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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iwasraised by two wonderful par- ents. My sister and I are independent and strong women. My parents allowed me, my husband and our two infant children, to move in with them for a year to save for a deposit on our next home and pay off debt. Things have been going well. My father is near retirement and getting meaner in his comments. Most of it is directed at my mother. She has nev- er, and claims she never will, confront my father when he acts this way. Last night, Dad snapped at her when she made a suggestion on an important topic that affects them both. Dad made a sharp statement, and ended the discussion. He could not see with his back turned how tears were welling up and went on with the evening, but she was upset. I know she does not want me to say anything to my father, but I have always been able to push back when his tone is inappropriate. I would never allow my husband to say something to me in that manner. Can I break in a con- versation with, "Dad, no need to escalate with your tone of voice"? A sarcastic comment? Suggestions? —DisturbedDaughter DEAR DAUGHTER » Sarcasm is seldom the answer, but especially in this situation. My sug- gestion falls under the "Other" category. First, I think you need to imagine the stress your father (and mother) might be under having you, your husband and two infants living in the household. Not only is the rhythm of their lives altered, but now they have an audience. Even if they welcome you and love having you and your family aroun d (I as sume they do), it is still a situa- tion guaranteed to create challenges. Many people misdirect their stress toward people who they know won't call them on it. Your father knows you will react pro- portionally to a blow-up; your mother will not. You should speak to him privately. Ask him if things are OK with him, and tell him, honestly, how upsetting you found it when he snapped an- grily at your mother. Tell him, "Dad, you raised me to always expect respect from other people. It is disappointing to see you be so hard on Mom." If his behavior gets worse, then definitely speak up. I hope you will also urge your mother to stand up for herself. DEAR AMY » "Lost in Time" described himself as a man whose wife continued to bring up long-ago mistakes and character flaws, throwing these things in his face whenever he "repeated a mistake." You lectured her about fighting old battles, but you should have told him to stop "repeating his mistakes!" — Disappointed DEAR DISAPPOINTED » "Lost" said he had apolo- gized (and been forgiven) for past mistakes. But yes, your point is well taken. Should daughter intervene when Dad snaps at Mom? 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