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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihavea husband who, I believe, has bipolar disorder. He refuses to get treatment. He was treated years ago, while married to his first wife, but refuses to seek treatment now. We have been together for almost 11 years, and married for seven years. His behavior is unaccept- able and I don't know how to get through this without divorcing him, which is something I really don't want to do. He has many good periods where he is kind and helpful. In general, he is a good husband. However, when the mania strikes, he turns from good husband to de- mon. He becomes critical, demanding and verbally abusive. He talks continu- ously without forming sentences. He verbally attacks my adult children by yelling at them and telling them they are lazy. My sons won't have anything to do with him. Sometimes he apolo- gizes afterward but, for the most part, he doesn't realize he's been torturing those around him. Short of divorce, what can I do to get my hus- band to seek the help he needs? I don't know how long I can survive never knowing when the next outburst is going to occur. —RollercoasterBride DEAR ROLLERCOASTER BRIDE » You have accu- rately described what it is like to live with someone with bipolar disorder. If your husband was diagnosed previously, he should seek treatment. You cannot force him into treatment. But dur- ing a time when he is calm, you should describe your situation, ask him to get help, offer to go with him to see a psychiatrist, and attach a consequence if he doesn't. Tell him you want to stay married and see him through this, but that your relationship is on the line. You should leave the house when he rages. Don't return until you know he is calm. Give yourself a deadline where you promise to reassess your own situation. Tell your sons that your husband is not well; comfort them and let them comfort you. You need support. Professional counseling would help you. The In- ternational Bipolar Foun- dation has a description and list of symptoms, as well as a list of resources (ibpf.org). DEAR AMY » As a daughter whose father left most of his estate to his wife (my stepmother), as my hus- band's second wife; and as a lawyer, you should inform "Left Out" that her stepmother could be legally responsible for all her father's medical bills should he, for example, develop Alzheimer's and require years of care. Spouses in most states are accountable for medi- cal bills. Children are not. Nursing home care is very expensive! — Daughter DEAR DAUGHTER » I did tell "Left Out" that her stepmother would likely b e re s po ns ib le f or h er much-older husband's care, and so receiving the proceeds of his estate would be appropriate. 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