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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»I'ma24-year- old woman. When my guy and I were first together we had a polyamorous relationship with his girlfriend. We did that for eight months until I broke it off because I couldn't handle the emo- tional drain. Later, he and I started to see each other again. His other girlfriend was still in the picture and agreed to the rela- tionship, but then their relationship started to fail. I think it's better that the girlfriend is now single because she needs to deal with her issues. At the same time, I'm not sure if I'm ready to be with this guy. I don't know if I've ever been in love with anyone because of past trust/daddy issues. Should I be with him? I guess even asking means the answer is "no," but I'm worried that may- be I'm hesitant because of my own issues, as well as his relationship history. I also think I can get a bet- ter guy than him, but it's hard to find anyone that is up to my "caliber." He's a really great boy- friend. Should I just take the plunge? —Confused DEAR CONFUSED » If you think that you can do bet- ter, then why don't you do better? Your assertion that there aren't many guys out there who are worthy of you is curious, because — at 24 — you don't seem to have tested your thesis. It is also insulting to the guy who is currently in your life. Trust me, you can (and will) settle for many things in life, but you should not settle with a ro ma nt ic p ar tn e r . You've already in- vested almost a year in this relationship. Surely you know everything you need to know about him, including the fact that he has a high tolerance for complication (with two girlfriends at the same time, multiple breakups, and "issues"). It is wisest to deal with issues before you troll the waters for a new partner. DEAR AMY » As a psy- chologist with a special- ization in reproductive mental health, I was very dismayed at the advice you gave to "Concerned Grandma." Grandma was worried because her 13-year-old granddaugh- ters had been told that they had been born via a surrogate mother, but had not been told that there was also an egg donor. Her concern was ABSOLUTELY founded: A normal developmental task for teens is to discov- er who they are regarding their family of origin. These teens have only been given part of the information. In the world of fertility counseling, we advise donor recipients to disclose their child's story early and often. — Julie DEAR JULIE » I agree that children should be told the truth from an early age. These parents hadn't done that. However, this grandmother emphasized the concept that the girls might not think their mother was their "real mother," and that is what I took issue with. I let this obscure your better point. Relationship goes from being 'polyamorous' to nonexistent You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. 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Do what you can and move on to the people and pastimes that bring you the most satisfaction and joy. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — An interesting alternative to how or where you work will get you thinking about making a change. Do your homework before you take a leap of faith. Horoscope By Eugenia Last TUESDAY, NOV. 1 TUESDAY,NOVEMBER1,2016 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B