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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Adozenyears ago I married a very intel- ligent, kind and educated man. We were both in our 50s. I had more money than he did, but I felt that, with his good job, he could pay his share of our living expenses. We set up a joint bank account to do so, but after several months I found that I was the only one putting any money into it. We live in my home and I now pay for all of the expenses, including food. His money goes to pay for his house, where his 40-year-old daughter and her husband, a law- yer, live rent free. I feel used, to the point that I want to end our marriage. When I bring up the subject of money, he says that he pays, in kind, by taking care of chores. Frankly, so do I. He will soon come into a substantial amount of money. Ours has become only a marriage of convenience. Should I charge him rent or throw him out? —TiredofPaying DEAR TIRED » This does not seem like a marriage of convenience, except for him. I can see how it would be convenient for your husband to let you pay for your shared household expenses. First, let him know that your marriage is on the line. If you two want to salvage what is left of it, you should both be prepared to be totally transparent regarding income, savings, assets and debts, divvy up your expenses and then abide by whatever agreement you draft. You could seek the services of a marital mediator who would work with a counselor to help you find a solution. You should see a law- yer, regardless of whether you intend to stay in the marriage. Keep records of everything and work toward preserving your own assets. Depending on what state you live in, the double-whammy for you would be if your home was considered communi- ty property, but his wind- fall was not (if it comes to him by way of inheritance or settlement). That's the worst sce- nario, which is why you should get legal advice. DEAR AMY » "Two Decades of Guilt" described being sexually assaulted by two men when she was a teenager. This happened to me. I was assaulted by a state worker while taking my driver's test when I was a teenager. He instructed me to drive to a fairly secluded place, where he assaulted me. I was so shaken; I told my boyfriend immediately and he reported it to the director. No one believed us, because this man was a "family man." I later heard that he had done this to other teenagers. This was 50 years ago. I wish I had gone to the police. I saw his obituary in the news- paper and it turned my stomach. — Guilty DEAR GUILTY » This is an appalling abuse of power. Fifty years ago, turn- ing him in might have damaged you further, as victims were sometimes blamed for their own assault. Spouses tangle over how to share household expenses You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@amydickinson. com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Sagittarius(Nov.23-Dec. 21) — Personal change will bring about positive results. Ad- dress the things you don't like and adjust your life in order to fulfill your dreams. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You'll be taken by surprise if you aren't careful. Don't rule out anything or commit to some- thing until you have all the facts. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Appeal to the hearts of the people. Getting to the bottom of things will put you in a key posi- tion that will lead to advance- ment and recognition. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — You'll gain insight into your profession and what measures you have to take in order to bring about positive change. Aries (March 21-April 19) — You may come under pressure if you aren't prepared. Do your research and be ready to match anyone who wants to face off with you. Victory and new opportunities are heading your way. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Use your mind in order to get your way. Putting physical de- mands on someone will not help you come out on top. Learn from experience and avoid stubborn tendencies. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Put your time and energy into doing a great job. Lending a helping hand is commendable, but being taken advantage of isn't fair. Set a limit as well as boundaries. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You may want to bring about change, but having a legitimate plan that is realistic and easy to implement will determine whether you will be successful. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — A change will do you good. Making travel plans, attending a confer- ence or visiting places that spark memories will help you bring about new beginnings. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Get involved in activities that will help you put your troubles on the back burner. The break will do you good and help you put domestic situations in perspective. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Relationships may need a little encouragement, but once you start to share and compromise, you will find common ground. Change is favored, as long as you avoid overspending. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Give more thought to the future and stop dwelling on the past. Mistakes should help you learn and push you for- ward with more knowledge and experience. 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