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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband and I recently discovered that our closest friends (another couple) are hav- ing an open relationship. They are "polyamorous." I am having a very hard time accepting this. They were in our wed- ding, and we were in theirs. In the last 10 years I can't remember having a dis- agreement with them, but I can't seem to get past this. They didn't even tell us about it. We found out because the husband was hanging all over another woman very publicly at their annual party. My husband found out what was really going on through another longtime friend. The couple says they are both sleeping with this other woman. It didn't look like that, though. The husband didn't pay any attention to his wife all night. These friends of ours are expecting their first child soon, and have asked us to be the child's godparents. I am struggling. I know what I am feel- ing is wrong and that I shouldn't care. But I do care. For some dumb reason I feel hurt and sadly disgusted. I don't know what I should do. My husband is willing to act like nothing is going on. I don't think I can. Should I walk away from a 10-year friendship? Should I try harder to get over my own feelings and ignore it? I thought I was a better and more accept- ing person. —ConfusedFriend DEAR CONFUSED » Your own feelings are the natural consequence of your closest friends' choice to confound all of your expectations about them. When you stood up with them at their wedding, you witnessed their pledge to be sexually faithful. I assume that their choice to let you learn this important detail about them from others might hurt more than your judgment about their behavior. Because they have declared their marriage to be "open," you should openly talk to them about it. Express your concerns, focusing on the impact on your long friendship. In this case, the wife's pregnancy might have upended their connec- tion. But this unbridled "openness" will make their parenting tougher, not easier. When you are asked to be a go dpa rent to a ch ild, you are being asked to help the parents provide a spiritual backdrop to the child's life. Are you will- ing to carry on this job of being this child's loyal and constant adult friend through life? I hope so. But this will be a tough choice. DEAR AMY » "Worried" caught her boyfriend in a number of small lies. She should consider that he might even be lying to her that he is single. The future with an untrust- worthy person is not an easy one. — Been There DEAR BEEN THERE » Once you've been lied to, build- ing back trust is a very tough lift. Coupleisconfusedbytheir polyamorous friends You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@amydickinson. com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Aquarius(Jan.20-Feb.19) — Don't be afraid to act fast. You'll stay ahead of the compe- tition if you take action. You can bravely make things happen. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Rely on people you know in order to drum up support for your projects. Honesty will help you cut through any confusion and will bring what you want. Aries (March 21-April 19) — You'll find it difficult to proceed with caution. Your desire to get things done your way will lead to opportunities. 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