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4B Daily News – Saturday, July 14, 2012 FEATURES Bride's difficult sister ruining wedding plans Dear Annie: My fiance and I cut corners for four years so we could have a nice wedding. We didn't ask either set of parents for money, and they didn't offer. We're footing the entire bill, including the formal wear for the atten- dants. year-old socially awkward sister, "Allie.'' Allie was hospitalized 20 years ago when she was brutally beat- en by some older teenagers. She never received psychological help. My mother pays Allie's rent and all of her bills. Family vacations have been cancelled to keep Allie com- fortable. My parents missed my col- lege graduation because Allie was nervous about fitting into the airline seat. The problem is my 34- Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar cally, my parents asked me to downplay my success so Allie wouldn't feel bad. When I got engaged, my mother asked me to skip the engagement party and shower because those things ''make Allie anxious.'' If I outperformed her academi- I lost 190 pounds for health rea- sons. Allie makes nasty comments, saying I'm only having a wedding to show off my new body. I bent over backward to find Allie a flat- tering plus-size maid-of-honor dress and was so thrilled when she finally found one she liked that I bought it for her, even though it was twice the cost of my wedding dress. Allie's feelings since I was 10. My heart breaks for what happened to Allie, but can't I have just one day where people are thinking about me? I've suggested family counsel- ing, but they refuse to go. How do I make my parents realize that I'm not the bad guy? — Normal Sister Dear Normal: It is not too late for Allie to get psychological help, and she could surely use it. Your parents are doing her no favors by coddling her into total dependence out of guilt and sympathy. This encourages her to remain a victim of her past. Other than canceling the entire wedding, you will never please them, so stop bending over backward. Express sympathy and then ignore their demands. Dear Annie: My wife and I just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. We have two beautiful boys. We've known each other since we were teenagers. I find myself thinking about what Annie, I have been considering JPMorgan Chase blew away a cloud of concern hanging over the banking industry Friday and set off a rally in stocks. Relieved investors drove up bank stocks, ended a six-day losing streak for the mar- ket and sent the Dow Jones industrial average up 204 points, the best day this month. JPMorgan jumped 6 percent, the biggest gain in the Dow by far. The country's largest bank earned $5 billion in the most recent quarter, easily beating Wall Street's fore- casts, even as it took a deeper loss from a com- plex trade that went wrong. The results bright- ened the outlook for other major banks. If JPMorgan could sustain such a hard hit and still post stronger earnings, the thinking went, maybe others could, too. ''Today is all about Wall Street Now she's decided she hates the dress, and she told the entire bridal party that I'm a Bridezilla, while I'm stress- ing myself out to make sure she feels comfortable. Allie has picked fights with my new in-laws and caused two bridesmaids to back out of the wedding. Last week, my mother bawled me out for being "domineering'' and said I should "consider Allie's feelings.'' type of husband and father I have been. I am a police officer, and with this career comes a list of special stressors. I know that I never have been as romantic as my wife would like. housework, laundry and child rear- ing. While I play with my boys, my wife is doing housework. When I tuck the boys into bed, she is doing the laundry or making lunches for kids. My wife does the majority of as affectionate as I should be, not a minute passes without my wanting my wife and kids to be happy, healthy and safe. My wife has put up with all of my shortcomings and the stress that I have surely put on her. I just wanted the chance to say that even though it may look like I don't notice everything she does, I do. I appreciate the love she gives me, even when my hard-nosed atti- tude makes her ill. Happy anniver- sary, Charlotte, and I promise to try to be more if you promise to stick around for the rest of my life. — Empty Head, Full Heart Dear Husband: You sound like Even though I am not outwardly a keeper. Happy anniversary. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. JPMorgan Chase launches a stock market rally NEW YORK (AP) — bank uncertainty getting resolved,'' said Doug Cote, chief market strate- gist at ING Investment Management. ''To me, that's what is really dri- ving the market.'' JPMorgan revealed that the loss from a deriv- ative trade it first dis- closed in May had grown to $5.8 billion, nearly triple the original esti- mate. Its stock shot up $2.03 to $36.07. The bank's underwrit- ing business also fared better than many expect- ed. That rubbed off on the investment banks Gold- man Sachs and Morgan Stanley, driving both up more than 3 percent. Goldman jumped $3.41 to $97.43. Morgan Stan- ley rose 50 cents to $14.05. The Dow gained 203.82 points to close at 12,777.09. Wells Fargo, the other major bank reporting results Friday, said a strong pickup in lending lifted its net income 18 percent. Wells Fargo has managed to avoid prob- lems plaguing other big banks and is now the country's largest mort- gage lender. The bank's stock gained 3 percent, or $1.06, to $33.91. Todd Salamone, direc- tor of research at Schaef- fer's Investment Research, said the rally in bank stocks shows that investors had expected the worst. When they're too gloomy on an industry, the slightest bit of good news can jolt their stocks up. is set extremely low, and a lot of people have been betting against banks'' he said. ''The lower the bar, the easier it is for positive surprises.'' ''The bar for earnings The rally swept across the stock market. Five stocks rose for every one that fell on the New York Stock Exchange, and all 10 industry groups within the S&P 500 rose, led by financial firms. The surge erased the Depression therapy is still developing TOR K: I have major depression that hasn't responded to med- ication. My doctor said I might be a candidate for rTMS. What is this? How does it work? DEAR DOC- ER: For most of the past century, the main treatments for major depression have been var- ious forms of "talk thera- py" and anti-depressant medicines. The primary exception was electrocon- vulsive therapy, or ECT (also known as shock ther- apy). While effective, it is used only in the most severe cases. DEAR READ- In the past 10 to 20 years, other, gentler forms of therapy that also use electrical technology have been developed for depression and other brain conditions. One is called deep brain stimulation. Another is vagus nerve stimulation. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. recovery time, so you can go about your usual activ- ities afterward. centration, and doesn't require anesthesia. (In contrast, ECT requires general anesthesia and can produce some temporary prob- lems with memo- ry.) A person undergoing rTMS remains awake, and there isn't any takes 30 to 45 minutes. The therapy usually is done once a day, five days a week, for four to six weeks. Less frequent maintenance therapy may also be needed. There are few side The entire procedure effects. The most common ones — headaches, scalp discomfort or facial twitching — are mild. This is still a relatively week's losses for the main indexes. The Dow would up flat for the week, and the S&P eked out a 0.2 percent gain. The technol- ogy-heavy Nasdaq, which is more sensitive to swings in the economy, slumped 1 percent. The stock market took a beating this week as the U.S. corporate earnings season got off to a weak start and Europe stumbled along in its latest attempts to resolve the region's debt crisis. In other trading, the Standard & Poor's 500 index rose 22.02 points to 1,356.78 and the Nasdaq composite gained 42.28 points to 2,908.47. Still another is rTMS, or repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation. It uses magnetic fields to stimulate parts of the brain. One machine for performing rTMS was approved in 2008 by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration for treat- ment of depression that has not responded to talk therapy or anti-depressant medicines. So, rTMS may be helpful for someone like you. What's it like to receive the rTMS treatment? You sit in a chair while a device containing a mag- netic coil is placed over your scalp. It focuses on a part of your brain that plays a role in mood regu- lation. The device pro- duces a series of strong magnetic pulses that pene- trate about an inch into your brain. It's not clear how rTMS eases depression. The magnetic pulses may create a weak electrical current that changes nerve cell activity in certain regions of the brain. The procedure isn't invasive. It doesn't cause loss of memory or con- new therapy. It was approved on the basis of a large and well-designed (though industry-spon- sored) study, and appears to be moderately effective. However, it is not as effec- tive as ECT. Doctors are still learning how best to use rTMS for depression. Are there some patients who are likely to benefit and others who are not? Would changing the strength of the magnetic field, or placing the coils in a different posi- tion, improve results? Hopefully, as with many new types of therapy, the effective- ness of rTMS will improve with time. We have more informa- tion on treating major depression in our Special Health Report, "Under- standing Depression." (Learn more about this report at AskDoctorK.com, or call 877-649-9457 toll-free to order it.) the Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. $99 Blinds Need Blinds? 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