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SEPTEMBER 28 - OCTOBER 4, 2016 UCW 59 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM WEEKLY HOROSCOPE ADVICE GODDESS Thinking Outside The Boobs I'm a man who likes to girl- watch. I do this from behind very dark glasses, yet I still elicit scowls from women. Recently, I was at a help desk, and I availed myself of the view down the receptionist's top. She quickly covered up with a scarf. I'm puzzled, because there's no way she could've seen my eyes. What's going on here? — Sunglasses Why might we think we know when we're being watched — even by someone we can't see? Well, we may — subconsciously — be picking up on subtle reactions of people around us who can see the watcher. Neuroscientist Joseph LeDoux explains that our amygdala — part of our brain's threat detection circuitry — reacts beneath conscious awareness, messaging our body to get ready to run or rumble (that "fight or flight" thing). Among our body's responses, our little hairs stand on end. That's a creepy feeling — leading us to whirl around to see what gives — and whoa!… there's some dude angling to cavity- search us with his eyeballs. We have a term for that "hairs standing on end" feeling, and it's "being creeped out" — which is what women are experiencing when they can't see what your eyes are up to behind those dark glasses. Evolutionary social psychologist Frank McAndrew published the first study on the nature of "creepiness." He explains that the feeling that something is "creepy" is a self-protective response to "ambiguity" — our being unsure of whether we're facing a threat. We err on the side of assuming that we are — and in rushes the palace guard to barricade the cleavage with a scarf. This woman you stared at was at the "help" desk, and no, that isn't short for "Help yourself to a nice long look down my boobage." Close-range staring at a captive audience like that is particularly creepy — as in, it's rude. Again, the sunglasses don't change that; they make it worse. If you're going to girl-watch, do it in wide-open spaces, like on the street or in a mall, so you don't make women feel like sitting ducks in pushup bras. You might also take off those spy glasses and engage with one of these ladies. Gazing admiringly at her will seem like a form of flattery — as opposed to a sign that your mom reset the Net Nanny to block all those "filthy" webcam sites. Copyright Amy Alkon NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD One of the Islamic State's first reforms in captured territory has been to require adult women to dress devoutly — including the face- covering burka robe, which, in Western democracies famously presents security dilemmas because it hinders identification. Now, after two years of Islamic State occupation in Mosul, Iraq, the security problem has come full circle on ISIS itself. Dispatches from the town reported in September that ISIS has likely banned the burka because it hinders identification of anti-ISIS insurgents who (female and male) wear burkas to sneak up on Islamic State officers. [ Jerusalem Post, 9-6-2016] Recurring Themes Barbara Murphy, 64, of Roy, Utah, is the most recent "dead" person battling the federal government to prove she is still alive (but seemingly getting nowhere). She said Social Security Administration bureaucrats, citing protocols, have been tight-lipped about her problem and remedies even though her bank account was frozen; Social Security was dunning her for two years worth of Medicare premiums (since her 2014 "death"); and warning letters had been sent to banks and credit agencies. Nonetheless, Murphy told the Deseret News in August that, all in all, she feels pretty good despite being dead. [Deseret News, 8-25-2016] Political connections in some Latin American countries have allowed convicted drug dealers and crime bosses to serve their sentences comfortably, and the most recent instance to make the news, from Agence France-Presse, was the presidential-suite-type "cell" occupied by Brazilian drug lord Jarvis Chimenes Pavao in Paraguay. When police (apparently not "politically connected") raided the cell in July, they found a well-appointed apartment with semi- luxurious furniture settings (including a conference table for Pavao to conduct "business"), embellished wallpaper designs with built-in bookcases, a huge TV among the latest electronics — and even a handsome shoe rack holding Pavao's footwear selection. Pavao also rented out part of the suite to other inmates for the equivalent of $5,000 plus $600 weekly rent. [Agence France- Presse via BBC News, 7-30-2016] COPYRIGHT CHUCK SHEPPARD ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, you may find yourself on the path to some exciting places if you surround yourself with the right people this week. This is a great time to break out of your comfort zone. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 Taurus, you may be looking for a new adventure but you do not have any idea where to look. Anything is possible if you keep your eyes and ears open to everything around you. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 Gemini, resist the urge to put limits on your personal life. Anything is possible when you are open to new experiences and opportunites, so don't be afraid to go with the flow. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 Cancer, you may find the energy surrounding you is a bit overwhelming. If you need a brief break from the hustle and bustle, take a step back and enjoy some quiet time at home. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 The little things will catch your attention this week, Leo. A small detail, a note in a song or a particular color may bring back memories. Try to embrace these feelings. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 You may have to put your feelings on the line if you are to gain the respect of someone important to you, Virgo. Although it may feel uncomfortable, forge ahead. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Libra, you and a relative or significant other clear a hurdle in your relationship. This may pave the way for a fruitful, happy relationship for years to come. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Scorpio, expect a lot of passion and adventure this week. Talk to your spouse or partner about the best way to make the most of this renewed vigor. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Celestial energy will rejuvenate and reenergize you, Sagittarius. Someone you meet may provide a spark that will benefit you greatly in the days ahead. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, inspirational forces are all around you, and they can help you make some tough decisions. Pay special attention to an overheard conversation that offers subtle clues. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Aquarius, a situation presents itself and you may need to act immediately. Don't delay and trust your instincts. The more quickly you respond, the more smoothly things will go. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Expect a few surprises in the coming days, Pisces. You can use the diversion, and this unexpected turn may reinvigorate your spirit.. Amy Alkon Chuck Sheppard Connecting Your Business to Cumberland County. 484-6200