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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Afriendof mine who has been single finally found someone. I was really happy for her because she has wanted to be in a com- mitted relationship. She t old me tw o wee ks ago that he is 15 years older than she (she is 34) and while that could pose chal- lenges, I was supportive. We agreed to a double date in a few weeks' time with my boyfriend. Then, last night, she told me this guy is still married with children. He has told her he wants to start the process of getting a divorce, but for now he lives with his wife and kids, and his wife has no idea he intends to leave. I do not want to meet this guy. My friend can date whomever she wants, but I do not want to sit across from some- one who is cheating. It grosses me out. If he was just still married but separated, I would not have an issue. How do I bring this up? —GrossedOut DEAR GROSSED OUT » Here's how you bring this up: "Wow, I feel blind- sided by your admission that you are engaged in having an affair. I'm try- ing not to judge you, and I appreciate your honesty, but I don't feel comfort- abl e sp endin g the ev enin g with him out on a date. I feel that this involves me in your relationship in a way that makes me uncomfortable." You can expect this might lead to a tough conversation, but that would be a consequence of her choice. On a side note, if she is eager to be in a committed relation- ship, this is a strange path, because she is with someone who is commit- ted to someone else. DEAR AMY » When my husband and his sister were young, they were poor. They never got new clothes, toys, or gifts. They went hungry. My family was poor too, although we had food and clothes. Now my husband and I have two daughters. We aren't rich, but our chil- dren want for nothing. We limit toys to educa- tional toys, and stay away from technology. Our oldest child has epilepsy and we avoid these toys for that reason. We have asked family to understand our rules. The problem is with my sister-in-law, who ignores this request. She always buys expensive gifts; always the most technologically advanced item she can find. My husband has told me it's because she wants to make up for the child- hood they had. How can I convince her to stop with the ex- pensive gifts? — Dreading Christmas DEAR DREADING » You and your husband should reiterate your values and limits to his sister, with the assumption that she is probably not deliberately undermining you, but is being extravagant in the only way she knows how. One of the great joys of being an aunt is to be a lavish giver to nieces and nephews. Thank her for her gen- erosity in the past. Friendworriesaboutherpal's affair with a married man You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Your insight and experience will help you avoid being taken advantage of. Size up your situ- ation and make your next move. Sagittarius (Nov. 23- Dec. 21) — Keep a low profile, observe others and, most of all, avoid an emotional confronta- tion that could leave you in a vulnerable position. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — If you change things up a bit, you will find your niche. Let your creativity flow and your intuition lead the way in order to avoid wasting time. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Look for alternatives if things aren't going your way. Live and learn, and proceed to your next endeavor. Don't let the past hold you back. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Don't limit what you can accomplish just because you are afraid of a challenge or competition. Be smart, use your intuition and make reasonable choices. Protect your health and wealth. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Make plans that will help you present and promote your projects. Getting your facts straight will help prepare you for an opportunity to advance. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — A focus on compromise will encourage friendship and set the stage for open and honest communication. Share informa- tion and form alliances. Don't give in to bullies or fold under pressure. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You need to take a breather. Give yourself a chance to dis- cover what you want instead of following someone else's plan. Broaden your horizons. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Share your thoughts, express your opinions and let your feel- ings be known. The more you engage in group efforts or one- on-one talks with someone you respect, the better equipped you will be to thrive. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Getting involved in activities that will allow you to show your strength, courage or dedication will change the way others view you. Opportunity will result if you travel or meet with former colleagues. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — A change at home may disgrun- tle you, but in the end, it will turn out in your favor. Patience, understanding and resolve will help you overcome a dilemma. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Reach out to older friends or relatives. What you have to offer will be well received, and the wisdom and experience you gain in turn will be helpful. Horoscope By Eugenia Last WEDNESDAY, NOV. 9 | YOURDAILYBREAK | REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 9, 2016 2 B