the Social Security Administration, I never earned more than $10,000 per year until I was 45 years old. The divorce decree stated that I was to split the children's college costs equally with my ex, who was making three times my salary. I've run up a lot of personal debt paying for my kids' education, and now, at age 60, I'm making what my husband made 30 years ago. I work hard, but can't seem to get ahead. Women like me are tired of struggling financially and raising kids while their fathers find new trophy wives. If your male readers are wondering where the faithful women are, we are sitting home, living with the remnants of the woman, living with my boyfriend. We have both been married before and have children. When I met ''Doug,'' we would sit and talk for hours. Since our engagement, however, everything seems to be going downhill. We have not set a wedding date, nor do we discuss it. Due to my previous marriage and some mistakes, my credit is not where it should be. The amount of money I make will never allow me to get caught up. I have been applying for new jobs, but haven't found one yet. Doug says I need my credit to be good before he sets a date. I'm interviewing now for a job that could turn into a steady and rewarding career. He said, ''Let's see if you get it.'' Whenever someone asks me, Dear Annie: I'm a middle-aged ''When is the big date?'' my heart sinks. I am starting to feel as though Doug is not ready to commit. He proposed and gave me a beautiful ring. Now we argue a lot. I'm no spring chicken, Annie. I feel as if I'm running out of time. What should I do? — Want Happiness Sooner take on your debts and may fear you are using him for financial security. He wants to see that you have a decent job before he marries you. This is not an unreasonable con- cern. The fact that you're in a hurry only makes him more skittish. Stop worrying about what other people think. If you get a good job and Doug still won't set a date, then reconsider the relationship. Dear Annie: ''Empty Nester'' Dear Want: Doug is reluctant to said she's looking to make friends now that her kids are out of the house. Thanks for suggesting meet- up.com. I moved across the country and Fiber reduces risk of diverticulitis TOR K: I went to the doctor com- plaining about pain in my abdomen, and he diagnosed me with diverticuli- tis. I don't know the first thing about this condition. DEAR DOC- was concerned about finding friends in a new city. Since I work from home, the office is not a viable place to get to know anyone. MeetUp has been terrific. I joined a dining-out group, another for women over 40 and one for dog lovers. I've made wonderful new friends. — P. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. The Center for Region- al and Continuing Educa- tion and the California State University, Chico Research Foundation will present the 2012 Domes- tic Violence Update on Nov. 9 on the CSU, Chico campus. The update meets the California Rule of Court requirement that Family Court Services staff, court-appointed evalua- tors and mediators receive annual domestic violence training. It is offered by In Service to Families, Chil- dren and The Courts, a professional development series created through a partnership among Butte County Family Court Ser- vices, Regional and Con- tinuing Education, the CSU, Chico Research Foundation and local pro- Visiting experts to address domestic violence fessionals. Presenter Emberly Cross, JD MSW, the coor- dinating attorney at the Cooperative Restraining Order Clinic in San Fran- cisco since 1996, is returning to CSU, Chico to provide the mandated training portion of the program. She will identify changes in civil and crim- inal laws affecting domes- tic violence survivors, perpetrators and their children; explore the con- tinuing changes in Family Courts as a result of the Judicial Council's Elkins Task Force; and help attendees understand the requirements surrounding and options available for children wishing to par- ticipate in child custody cases in Family Court. Gabriella Grant, the annual Koi (fish) auction at 10 a.m. on Saturday, Oct. 20, at 17935 Bowman Road, on the corner of Bowman and Benson roads. Club members that have extra fish bring their fish to the auction location and everyone is welcome to bid on Koi of all ages and colors and to learn more about the The Shasta Koi & Water Garden Club will hold its director of the California Center of Excellence for Trauma Informed Care, located in Santa Cruz, Calif., will be on hand to present key concepts related to trauma- informed service provi- sion with a specific emphasis on domestic violence survivors. The focus will be on general knowledge of trauma- informed concepts, research and resources; how to apply trauma- informed approaches to discussing challenging issues related to service provision; and specific interventions to use when working with clients and caregivers. The Domestic Vio- lence Update is intended for psychologists, mar- riage and family thera- ER: Diverticulitis is a disease that affects your colon, or large intestine. This long, muscu- lar tube constitutes the final portion of your intestinal tract. Diverticula are sac-like pouches that protrude from the colon. Many people develop DEAR READ- pists, social workers, mediators and custody evaluators, nurses, physi- cians, educators, law enforcement, and attor- neys interested in the cur- rent laws and research in the field. Attendees can earn six hours of BBSE, BRN, MCEP, and MCLE continuing education credits. The Domestic Vio- lence Update will be held Friday, Nov. 9, from 8:30 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. in the Colusa Hall Conference and Event Center on the CSU, Chico campus. Additional information and online registration can be found at http://rce.csuchico.edu/in service, or by calling Regional and Continuing Education at 530-898- 6105. Koi fish auction scheduled in Cottonwood club and its activities. diverticula as they grow older, but most of the time you never know you have them because they don't cause symptoms. Some- times, diverticula can cause bleeding. There may be no pain, just blood that starts to appear in the bowel move- ment. Whenever that hap- pens, it's time to call your doctor — even if it turns out that the bleeding is caused not by diverticula but by something simple like hem- orrhoids. Now and then the diver- ticula become inflamed. The inflammation is caused by the bacteria that are packed into feces. It's not clear why some diverticula become infected and inflamed while others do not. Inflamed diverticula may or may not bleed. But as you know, they can sure cause pain. The pain is usually most pronounced in the lower left part of the abdomen. Fever is also com- mon. Other symptoms may include urinary urgency or frequency, nausea, loss of appetite and fatigue. Some patients have constipation, others diarrhea. diverticula spreads into the blood, you can get a lot sick- er. Your blood pressure can drop, you can get very light- headed, you can start shak- If the infection in the Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. ing uncontrollably — and you can even die. I nearly lost a relative this way. So pain in the abdomen, particu- larly if is accompa- nied by the other symptoms of diver- ticulitis, should never be ignored. Since bacteria are responsible for the inflammation, antibi- otics are the cornerstone of treatment. Resting your intestines can also help. That means sticking to a diet of clear liquids for a few days. Then you can gradually add soft solids and resume a more normal diet over a week or two. If your diverticulitis is severe, or you're at risk for compli- cations, you may need surgery. Diverticulitis tends to recur. That's why prevention is a key part of treatment. A high-fiber diet sharply reduces the risk of develop- ing diverticula. Even after the pouches form, dietary fiber reduces the risk of inflammation. The recommendation is 38 grams of fiber a day for men age 50 and under and 30 grams a day for older men. For women, the rec- ommended amount is 30 grams a day for those age 50 and under and 21 grams a day thereafter. Good sources of fiber include nuts, seeds, legumes, oat cereals, whole grains, wheat and corn, bran, popcorn, broccoli, cabbage, root vegetables, onions, green leafy vegeta- bles, and fruit and vegetable skins. Many people experience constipation or increased intestinal gas when they increase their fiber intake. The best way to avoid that is to start with low doses and add fiber to your diet gradu- ally. It will reduce your risk of recurrent attacks of diver- ticulitis. Trinity National Forest will begin selling Christmas tree cutting permits on Nov. 1. As the temperatures the various types of Koi and each bidder gets a plaque with a number on it. Come join the fun of bidding for your favorite fish and taking it home to your pond. For more information and directions call 917-0930. MOULE'S TEHAMA COUNTY GLASS SIDEVIEW for all makes & models MIRRORS Installed 515 Sycamore St., Red Bluff • 529-0260 RANDAL S. ELLOWAY DDS IMPLANT DENTISTRY 2426 SO. 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Have you ever been embarrassed by a denture or a bridge? If you answered "yes" to one or more of these questions, call us today at (530) 527-6777 to schedule an evaluation appointment. We would be pleased to evaluate your oral health and discuss treatment options with you. Christmas tree permits REDDING – Shasta- mits purchased by check should be made out to the USDA Forest Service. To purchase a permit, a person must be 18 years old or older. Permits are valid through Dec. 31. A fuel wood map of the cutting area will be issued with each permit. All sales are final. Normal business days of operation for Forest Service locations are Monday through Friday. All offices will be closed on Federal Holidays. Please contact the Forest Service office nearest you to verify hours of operation. Permits can be pur- chased at Shasta-Trinity National Forest Headquar- ters, 3644 Avtech Parkway, Redding, (530) 226-2500 and Yolla Bolla Ranger Sta- tion, 2555 State Highway 36, Platina, (530) 352- 4211. 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